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My hubby is a sex pervert!
« on: June 20, 2016, 06:08:01 pm »
Dear all,

I am in the 40s and have been happily married for the past decade. Ok, mostly happy until the past 12 months, where I have been quarrelling with my hubby over sex.
at first i dont understand where he suddenly get so many weird and dirty requests, then eventually i found out that he has been surfing a dirty singapore sex forum! :(
i quarrelled with him badly that day, in fact its been about 6 months from that time I caught his browser history.

he is a very nice guy, work hard in a government agency and come home for dinner every day. he is shy guy, loves to read in his free time. his happiest day was when i gave him a kindle.
however about 12 months ago, he start asking me to wear sexily, and i was annoyed but i thought maybe because he started surfing qoo10 shopping and found all those scantily lingeries.
at first i thought nothing of it, until he actually bought some very revealing lingeries for me!
I was shocked when the parcel arrives, and that was our first quarrel.
he wanted me to wear it for him and of course i refuse, i am his wife!!

in the end, i did wear it for him at a birthday but it was so weird, i feel so ashamed of myself.
then he start asking us to try different positions in sex, and it was "doggy" and that was one quarrel too. what is wrong with missionary? Sometimes i do woman on top too, although it was weird that I am on him. he is a man and should be on him. doggy i feel so animal and humiliated. i thought i had pleased him and then he started asking for standing position, that was when the quarrels started more fierce. i stood my ground because when is it going to end?  already gave him his doggy and he asking for more? what is next? next time he will be asking for bathroom sex!

In fact, i was right!! he started asking me to put my mouth over it and give him oral sex or blow job.
It was really really gross!!
that is where he urines and he wants me to put in my mouth! eeeek.
i am a mother of two, and he wants me to put that thing in his mouth, i feel that that is disgusting, he insists its normal, but we never done it for the past decade why he suddenly ask. Does he think of me as a porn girl? I am not a whore, how could he demand me to blow him?

i really get very angry thinking he got all these ideas surfing those men forums! so i found this forum and look around for other sex topics and see if there are other married women with the same problems.
can give me some solutions? how do i stop him becoming a sex pervert?
i wish he can go back to the older days and we can go out and eat and stroll at the beaches and visit libraries together instead of him buying new lingeries and keep asking me to wear this wear that for him. its very annoying he bought so many different colours like i am working in gelyang!

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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #1 on: June 20, 2016, 06:11:46 pm »
So you're okay for him to visit Geylang? ???

BTW - pls define "pervert" ....

Was he very happy after you gave in and wore the sexy lingerie? ???
« Last Edit: June 20, 2016, 06:14:59 pm by beaverjuice »
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #2 on: June 20, 2016, 07:07:24 pm »
I was expecting to read some pervertic stuffs ...
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #3 on: June 20, 2016, 10:23:39 pm »
I was expecting to read some pervertic stuffs ...

I think for some women, they only go for "missionary" position nia .... so everthing else is pervertic bah? ???

anyway why they call it "missionary" arhhhh? ??? really give missionaries a bad name .... i'm sure they know many patterns and stick-to-wall techniques bah? ???
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2016, 02:38:28 am »
I think for some women, they only go for "missionary" position nia .... so everthing else is pervertic bah? ???

anyway why they call it "missionary" arhhhh? ??? really give missionaries a bad name .... i'm sure they know many patterns and stick-to-wall techniques bah? ???

maybe he is a guy baiting for ladies to share their intimate experience?

or maybe she is a lady who doesn't like intimacy.
or maybe she is a lady who likes intimacy but there is some underlying r/s problem.

I thought pervert is incest / 3-4 some / orgy
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #5 on: June 21, 2016, 07:59:56 am »
maybe he is a guy baiting for ladies to share their intimate experience?

or maybe she is a lady who doesn't like intimacy.
or maybe she is a lady who likes intimacy but there is some underlying r/s problem.

I thought pervert is incest / 3-4 some / orgy

hmmmmm ..... anyway since the hubby buy all those sexy lingerie in all manner of colours which she has no use for,  maybe she can sell them on Qoo10/Carousell/Lazada bah? ???

can make some 私房钱...... 8)

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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #6 on: June 21, 2016, 09:32:59 am »
at least he nvr go visit hooker. these "dirty" forum if not wrong according to uncle BJ got intrd guy to hooker de. if really dun like hubby to surf these forum dun like the current best solution is to had a heart to heart talk. communication is the best solution

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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #7 on: June 21, 2016, 11:02:22 am »
at least he nvr go visit hooker. these "dirty" forum if not wrong according to uncle BJ got intrd guy to hooker de. if really dun like hubby to surf these forum dun like the current best solution is to had a heart to heart talk. communication is the best solution

 :o woei ! woei ! woei ! ..... I never visit those "dirty" forums de horrrrrhhh !!!!  >:(

my reputation here on PB very important de ....  :'(
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #8 on: June 21, 2016, 02:33:26 pm »
at least your the object of his fantasies. there could be many more scenarios...

get him to run a number of errands b4 u fulfil one request. let him know the type of lingeries u prefer etc. probably the ones he buy doesn't suit ur taste.
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« Reply #9 on: June 21, 2016, 02:35:00 pm »
hmmmmm ..... anyway since the hubby buy all those sexy lingerie in all manner of colours which she has no use for,  maybe she can sell them on Qoo10/Carousell/Lazada bah? ???

can make some 私房钱...... 8)

I heard dat preloved ones sell for higher.

just kidding  8)
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #10 on: June 21, 2016, 03:34:48 pm »
I heard dat preloved ones sell for higher.

just kidding  8)

Maybe even bid for them ....  ;D
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #11 on: June 23, 2016, 02:44:03 pm »
So you're okay for him to visit Geylang? ???
BTW - pls define "pervert" ....
Was he very happy after you gave in and wore the sexy lingerie? ???
NO! im not ok for him to visit Geylang!!

i wore but im not happy  :-[

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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #12 on: June 23, 2016, 02:45:40 pm »
at least he nvr go visit hooker. these "dirty" forum if not wrong according to uncle BJ got intrd guy to hooker de. if really dun like hubby to surf these forum dun like the current best solution is to had a heart to heart talk. communication is the best solution

i talked to him, but he just want to increase all these sexiness.
i dont get it. he has been so guai and nice the past years, why suddenly want so much sex?
we were v content earlier with earlier sex and missionairy position, why he wants so much.  :-[

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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #13 on: June 23, 2016, 02:58:52 pm »
NO! im not ok for him to visit Geylang!!

i wore but im not happy  :-[

okay - so you'd rather he keep his so-called "perversions" within your bedroom right?

even if wearing those lingerie did make you feel "cheap" like a whore,  don't you think that spicing up the marriage would be good for both of you?  and in any case,  at least he has made known his preference to you ......

if you're not happy with the style of those lingerie - maybe you can suggest to him that you buy them instead and wear them to surprise him?  ..... that way you get to choose the types that you like .....

ps:  avoid those granny-styles that you buy from the pasar malam - that'll will surely kill his libido and drive him to geylang .....
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Re: My hubby is a sex pervert!
« Reply #14 on: June 23, 2016, 03:00:26 pm »
So u want him to repress his fantasies and then one fine day find someone to replace u?  ???

Seriously, being a mother of 2 doesn't mean that you are his wife first and foremost.

Talk to him and try to have an open mind, and try to meet at some middle ground. There are many reasons why he is suddenly so much more interested in these things.