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Chit Chat Corner / Re: Love scam
« on: November 19, 2019, 08:01:17 pm »
Dunno what the doxxing rule comprises but don't think you can get your money back... There's only a few ways... Trick or threaten

Trick him to come out, since he's a greedy person, tell him after many days of chasing him you have thought it clear, u still in love with him and you want to help him more and you still have more savings to loan him and you are smitten can't get over him at all, don't mind eloping with him, give him some bait to come out.. this time make sure there's no money involved and you are able to know all of his full personal details and addresses and place of employment ,better still his wife full name and employment place or his mother and father, best is get access to his phone even and screenshot down all his scamming chats and send to your own phone number / email. I don't think the name he give you is even his real name.

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You mean confirmatory bias? ???


In your case,  only hear the bad stuff?  :-\

If I don't trust ppl,I only select situations where they are untrustworthy to judge...I can't see the white paper I'm wondering why is there a black spot. If there's a black spot it's not a white paper.
So far I only hv a few white papers in life, also white paper which has black spot which I hv chased away but refused to leave until it became white again.

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without knowing specific details, i can't advise too much. hopefully this article can shed some light :)

http://www.leemcking.sg/blog/why-do-my-problems-get-bigger-and-bigger/

I know it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
I already believe in something therefore I cherry pick all evidence to support it.
Not many can break into this shell.

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Chit Chat Corner / Re: What do you do when you are heartbroken
« on: November 17, 2019, 10:17:35 pm »

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Chit Chat Corner / Re: What do you do when you are heartbroken
« on: November 17, 2019, 10:17:06 pm »
Important thing is don't become a crazy cat lady....  :-*

Y cats, y not dogs  ???
Married so doesn't fit the stereotype either haha

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Chit Chat Corner / Re: What do you do when you are heartbroken
« on: November 17, 2019, 02:17:35 pm »
so you don't have the issue anymore? that's good :)

Realised that losing someone who doesn't have my back , is a gain. Life becomes more peaceful.
Memories since childhood are redundant , new ppl I met are better than old friend who stay half - assedly. If I experience another , I won't hesitate to cut off , because I have my own back . I don't need someone who puts me down . Supportive ppl are welcome, non-supportive but neutral stay out the door, non-supportive + jealous stays outside the gate. It's a good sign that I outgrow people and get redirect to like-minded people who are positve and focus on growth not on gossips and complain daily.

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How is it that the guy thought it was appropriate or thought he wouldn't get caught.  ??? Or he thought the woman wanted it.  ::)

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Chit Chat Corner / Re: Guy interacts with everyone except me
« on: November 15, 2019, 08:39:46 pm »
Lack of respect when a person speaks to the group and lack of respect for another's personal space.

Sounds like otaku or hikikomori alert ...

Makes me wonder @gouki2017 do you do this?

This seems like a continuation thread from last time gouki thread of why girls always avoid him...

Because you treat them like a piece of rock  ;D ;D ;D

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There's nth wrong being old and single but there's something wrong if besides being old n single they'd like to encourage people to divorce

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Chit Chat Corner / Re: Guy interacts with everyone except me
« on: November 15, 2019, 01:23:01 pm »
I have a similar situation where guy acknowledges and talks to everyone except me,unless we are in 1-1 situation. When facing him directly he avoids eye contact. But when I'm back facing him he taps on my waist to get me out of the way or hover behind me leaving little gap to shift some stuffs which is of no urgency.
Feel like a piece of rock or furniture to him. Probably a case of misogynist.

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Chit Chat Corner / Re: Love scam
« on: November 14, 2019, 10:33:00 pm »
Beaverjuice

Met him on okcupid. He deleted his okcupid, FB & IG accounts. He refused to give his ic number or collateral. That y I reported to police as a scam. But police dont take it as scam ..  :'(
I asked the police "must it be the case of another few more pple reporting about him? Then the police take action ?!?" Police cant answer me.

Don knw what else can I do. Cant let him get away with this. He might just repeat the same actions on others

In other words you are female???

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Actually now thinking about it, if one is doing it tactfully and not showing the intention of trying to get to know her first it might not be impossible isn't it?

Like for example patronise the shop frequent enough and try to leave a positive and deep impression on her and proceed from there?

I don't know how they do it leh , but if I were a guy I will show her I'm interested and find an excuse to get her number?

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Not sure if you understand what I am saying  :-\

In any case, don't beat yourself up over it.

As VIC used to say,  never make anyone a priority if you're just another option to them.  The same goes with your dealings in any relationship work-wise or social-wise.

The darkness closing in around you?  That's because you are allowing your own spark to dim.

I nv allow my own spark to dim just that those who were busy judging and throwing shades when I was at my lowest (instead of being neutral or being supportivre) I stuck around long enuff (few years) to see them in difficult times and gave final kicks by rubbing salt and adding fire it felt very gd instantly but I feel bad and should stop doing that's y I'm avoiding ppl. A person must get a taste of their own medicine to learn but I feel bad feeding that. My mental notebook still hv a few names and I'm not sure if I should assume my new identity of being a vindictive person or go back to being a gd person with resentment.

And you know even an animal emotionally supports me thru my journey, even a stranger who believes in me, even someone I met for few weeks to few months, and these decade old friends I'm speechless. If they didn't trigger me still ok, they trigger me to wear the cape of karma to help karma do it's work by demanding from me and blaming me for not contributing. Therefore, I sinisterly contributed what they gave me.

Woah now u r Vic representative haha
I wonder how is she doing now, can imagine her have kids Liao and living gd taitai life.

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Don't over-analyse things.  Events conspire not for any reason and least of all against you.

 :-* :-* :-*

Yeah my mind should stop thinking  :-X

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can consider hypnosis to resolve the bad stuff first

I've had a lady with anger issues until she got a stroke. then her entire half body in constant pain. western and eastern medicine didn't help. saw me for one session to release her anger. her pain also went away.

I don't know what triggered this rage but been avoiding ppl I know in order not to spoil relations bcz I recently spoilt one it's irreversible.
It's got to do with ppl are too much and instead of starting from a clean slate I got the person responsible for past ppl who hurt me too. It's a constant state of overreaction. I need to protect myself and send ppl off because I don't owe them a living , don't owe them money, they're not contributing to me, have never contributed at all and yet are demanding of me. I don't hv personal obligation toward them to help them. TBH if I don't meet ppl at all, there won't be any meltdowns. If they weren't with me at my lowest then they shouldn't be asking for anythg when I'm gd. Nowadays I rather help animals at shelters

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