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How do you get your husbands to help out?
« on: October 16, 2015, 09:07:01 pm »
How do you get your husbands to help out around the house?

I feel that my husband should be helping out more so that I don't have to be responsible for all the household chores. He used to wash the dishes every now and then but now it's like twice in a month. I know that if I ask him to do something, he does it but I feel that I am nagging by always asking him to take the trash out etc.

I wish I can get him to OWN some chores so that I don't have to worry about them. For example, He forgot to throw the trash last week and when I told him that he had forgotten, he replied saying it because I didn't ask him to!  The trash was sitting there right at the door la... >:(

So, any ideas on how I should talk to him to without making him all upset?

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #1 on: October 16, 2015, 09:13:55 pm »
For me I do housework cos I take ownership. In the army I heck care the area cleaning cos none of the cupboards beds etc are mine. However, my house or my GF house everything belongs to us, so I want to care for its condition etc.

That was when I realise I have a little of OCD and only when it is mine or when I take charge do I care about the condition and cleanliness.

Try to convince your hubby to take charge/ownership lo. If plates don't clear = will have pest and smell. Not cleaning house means dusty means good luck for spring cleaning. You can also say that you have a "bad back" or "allergy to dust" etc  ;D
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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #2 on: October 16, 2015, 09:20:17 pm »
I don't know how to bring it up without him getting offended or feeling maligned because I know he feels he has been very helpful.

Doesn't help when I read Facebook and my friends posting about how much their husbands chip in...

How often do you clean?

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #3 on: October 16, 2015, 09:23:55 pm »
I don't know how to bring it up without him getting offended or feeling maligned because I know he feels he has been very helpful.

Doesn't help when I read Facebook and my friends posting about how much their husbands chip in...

How often do you clean?

My house once a week a thorough vacuum/mop. If mum cook help wash dishes. Laundry if I free I hang if not parents hang.

GF side ad hoc lo. "Sergeant" say what I just orh lo  ;D
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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #4 on: October 16, 2015, 09:25:04 pm »
I don't know how to bring it up without him getting offended or feeling maligned because I know he feels he has been very helpful.

Doesn't help when I read Facebook and my friends posting about how much their husbands chip in...

How often do you clean?

Does he give excuses like "you are better at it"?

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #5 on: October 16, 2015, 09:25:33 pm »
Does he give excuses like "you are better at it"?

That's a smart move!  ;D
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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #6 on: October 16, 2015, 09:25:40 pm »
I had contribute to household so he has to help to do household

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #7 on: October 16, 2015, 09:27:38 pm »
Does he give excuses like "you are better at it"?

No leh. He somemore complains the dishes not clean lor.... But still never take over.

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #8 on: October 16, 2015, 09:31:09 pm »
For me, I do most of the housework and I don't really mind.

My husband is the type that plays hard but works hard too. He often spends lots of time thinking about how to bring more money in and even spent his entire postgrad life working and studying full-time! Even squeezed out time to help out at home and with the kids.

Sometimes, I wish I could help him more in some ways but its not easy. So I do my best with the house and kids.

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #9 on: October 16, 2015, 09:41:47 pm »
It's not about getting him to do more but to get him to own some chores. It doesn't take much time to just bring out the trash without me having to say something all the time..

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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #10 on: October 16, 2015, 11:43:11 pm »
Do you all work on wkend?

If not, maybe you can suggest to him that every wkend we shall do household chores together like example he vaccuum, you mop and vice-versa.

On wkdays I can't really be bothered to tell him off, cause we're both tired from work. If he doesn't do it, I'll just do it. I don't really like to have a dirty / messy environment.
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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #11 on: October 17, 2015, 04:55:52 am »
Well, he will say I am ok with the mess. If u aren't ok, u clean lor.
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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #12 on: October 17, 2015, 05:08:30 am »
Another thing is that if he doesn't help clean up, its ok but at the very least don't add to the mess.

He throws his trash everywhere but in the dustbin so we have crushed receipts, snickers wrappers etc on the cabinet or table. If he finishes the last snickers, he also won't throw the bag away so the cupboard got a lot of empty snack bags.

Just yesterday after he ate his cup noodle he just left the stuff on the table la. The dustbin is just below that same table lor...

If I make noise he will say I give him stress.... Huh am I being too much?


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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #13 on: October 17, 2015, 08:31:44 am »
Another thing is that if he doesn't help clean up, its ok but at the very least don't add to the mess.

He throws his trash everywhere but in the dustbin so we have crushed receipts, snickers wrappers etc on the cabinet or table. If he finishes the last snickers, he also won't throw the bag away so the cupboard got a lot of empty snack bags.

Just yesterday after he ate his cup noodle he just left the stuff on the table la. The dustbin is just below that same table lor...

If I make noise he will say I give him stress.... Huh am I being too much?

My hub is the same pattern as well - but thankfully he didn't leave his cup noodle on the table. Phew. Both of us hate having ants crawling all over the house so all food related trash will go into dustbin to minimize the invasion.

So for those non food related trash, I'll clear it whenever I sees it. Can't stand that mess.

Mmm I think both of you should really sit down to have a talk, have a mutual understanding on cleanliness of own house ba?
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Re: How do you get your husbands to help out?
« Reply #14 on: October 17, 2015, 07:33:59 pm »
Thanks piggish. It helps to just rant once in a while...

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