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PIL during wedding planning
« on: November 11, 2015, 09:22:48 am »
Does anyone finds it extremely difficult to plan your wedding cause its extremely difficult to handle the parent in laws? come come share story and how you deal with it?

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2015, 01:00:08 pm »
not really... mine is plan by my spouse & my family... i only told them i want it as simple as possible. dun expect me to follow traditional stuffs, e.g need to wake up at freaking 4am to do make up.. if i'm not happy, i will cancel the whole thing...

so everything is quite simplified and i just appear on the actual day :)

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2015, 01:39:04 pm »
not really... mine is plan by my spouse & my family... i only told them i want it as simple as possible. dun expect me to follow traditional stuffs, e.g need to wake up at freaking 4am to do make up.. if i'm not happy, i will cancel the whole thing...

so everything is quite simplified and i just appear on the actual day :)

wah wouldnt they get damn unhappy with you for this???

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2015, 01:44:02 pm »
wah wouldnt they get damn unhappy with you for this???

they can ask their son not to marry me.. all along they know (actually everyone knows) i'm not interested in marriage.. and all those traditional stuffs are bullshits because if it's work, there wun be any divorce or unhappy marriage for all the chinese.. but we all know it isn't true...

but the thing is i don't mind don't get marry... but my spouse want it... this is my bargaining chip...

even my own family i also told them the same thing, dun piss me off, if not i will cancel the whole thing. but my parents want me to get marry, so they close one eye open one eye...


wedding dinner i also never invite my friends nor colleagues, only my family who plan it with my spouse... my boss keep asking me why i never invite him, i just tell him straight in his face "why must i invite him? he didn't help out in my wedding and my marriage also none of his business"
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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2015, 01:24:25 pm »
they can ask their son not to marry me.. all along they know (actually everyone knows) i'm not interested in marriage.. and all those traditional stuffs are bullshits because if it's work, there wun be any divorce or unhappy marriage for all the chinese.. but we all know it isn't true...

but the thing is i don't mind don't get marry... but my spouse want it... this is my bargaining chip...

even my own family i also told them the same thing, dun piss me off, if not i will cancel the whole thing. but my parents want me to get marry, so they close one eye open one eye...


wedding dinner i also never invite my friends nor colleagues, only my family who plan it with my spouse... my boss keep asking me why i never invite him, i just tell him straight in his face "why must i invite him? he didn't help out in my wedding and my marriage also none of his business"

wah! all i can say is that you are darn brave.

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #5 on: November 15, 2015, 07:59:12 am »
my wedding...was planned by my ex hub and his mum.

and then shortly after the wedding I left him.  8)

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #6 on: November 15, 2015, 08:11:07 am »
they can ask their son not to marry me.. all along they know (actually everyone knows) i'm not interested in marriage.. and all those traditional stuffs are bullshits because if it's work, there wun be any divorce or unhappy marriage for all the chinese.. but we all know it isn't true...

but the thing is i don't mind don't get marry... but my spouse want it... this is my bargaining chip...

even my own family i also told them the same thing, dun piss me off, if not i will cancel the whole thing. but my parents want me to get marry, so they close one eye open one eye...


wedding dinner i also never invite my friends nor colleagues, only my family who plan it with my spouse... my boss keep asking me why i never invite him, i just tell him straight in his face "why must i invite him? he didn't help out in my wedding and my marriage also none of his business"

I applaud you  for breaking the norm ;D . Often , the ones that stand to gain the most from a traditional isn't the couple themselves .
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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #7 on: November 15, 2015, 09:15:14 am »
my wedding...was planned by my ex hub and his mum.

and then shortly after the wedding I left him.  8)

"Revenge is a dish best served cold" 😵
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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #8 on: November 15, 2015, 11:06:34 am »
my wedding...was planned by my ex hub and his mum.

and then shortly after the wedding I left him.  8)

 :o :o :o

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #9 on: November 15, 2015, 11:23:39 am »
"Revenge is a dish best served cold" 😵

Really planing stage can see what type of person he is. Everything also side his mum. And everything listen to his mum. :( doesn't communicate with me.

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #10 on: November 15, 2015, 11:24:19 am »
:o :o :o

Already Rom Liao. So I keep giving in. If haven't rom I sure don't go ahead.

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #11 on: November 15, 2015, 01:26:55 pm »
Already Rom Liao. So I keep giving in. If haven't rom I sure don't go ahead.

Oic. So, you rom first before the wedding banquet thingy?

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #12 on: November 15, 2015, 05:29:09 pm »
Already Rom Liao. So I keep giving in. If haven't rom I sure don't go ahead.

Errrrmmm .... but wouldn't you have saved yourself and him a bunch of trouble and headache by terminating plans for the wedding banquet ... :-\
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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #13 on: November 15, 2015, 09:57:04 pm »
Oic. So, you rom first before the wedding banquet thingy?

Yup like almost one year before the dinner.

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Re: PIL during wedding planning
« Reply #14 on: November 15, 2015, 09:58:04 pm »
Errrrmmm .... but wouldn't you have saved yourself and him a bunch of trouble and headache by terminating plans for the wedding banquet ... :-\

Everything paid Liao. Gonna lose a lot if suddenly call off. :( plus at that time I keep thinking since already decided to marry then jus give in lo coz it's jus a wedding right? But I'm so wrong.