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Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« on: September 27, 2017, 08:38:57 pm »
I'm currently attached and there's this guy friend that I got to know recently who is really nice and helpful in my course of work and in leisure but behaving a little strange.

He knows that I'm currently attached. But he likes to ask strange stuffs like 'do you miss me' and a few times he texted during the evening to ask if he could come hangover at my house (without any invitation) and claims that he wants to connect with me. He sounds pretty pressurizing and persuasive when rejected (not sure why). And he likes to compliment me though sometimes insulting me slightly (not in a joking tone). And when I suggested a grp outing instead it is usually well received but never carried out as he's always busy.

So was just wondering is this friend actually looking for fwb or is it normal nowadays for guys to go to a lady house to hangout together.

If the intention is the latter, can he be kept as a platonic friend after stating boundaries?
Or is it better to unfriend?

I would like to know whether it's genuine friendship or not. After all he's a nice friend but unsure whether the thing he done is out of friendship or something else.

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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #1 on: September 28, 2017, 12:38:22 pm »
I'm currently attached and there's this guy friend that I got to know recently who is really nice and helpful in my course of work and in leisure but behaving a little strange.

He knows that I'm currently attached. But he likes to ask strange stuffs like 'do you miss me' and a few times he texted during the evening to ask if he could come hangover at my house (without any invitation) and claims that he wants to connect with me. He sounds pretty pressurizing and persuasive when rejected (not sure why). And he likes to compliment me though sometimes insulting me slightly (not in a joking tone). And when I suggested a grp outing instead it is usually well received but never carried out as he's always busy.

So was just wondering is this friend actually looking for fwb or is it normal nowadays for guys to go to a lady house to hangout together.

If the intention is the latter, can he be kept as a platonic friend after stating boundaries?
Or is it better to unfriend?

I would like to know whether it's genuine friendship or not. After all he's a nice friend but unsure whether the thing he done is out of friendship or something else.

ermmmm ..... presumably he's a guy with a functioning d!ck .... so what do you think? ???

anyways, you are already attached with a steady boyfriend ..... don't invite fox into hen-house when the cockerel is away ..... if you catch my drift ;)

PS:  oh wait ..... you say that he's very nice and helpful in your course of work?  as in finishing your assignments and helping you get A+ grades?  or helping you with your daily workload so that you can watch Korean dramas during office hours?
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #2 on: September 28, 2017, 04:07:14 pm »
this kind of guy better stay away.

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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #3 on: September 28, 2017, 04:18:02 pm »
this kind of guy better stay away.

why would a gal stay away from nice guys? ??? .....

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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #4 on: September 29, 2017, 01:49:47 pm »
I was just wondering. If a guy thought of that with a female friend, is it actually 'like' or he secretly 'hates' her  :-[

A guy 'friend' wants to only f her, and possibly leave after messing her up
« Last Edit: September 29, 2017, 02:08:09 pm by happyshar »
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #5 on: September 29, 2017, 02:30:21 pm »
I was just wondering. If a guy thought of that with a female friend, is it actually 'like' or he secretly 'hates' her  :-[

A guy 'friend' wants to only f her, and possibly leave after messing her up

huh ?  ermmm .... what are you suggesting?  ..... maybe like "Friends:  Monica and Joey?"
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #6 on: September 29, 2017, 11:25:21 pm »
huh ?  ermmm .... what are you suggesting?  ..... maybe like "Friends:  Monica and Joey?"

Dunno .. my own interpretation ..
Still have other alternative ???
Don't know how guys think ..
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #7 on: September 30, 2017, 11:29:33 am »
Dunno .. my own interpretation ..
Still have other alternative ???
Don't know how guys think ..

Actually it doesn't matter what anyone here thinks but what TS's boyfren think bah? ???

My case last time also same with her - one KTV gal wanted to come my house to help me with my singing ... luckily i got ask my wifey's opinion first ....
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #8 on: September 30, 2017, 02:24:17 pm »
huh since when can post as guest without account ???

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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #9 on: September 30, 2017, 05:13:17 pm »
huh since when can post as guest without account ???

Under exigent circumstances guest posts may be granted .... imagine if she didn't receive timely advice .....  :-X :-X :-X
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #10 on: October 02, 2017, 10:04:49 am »
A decent guy will never go disturb when he know that girl is attached and make suggestion that he want to go to the girl house.

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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #11 on: October 02, 2017, 12:34:19 pm »
A decent guy will never go disturb when he know that girl is attached and make suggestion that he want to go to the girl house.

but sometimes need to use toilet to LS bah if go house to pass her assignment .... then how? ???
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #12 on: October 02, 2017, 02:54:43 pm »
but sometimes need to use toilet to LS bah if go house to pass her assignment .... then how? ???

in SG, there are so many public toilet lei. Shopping center all got toilet, and why need to pass assignment at ppl house. just meet some where nearby can alrdy. especially for ppl that had SO

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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #13 on: October 02, 2017, 03:14:04 pm »
in SG, there are so many public toilet lei. Shopping center all got toilet, and why need to pass assignment at ppl house. just meet some where nearby can alrdy. especially for ppl that had SO

walauehhh ...... LS situation is damn emergency liao .... look for public toilet buay hu liao lei .....
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Re: Friend being suggestive, can he be kept as a friend?
« Reply #14 on: October 02, 2017, 03:52:59 pm »
walauehhh ...... LS situation is damn emergency liao .... look for public toilet buay hu liao lei .....

if it really meet ur house downstair than suddenly wan LS than can be explain but no specially go ppl house to LS