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How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« on: October 20, 2015, 06:14:56 pm »
Is there a minimum for dowry?
Is there a minimum amount to be spent on proposal/wedding rings? I heard the "standard" is 2-3 months of the bf's salary. Is that true?


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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #1 on: October 21, 2015, 09:06:18 am »
There should be as minimum as possible. While it is good to look good,sometimes, one would need to step back and think, the more he spend on wedding, the lesser he spend on the future home

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #2 on: October 21, 2015, 09:33:14 am »
for what dig ur bf dry, ask him spend this spend that. end up he might get debt. End up who suffer from these debt. You yourself.

As long as he got heart can alrdy.

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #3 on: October 21, 2015, 12:59:15 pm »
i thought this is up to the elders to decide?? didnt know there is a minium too.
Losing faith


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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #4 on: October 21, 2015, 01:14:55 pm »
i thought this is up to the elders to decide?? didnt know there is a minium too.

if it these traditional  elder, yes it is up to them to decide but now seldom got elder will wan to dig $$ from the couple la.


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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #5 on: October 21, 2015, 01:33:45 pm »
I usually heard is if parents are wealthy the dowry is quite big.. the son/son-in-law dun need worry.. ;D

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #6 on: October 21, 2015, 01:45:15 pm »
I usually heard is if parents are wealthy the dowry is quite big.. the son/son-in-law dun need worry.. ;D

later the guy side need to pay a lot of thing too. Cos if girl is rich, normally parent will not wan them marry dwn

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #7 on: October 21, 2015, 01:51:11 pm »
Do you think it's easy to control a rich family's daughter? ;D

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #8 on: October 21, 2015, 02:56:19 pm »
Do you think it's easy to control a rich family's daughter? ;D
that we had to ask Vanness Wu

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #9 on: October 21, 2015, 05:50:11 pm »
From what i gathered, some girls "expect" their in-laws to give expensive jewelry or rolex watch etc. Some girls' parents "expect" to receive at least sgd10k from the guy's side.
Their thinking is that, their daughter is married to another family. If the guy's family gives lotsa dowry, that means they "treasure" the girl a lot.

But hor, i heard of cases whereby some weddings are called off coz of the dowry! 😱

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #10 on: October 21, 2015, 05:52:49 pm »
From what i gathered, some girls "expect" their in-laws to give expensive jewelry or rolex watch etc. Some girls' parents "expect" to receive at least sgd10k from the guy's side.
Their thinking is that, their daughter is married to another family. If the guy's family gives lotsa dowry, that means they "treasure" the girl a lot.

But hor, i heard of cases whereby some weddings are called off coz of the dowry! 😱

if in-laws no money... end up also the son give. what's the point of bankrupting your to-be husband?

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #11 on: October 21, 2015, 06:25:33 pm »
heh.. if marriage these days can be stopped by dowry... not made in singapore ::)

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #12 on: October 21, 2015, 07:31:48 pm »
I heard that a girl's mum requested 30k and the guy's family is very buay song and negotiated the amount to the point that they almost call off thw wedding coz the girl's mum insisted. Eventually, they got married but the mil dislikes the girl from then on...

Some girls' parents asked for 8k dowry but returned 7k. To them, its just a formality. But there are some whom asked for 10k and never returned a single cent. 😅

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #13 on: October 26, 2015, 09:32:46 am »
From what i gathered, some girls "expect" their in-laws to give expensive jewelry or rolex watch etc. Some girls' parents "expect" to receive at least sgd10k from the guy's side.
Their thinking is that, their daughter is married to another family. If the guy's family gives lotsa dowry, that means they "treasure" the girl a lot.

But hor, i heard of cases whereby some weddings are called off coz of the dowry! 😱

than will be in PRC land, SG no such thing. Cos we got BTO cannot anyhow call off wedding

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Re: How much dowry do you expect from your in-laws?
« Reply #14 on: October 26, 2015, 10:34:10 am »
than will be in PRC land, SG no such thing. Cos we got BTO cannot anyhow call off wedding

in SG... BTO more binding than engagement ring.  ;D