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Tinder - I met her
« on: July 16, 2016, 09:55:43 pm »
Hi Ladies, Just want views from your perspective. I had know this lady through Tinder for 3 months. I find her weird in some ways.

Red flag:
1. I add her facebook, she said she got ex photos so don't wanna accept my request.
2. She seem to send her photos to me and also a lot of guys. (when she texting I happen to peep at it unintentionally)
3. When going out, she buy kids stuff claiming for her niece.
4. She claim she is leaving herself and occasionally her mom will drop by. She also claimed she is paying the flat.
5. Always allowed me to sent her home till a designated busstop.
6. She will try to flirt with every guy. e.g You want ROM with me? Bring your IC along.
7. She told me married guy keep pestering her, she say she can use him to get a free ride or meal.

After these flags, I did a background check and was shocked to see her wedding photo with her husband, and children.

My question, Should I confront and clarify is it divorced?
« Last Edit: July 16, 2016, 09:58:45 pm by ahgirl »

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Re: Tinder - I met her
« Reply #1 on: July 16, 2016, 10:32:58 pm »
Ermmmmm .... u think she's single? ...  :-\
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Re: Tinder - I met her
« Reply #2 on: July 16, 2016, 10:38:02 pm »
After these flags, I did a background check and was shocked to see her wedding photo with her husband, and children.
My question, Should I confront and clarify is it divorced?

yeah.. either divorced or maybe married with problems. :(

btw, just to clarify u are a guy?
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« Reply #3 on: July 16, 2016, 10:40:07 pm »
yeah.. either divorced or maybe married with problems. :(

btw, just to clarify u are a guy?

If ah-girl is a gal then its a double whammy ... :-\
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« Reply #4 on: July 16, 2016, 10:43:52 pm »
Ermmmmm .... u think she's single? ...  :-\

Not until I saw her wedding photos.

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Re: Tinder - I met her
« Reply #5 on: July 16, 2016, 10:44:34 pm »
yeah.. either divorced or maybe married with problems. :(

btw, just to clarify u are a guy?

Yes I'm a guy.

Hmm. Should I ask her the question?

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« Reply #6 on: July 16, 2016, 10:53:47 pm »
Yes I'm a guy.

Hmm. Should I ask her the question?

if u are looking for a healthy relationship, i suggest u ask and get it out of the way =)
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« Reply #7 on: July 16, 2016, 10:57:05 pm »
if u are looking for a healthy relationship, i suggest u ask and get it out of the way =)

I am. I want to know is she doing such things?

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« Reply #8 on: July 16, 2016, 10:58:15 pm »
Not until I saw her wedding photos.

Make sure you know her hubby's whereabouts before u go hanky-panky with her okies? ....
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« Reply #9 on: July 16, 2016, 11:07:36 pm »
Make sure you know her hubby's whereabouts before u go hanky-panky with her okies? ....

I don't even know if she is married or divorce..

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« Reply #10 on: July 17, 2016, 02:47:36 am »
Hi Ladies, Just want views from your perspective. I had know this lady through Tinder for 3 months. I find her weird in some ways.

Red flag:
1. I add her facebook, she said she got ex photos so don't wanna accept my request.
2. She seem to send her photos to me and also a lot of guys. (when she texting I happen to peep at it unintentionally)
3. When going out, she buy kids stuff claiming for her niece.
4. She claim she is leaving herself and occasionally her mom will drop by. She also claimed she is paying the flat.
5. Always allowed me to sent her home till a designated busstop.
6. She will try to flirt with every guy. e.g You want ROM with me? Bring your IC along.
7. She told me married guy keep pestering her, she say she can use him to get a free ride or meal.

After these flags, I did a background check and was shocked to see her wedding photo with her husband, and children.

My question, Should I confront and clarify is it divorced?

I think game over already
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« Reply #11 on: July 17, 2016, 08:36:47 am »
I don't even know if she is married or divorce..

are you ready to be the father to someone else's children? ???
ready both in maturity and financially?

if the answer to either is no - then i'd assume that you're in this for a bit of fun.
(which is okay - I understand,  YOLO as most youngsters tell me this days  8) )

just don't get too caught up in the relationship before it becomes toxic because she's obviously playing the field for reasons known only to herself.  there are gals where you screw and move on to the next.

which brings you to the question that you can only answer yourself and is in control - are you looking for a healthy relationship,  per question from Ms.Dioreangel earlier.

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« Reply #12 on: July 18, 2016, 08:34:12 am »
Hi Ladies, Just want views from your perspective. I had know this lady through Tinder for 3 months. I find her weird in some ways.

Red flag:
1. I add her facebook, she said she got ex photos so don't wanna accept my request.
2. She seem to send her photos to me and also a lot of guys. (when she texting I happen to peep at it unintentionally)
3. When going out, she buy kids stuff claiming for her niece.
4. She claim she is leaving herself and occasionally her mom will drop by. She also claimed she is paying the flat.
5. Always allowed me to sent her home till a designated busstop.
6. She will try to flirt with every guy. e.g You want ROM with me? Bring your IC along.
7. She told me married guy keep pestering her, she say she can use him to get a free ride or meal.

After these flags, I did a background check and was shocked to see her wedding photo with her husband, and children.

My question, Should I confront and clarify is it divorced?

better don't be too serious with her.

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« Reply #13 on: July 18, 2016, 10:29:25 am »
i also feel shouldnt be too serious with her

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Re: Tinder - I met her
« Reply #14 on: July 18, 2016, 10:40:54 am »
agree with the other posters - can whack de ..... just don't be serious about her .....
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