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All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 20, 2018, 08:15:32 pm »
(1)   look at it this way,  if she had not gone on the Taiwan trip she wouldn't have cleared her head and made up her mind right? 

(2)   lesson learnt for you - money ie. paying for her accommodation doesn't solve the problem with relationships

I didn’t pay because I want her to consider our relationship. I didn’t use money to buy her feeling. In fact, I sponsor her because I want her to enjoy and be happy.

(3)  don't let a black sheep tar the whole lot.  each relationship is unique. you shouldn't carry the baggage from one relationship to another.  it is difficult but you must stop yourself from doing so and learn to trust again

it is okay to outgrow a relationship.  sometimes it takes a while to get there to realize that you weren't made for each other anymore.  I would like to think of it as a door closing and other doors opening elsewhere.  don't lose sight of the forest because of one tree.

make use of the time to better yourself,  take a course,  work harder at your career etc

Thanks your your advice.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 20, 2018, 06:08:41 am »
Recently she meet up with a guy he met in Taiwan during her solo trip.. After she came back this is where the she mention break up.. I don’t know could this also be possible her heart stray.. All I could say during her trip I was supportive of her and even pay for her accommodation.

I felt like my trust issue with a relationship has been tarnished and afraid of trusting in future.. which all the while during this relationship we do not have any trust issue and I trust her totally..

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 10, 2018, 11:46:38 am »
This doesn't sound like acts of service leh...

Define acts of service...

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 09, 2018, 03:34:31 pm »
Does she even like spending time with you? ???

Not so much.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 09, 2018, 10:35:36 am »
define "quality" time - what does she mean by that?  ???  it doesn't mean just spending time together .....

define "acts of service" - likewise,  what does that mean to her? ???

She would prefer to be happy whole day even doing anything simple.

Act of service - she would want me to plan everything and initiate everything. But sometimes I planned and she don’t like then just reject without giving me other option.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 09, 2018, 04:55:06 am »
Do you know what's your ex love language?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch

She belongs to 4 and 2.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 08, 2018, 06:50:38 pm »
Both of you are "solo" creatures it seems? ???

Lack or the dearth of communication seems to be the root. 

What is her dream?

Solo to certain extent?

I don’t know her dream. she don’t like to plan much and just follow the flow.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 08, 2018, 06:32:30 pm »
What kind of activities? ???

I think the issue will not be solved by doing more of the same.

Simple things like taking a walk and pouring out your heart and soul does better than watching more movies together. Save money on tickets and popcorn too

Activities such as prawning, cycling and etc.. Her character is more of watching dramas and reading books, while I'm more of exercise. Thus we have completely different hobbies.

Agree that taking a walk is good. If I have the chance again.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: May 08, 2018, 06:05:34 pm »
Is almost 6 months soon. I'm back with an undesirable outcome. She had initiated a breakup which I don't agree and tried ways to save it.

Break up reason mainly due to incompatible hobbies and interest, and communication issue. By communication I mean we don't talk much as stated in my previous post. I already tried my best to show concern to her but she just felt frustrated talking to me.

We still love each other, she just felt that since this problem has been there for so long and not improving, should break up early to prevent more heartache. I, otherwise feel that we should both make it work out by doing more activities.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: December 28, 2017, 12:57:25 pm »
If you want to be practical,  it is better to fly solo and be single ....

We was arranging for some CNY eve reunion dinner.. and we have to visit each other family to have dinner and build rapport. Of course time may crash so I suggested her ideas to work around.. but she asked why must go and not like married yet.. fyi she did attend last year. She is e one not willing to accommodate each other schedule and work together.. I’m just very dissappointed she think this way.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: December 26, 2017, 08:17:43 pm »
Are you usually quite "sticky" type. Like need to contact throughout the day everyday and night. But yet when it comes to dating activities you are clueless on where to bring her and require her input always.

Think maybe she is getting really bored and low investment.

Show some alpha traits lehhh.

Her love language probably not fulfilled and she has probably communicated to you before.

I’m definitely not those sticky type of guy. Having said I’m quite run out of dating ideas. Maybe old liao just wanna be practical.

What do you mean love language?

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: December 26, 2017, 07:45:05 pm »
You are in a lesbian relationship????

I’m a guy. I felt this forum is good to get what girl is thinking as there is more genuine ladies as compare to other forums.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: December 26, 2017, 07:44:01 pm »
Hmmm .... that she "cares" is an oxymoron if she doesn't give a rats arse on your concern that she is not communicative enough in the r/s right?

And even as she acknowledge that there is a problem, she attempts to do zilch to salvage? That is not caring,  that's indifference ...

As i have said to many gals on flowerpod - buying breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper everyday doesn't make a guy special or worth marrying.  A good fren can do the same.

I just told her my ex contacted me. She just “lol” without even asking me anything.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: December 24, 2017, 06:47:25 pm »
1 year n 4 months old relationship is a little too soon to run out of topics to talk about.

I think you have to go back to basics to try to rekindle those feelings.... if this r/s is worth salvaging.

What is in her that attracted you in the first place?

And hey, it is okay to move on too .... it is not a sin until you put your names on the ROM register. Some people are just not meant for each other.

Honestly the things that attract me is her shows care for me. I’m trying to improve e relationship. Hope it works.

Although we went for many oversea trips but we didn’t have any sexual advance. Which I feel that it is incomplete. I’m not sure which couple still practice his after marriage. But not for me.

All About Love / Re: What should I do?
« on: December 24, 2017, 05:56:10 pm »

so she likes you to make exciting plans for the weekend? ???

instead of asking her - "where you wanna go this weekend ?" ???

ask her - "guess which exciting place i'm gonna take you this weekend?" :-*

then quickly call and book the first place she guesses .....

I learn this from EDMW forum de ..... 8)

I always asked her and her reply is always don’t know. Sometimes I’m a bit tired of this.

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