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What are some activities for healing?
Where are some peaceful places to go?
Where to restore faith in humanity?

Tried volunteer work and met kind and compassionate ppl, but felt worse on and off because if only I met one of these ppl in the early stage of my life.

Anything gd reminds me of sth bad, and anythg bad reminds me of sth bad.
Dunno where to seek solace.
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What are some activities for healing?
Where are some peaceful places to go?
Where to restore faith in humanity?

Tried volunteer work and met kind and compassionate ppl, but felt worse on and off because if only I met one of these ppl in the early stage of my life.

Anything gd reminds me of sth bad, and anythg bad reminds me of sth bad.
Dunno where to seek solace.

can consider hypnosis to resolve the bad stuff first

I've had a lady with anger issues until she got a stroke. then her entire half body in constant pain. western and eastern medicine didn't help. saw me for one session to release her anger. her pain also went away.

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can consider hypnosis to resolve the bad stuff first

I've had a lady with anger issues until she got a stroke. then her entire half body in constant pain. western and eastern medicine didn't help. saw me for one session to release her anger. her pain also went away.

I don't know what triggered this rage but been avoiding ppl I know in order not to spoil relations bcz I recently spoilt one it's irreversible.
It's got to do with ppl are too much and instead of starting from a clean slate I got the person responsible for past ppl who hurt me too. It's a constant state of overreaction. I need to protect myself and send ppl off because I don't owe them a living , don't owe them money, they're not contributing to me, have never contributed at all and yet are demanding of me. I don't hv personal obligation toward them to help them. TBH if I don't meet ppl at all, there won't be any meltdowns. If they weren't with me at my lowest then they shouldn't be asking for anythg when I'm gd. Nowadays I rather help animals at shelters
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Don't over-analyse things.  Events conspire not for any reason and least of all against you.

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Don't over-analyse things.  Events conspire not for any reason and least of all against you.

 :-* :-* :-*

Yeah my mind should stop thinking  :-X
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Yeah my mind should stop thinking  :-X

Not sure if you understand what I am saying  :-\

In any case, don't beat yourself up over it.

As VIC used to say,  never make anyone a priority if you're just another option to them.  The same goes with your dealings in any relationship work-wise or social-wise.

The darkness closing in around you?  That's because you are allowing your own spark to dim.
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Not sure if you understand what I am saying  :-\

In any case, don't beat yourself up over it.

As VIC used to say,  never make anyone a priority if you're just another option to them.  The same goes with your dealings in any relationship work-wise or social-wise.

The darkness closing in around you?  That's because you are allowing your own spark to dim.

I nv allow my own spark to dim just that those who were busy judging and throwing shades when I was at my lowest (instead of being neutral or being supportivre) I stuck around long enuff (few years) to see them in difficult times and gave final kicks by rubbing salt and adding fire it felt very gd instantly but I feel bad and should stop doing that's y I'm avoiding ppl. A person must get a taste of their own medicine to learn but I feel bad feeding that. My mental notebook still hv a few names and I'm not sure if I should assume my new identity of being a vindictive person or go back to being a gd person with resentment.

And you know even an animal emotionally supports me thru my journey, even a stranger who believes in me, even someone I met for few weeks to few months, and these decade old friends I'm speechless. If they didn't trigger me still ok, they trigger me to wear the cape of karma to help karma do it's work by demanding from me and blaming me for not contributing. Therefore, I sinisterly contributed what they gave me.

Woah now u r Vic representative haha
I wonder how is she doing now, can imagine her have kids Liao and living gd taitai life.
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Yeah .... maybe VIC have a few kiddos liao ....   :-*
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I don't know what triggered this rage but been avoiding ppl I know in order not to spoil relations bcz I recently spoilt one it's irreversible.
It's got to do with ppl are too much and instead of starting from a clean slate I got the person responsible for past ppl who hurt me too. It's a constant state of overreaction. I need to protect myself and send ppl off because I don't owe them a living , don't owe them money, they're not contributing to me, have never contributed at all and yet are demanding of me. I don't hv personal obligation toward them to help them. TBH if I don't meet ppl at all, there won't be any meltdowns. If they weren't with me at my lowest then they shouldn't be asking for anythg when I'm gd. Nowadays I rather help animals at shelters

without knowing specific details, i can't advise too much. hopefully this article can shed some light :)

http://www.leemcking.sg/blog/why-do-my-problems-get-bigger-and-bigger/

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without knowing specific details, i can't advise too much. hopefully this article can shed some light :)

http://www.leemcking.sg/blog/why-do-my-problems-get-bigger-and-bigger/

I know it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
I already believe in something therefore I cherry pick all evidence to support it.
Not many can break into this shell.
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Re: What do you do when your wound festers and you're having frequent meltdowns
« Reply #10 on: November 19, 2019, 12:52:14 pm »
I know it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
I already believe in something therefore I cherry pick all evidence to support it.
Not many can break into this shell.

You mean confirmatory bias? ???


In your case,  only hear the bad stuff?  :-\



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Re: What do you do when your wound festers and you're having frequent meltdowns
« Reply #11 on: November 19, 2019, 01:31:36 pm »
I know it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
I already believe in something therefore I cherry pick all evidence to support it.
Not many can break into this shell.

you can if you want to. I've help many people remove such negative patterns from their mind and be free at last

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Re: What do you do when your wound festers and you're having frequent meltdowns
« Reply #12 on: November 19, 2019, 07:42:08 pm »
You mean confirmatory bias? ???


In your case,  only hear the bad stuff?  :-\

If I don't trust ppl,I only select situations where they are untrustworthy to judge...I can't see the white paper I'm wondering why is there a black spot. If there's a black spot it's not a white paper.
So far I only hv a few white papers in life, also white paper which has black spot which I hv chased away but refused to leave until it became white again.
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Re: What do you do when your wound festers and you're having frequent meltdowns
« Reply #13 on: December 01, 2019, 05:31:02 pm »
If I don't trust ppl,I only select situations where they are untrustworthy to judge...I can't see the white paper I'm wondering why is there a black spot. If there's a black spot it's not a white paper.
So far I only hv a few white papers in life, also white paper which has black spot which I hv chased away but refused to leave until it became white again.

If you love a person,  you will see an imperfect person perfectly....
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