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What's that brown liquid uh, sounds gross :-X

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 10, 2018, 02:26:12 pm »
Hmm let me Guess , unavailable is in terms of emotionally unavailable?

Good unavailable guys?? ???  There’s such a guy too? Sry can u pls shed some light?

That’s true. Physical hurt is more likely to happen than emotional hurt since he already knew what he was in for right from the start.

Yup but weird thing is why do I still care so much when the person has clearly let go and enjoying his new r/s?
Ultimately I still cannot let go, which I have to.
I only waste my own time and energy .

Good unavailable guys previously invested but lost the investment badly so rather go for no strings attached. Either being cheated on or something else
For e.g. knew of a person whose gf passed away and after that become like dat.

That's y I say life is short, cherish the time.
Not everyone live to the country average lifespan.
It's a wildcard  :-X

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 10, 2018, 05:20:04 am »
U mean which cat wouldn't eat fish? ???

Admittedly some married women jin yummy de ...

Like serina wee?
Strangely married men gives off less manly vibes... less attractive

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 10, 2018, 05:17:40 am »
that's true. Is foc and is offered to you.
No wonder they got together so soon.
i just hope he know what he's in for in case the hubby found out.
All i can do now is wish him all the best and letting this person go, which clearly im not there yet.

He is unavailable guy la.
Bad unavailable guy enjoys this type of lifestyle because it is minimal cost n maximal benefits.
Good unavailable guy dont invest in r/s anymore due to reasons.
Anyway both r unavailable. Haha.
U r hving the perception that he will be emotionally hurt.
I think there's higher Risk that he might be physically hurt.

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 11:27:51 pm »
haha but i always ask why do u want to dig your own graves by sending resumes to companies that clearly isn't your league ?
you know a part of me didn't let go fully is bcoz i still cared for that person.
Why on earth u pick a married woman ?
there is plenty of trees out in the forrest, why torture yourself?

I feel the same way as you , baiting with a hook without a bait. And things will unfold themselves when the time is right.

There's always a saying , fate might bring someone to you, but that someone is not your destiny.
But when you realised it , it's too late because you sunk too deep already.

Hmm I think he didn't pick her. She sort of hinted / made herself available for hookup and perhaps most guys wouldn't have rejected the chance to get laid given the girl looks decent and will not ask for commitment thereafter.

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 10:29:28 pm »
I don't like guys who cast net(s) also ..

To me , it seem like you don't know what you want in your life. So ficker-minded.

Well to them, no harm dating a few at the same time, then if one or two doesn't respond or click so well, he can cut loss and still got others. I guess they call this , don't put all your eggs in one basket? Or risk management ?

I think they handle it logically like sending resume to companies. But they should not mislead the company that they r only applying to one. After the company want to accept them den they sign with another lol.

I prefer the baiting with a hook but without bait. The person not rushing for relationship not trying to impress but naturally shines and somehow affinity pulls them tgt.

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 10:24:42 pm »
I think so long as they are being upfront that they are active on the dating scene and making it clear that they are dating several potential long term partners it should be okay bah? ???

Yeah I think they should inform instead of messaging sweet nothings daily and telling ppl not to go certain places because their mother there  ::) should let other party know they have other choice too and be light hearted in dealings instead of attempting to steal heart

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 07:59:59 pm »

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 04:08:26 pm »
Sobs sobs how can he do that? Pats pats.

But actually also thankfully that u didn’t date him for so Long .. imagine how much u had invested in before u realised he did smtg like this .. sry to say that he seem to want to step on 2 boats back then ?

Some told me a phrase , if it’s fated to be , then it will be yours. If not , then let it go. If it’s not yours , it will never be no matter what.

No la, I think some guys like to cast net de, like they chase a few den decide which one more suitable and receptive?
I don't like fishermen who cast net, I prefer those type who fish without a bait and still get the fish like 姜子牙 ;D :D

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 03:53:19 pm »
how old was he at that time?  .... but still I feel lah hor ... that he really too much to try and hide her from you even if you were being considered as his project ...

He was 20 I was still in jc.
He added me on social media a few years back, dunno y and I accepted coz curious. Abit surprised he still single.
Maybe like to date around?  ???

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 03:46:22 pm »
Yup worthless and not worthy of my time to think anymore.

Maybe i don't know how to let go , even i accepted things is what it is now.

oh , you met her before? hehe

i remember her advices back then , which was helpful in threads. That's all i rmb.

Life is short.
Love and support those who love and support and provide value to your life.
Those who do not provide any value and / or are toxic or non-constructive , either can break contact or if cannot break contact can treat them like transparent.
Tell them if got next life I free den entertain u  :-X

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 03:14:11 pm »
yeah .... sounds like lost in translation to me .....

who knows what might have happened if you had said "yes" at that time to him ....

oh wells .... coulda, woulda, shoulda ......

Actually luckily not tgt , abit of mismatch hurhur.

I figured guys always have a long lisft to go through lol. Not wooing one and only. Though they make u

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 09, 2018, 02:47:11 pm »
Tbh I confessed abt how I felt . And I got my answers . It wasn’t a one way street. Have asked common friends how they think , and they also think it wasn’t one way.
In some ways , he did hinted maybe there’s a future, but suddenly went MIA after he broke all his promises.
Clearly I wasn’t impt to him . But I didn’t saw it back then.

But well I have to accept that feeling change over time. What he used to feel , isn’t the same now.
There’s no need to think about all those memories anymore. Although yes they keep appearing . I got to Think of the present and like many have told me , love yourself which clearly I’m  still learning how to .

Maybe my misplaced feelings are why did I place him as a priority in my life when clearly he has been keeping his options open?
Maybe I blame myself too for being so silly to offer someone a place in my heart now.

Side track is @vanillaicecream I presume she is a lady , still here? She was active in fp days .

Once had a guy like dat too, confessed and ask me to be gf, as we only know each other for few weeks, and although I liked him already, I told him would prefer to know each other more before we get together who knows two more weeks later he got another gf.  :'( 8)
When I was younger I thought that he misunderstood my words so when he got together with the other girl I went to ask him Did he ever even like me then he said we were friends.

Den I thought back whenever we pass by certain shop he will tell me not to walk there as his mum work there and she is strict, doesn't allow him to date. After he got together with that girl did I realise that y he girl was working in that shop part time. Zzz.

She will quit again after getting success there.

All About Love / Re: What should I do now ?
« on: July 08, 2018, 05:09:12 am »
Is it really that easy or I’m missing something here?
I got the answers I was looking for. Or I shld say I killed all hopes that I thought it was there previously.
But he still linger at the back of my head.
And I often thought it was smtg that’s wrong with me that he chosen the other lady.

I know this is unhealthy, but I find it hard to stop.

I did try to keep myself occupied , get a new hobby. But that didn’t quite work out that well.

Do u mind enlighten me what else I could do , to totally let this person go ?

Hmm , maybe u r young that's y.

I have reach a point where I feel I kena nirvana-ed, I can accept anything that happens very fast because - the longer time one takes to accept reality (which they cannot change), the less time one has to enjoy themselves and do other constructive things.
If I were you I will either try to seduce him from the married woman and show him your worth (if u really Like him), or if it failed accept the fact that both can't be together and move on with other gd stuffs in life.

Because as u sit there n think n wonder, good things in the world passes u by.
V long time ago moi used to waste two years lingering on bad stuffs, after that I learnt never to waste time again. Because I realised I missed out golden ages.
Either u can chg your reality or you can accept it, the faster the better.
The more u want to forget someone the more you would remember someone. Perhaps you can think of him daily, think of all the gd in him and all the bad, construct a guy in your head who has his good and don't have his bad. Den find this type of guy in your life. This type of guy do exist and when u find him, u will still not forget the guy you are mentioning here. But u will thank him greatly for not being with you so that you meet the one. And you will be grateful for it.

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