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2 years after I started work in 2006, one of my co-worker who was rather inquisitive (and intruding my personal bubble a lot with her questions) told me about a lady friend of hers.

She says that this gal friend of hers struggled to find a good man to get married. Her gal friend have very simple wants, which is what puzzled herself why its so tough to find the right man.

She just want her man to:

Make $4000/mth
Drives a simple car
Lives in a condominium
My Co-worker was befuddled because in the realm of “simple requirements” that does not border on simple.

I was more concern that I would not be able to find any mate in Singapore at that point then debate whether that is a simple requirement or not.

What can be a key to building your wealth is how little you need to keep you satisfied. If you do that, philosophically, you actually want something more, which is financial security.

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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2016, 06:16:34 pm »
I think "simple" car means Mini Cooper right?  :P
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #2 on: December 13, 2016, 01:02:43 pm »
I think "simple" car means Mini Cooper right?  :P

i doubt so!
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #3 on: December 15, 2016, 06:14:12 pm »
maybe your co-worker cooked up a fictitious lady friend to test waters ......  :-X

trickiieeeeeeeeeeee ....... trickieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ...... :P
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #4 on: December 16, 2016, 06:46:55 pm »
maybe your co-worker cooked up a fictitious lady friend to test waters ......  :-X

trickiieeeeeeeeeeee ....... trickieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ...... :P

not possible she had a bf when she met me.
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #5 on: December 24, 2016, 01:44:52 pm »
it's all abt 门当户对.
if the gal is rich family bkgrd. can't expect her to leave her family for a poor man.

and if the gal mentioned is rich. that kinda expectation is considered low.

so it's really about different culture instead of "pretending" to want very little. To her is very little. maybe she had a lot to begin with.

n if to a poor girl that is a lot. it's also not pretending coz to her that's a lot.

which is why ppl of different culture / social standing don't mingle well. to you they're acting. and to them you're acting as well.
« Last Edit: December 24, 2016, 01:53:02 pm by happyshar »
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #6 on: December 25, 2016, 06:12:36 pm »
it's all abt 门当户对.
if the gal is rich family bkgrd. can't expect her to leave her family for a poor man.

and if the gal mentioned is rich. that kinda expectation is considered low.

so it's really about different culture instead of "pretending" to want very little. To her is very little. maybe she had a lot to begin with.

n if to a poor girl that is a lot. it's also not pretending coz to her that's a lot.

which is why ppl of different culture / social standing don't mingle well. to you they're acting. and to them you're acting as well.

I think @kyith is talking about low or high maintenance bah? ???

some people just need to keep up with appearances or their friends. some can't be bothered, different measures of success or value systems.

being comfortable with what you have or putting effort or time towards what matters to self rather than others, whilst coming to terms or resolving internal cognitive dissonance with societal pressures of materialism and yardstick.

Agree with cutting one's clothes according to the quality of one's cloth and walking in the right social circles ...
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #7 on: February 02, 2017, 08:40:11 pm »
I think @kyith is talking about low or high maintenance bah? ???

some people just need to keep up with appearances or their friends. some can't be bothered, different measures of success or value systems.

being comfortable with what you have or putting effort or time towards what matters to self rather than others, whilst coming to terms or resolving internal cognitive dissonance with societal pressures of materialism and yardstick.

Agree with cutting one's clothes according to the quality of one's cloth and walking in the right social circles ...

think she is not wrong there. maintenance is a function of your experiences. and not wanting a lot for some people is wanting a lot. some folks are so rich they could be rather disconnected with reality
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #8 on: February 02, 2017, 10:34:18 pm »
think she is not wrong there. maintenance is a function of your experiences. and not wanting a lot for some people is wanting a lot. some folks are so rich they could be rather disconnected with reality

But technically you can't blame them for being what you called 'disconnected' what. Being in a rich environment is their reality. Imagine they live all their life in a bungalow, hang out with friends which live in terrace house and Condos. It is only natural that they would think that having a condo is the minimal expectation they could have.

So I think that friend should go to diff condo pool and pick up the opp gender  :P
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« Reply #9 on: February 02, 2017, 11:15:27 pm »
Yup. I like to hang around condo pools whenever i can ... :-*
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #10 on: February 03, 2017, 06:33:57 am »
But technically you can't blame them for being what you called 'disconnected' what. Being in a rich environment is their reality. Imagine they live all their life in a bungalow, hang out with friends which live in terrace house and Condos. It is only natural that they would think that having a condo is the minimal expectation they could have.

So I think that friend should go to diff condo pool and pick up the opp gender  :P

ding ding ding! i think the problem have been where she finds fertile hunting ground really
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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #11 on: February 03, 2017, 04:15:04 pm »
ding ding ding! i think the problem have been where she finds fertile hunting ground really

Why don't you go with her, maybe you can hunt a rich prey yourself too  ;D

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« Reply #12 on: April 11, 2017, 07:11:38 pm »
Why don't you go with her, maybe you can hunt a rich prey yourself too  ;D
Well, my opinion is that girl or woman never should expect smth from her potential man. I mean who you are to make some barriers for men? Are they worse than you? The primary question in woman's head should sound like "What I can give to my man? Am I worth all this stuff?" I ordered nice essay from Handmade Writings about it and they were awesome! I believe, that only then our society can be more healthy. Peace. :-*

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Re: The Truth about “Not Wanting A Lot” and its Impact to your Wealth
« Reply #13 on: April 12, 2017, 12:09:11 pm »
"ask not what a man can do for you but what you can do for your man ! " .....

that should be the mantra for all chicks .... 8)
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