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Why girls like to play games?
« on: February 28, 2016, 01:18:58 pm »
Like appearing uninterested, delay tactic, disappointment-inducing, inconsistency, and so on.

Any kind female soul can advise from your perspective?

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #1 on: February 28, 2016, 03:23:16 pm »
Like appearing uninterested, delay tactic, disappointment-inducing, inconsistency, and so on.

Any kind female soul can advise from your perspective?

Guys and gals are the same lah.

There are some guys and girls who play hard to get.
There are some guys and girls who dun play any games at all.
You just have to open your eyes big big to sieve out those who are playing games loh.
Guys scared that gals treat them like carrot heads. Those gals are called gcp.
Gals scared that guys only want them for sex niah. Those guys are called players.

People become bitter when they gave their hearts sincerely and yet being treated insincerely.

Sometimes, its really a number game. The more ppl you meet, you will be able to tell them apart easily. The problem why some still couldn't, is because they are "blinded" by their requirements.
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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #2 on: February 28, 2016, 03:32:31 pm »
Guys and gals are the same lah.

There are some guys and girls who play hard to get.
There are some guys and girls who dun play any games at all.
You just have to open your eyes big big to sieve out those who are playing games loh.
Guys scared that gals treat them like carrot heads. Those gals are called gcp.
Gals scared that guys only want them for sex niah. Those guys are called players.

People become bitter when they gave their hearts sincerely and yet being treated insincerely.

Sometimes, its really a number game. The more ppl you meet, you will be able to tell them apart easily. The problem why some still couldn't, is because they are "blinded" by their requirements.

I prefer those who are genuine about who they are and not using all those tactics. All guys wants to be appreciated and reciprocated for their affection. Somehow, i come across girl who think being "mysterious" is by being limited in unavailable and unresponsive. Honestly, do u girls think it's mysterious? Isn't unresponsive and mirroring questions kind of rude and uninteresting?

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #3 on: February 28, 2016, 03:32:55 pm »
@Tao Jiak Actually, what do you want to know? You think a girl is playing games with you now?

For me, i don't play games at all.
So, I can only think of 3 reasons:
1) she is simply not interested in you and by playing games, you would back off.
2) she wants you to treasure her when you guys get together in the future coz she is difficult to get.
3) she is only interested in you spending on her.


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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #4 on: February 28, 2016, 03:37:21 pm »
@Tao Jiak Actually, what do you want to know? You think a girl is playing games with you now?

For me, i don't play games at all.
So, I can only think of 3 reasons:
1) she is simply not interested in you and by playing games, you would back off.
2) she wants you to treasure her when you guys get together in the future coz she is difficult to get.
3) she is only interested in you spending on her.

I think most girls (if interested) is likely to go for #2.

But isn't making things difficult and tiresome for suitor and give off the "自以为是" impression?

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #5 on: February 28, 2016, 03:37:27 pm »
I prefer those who are genuine about who they are and not using all those tactics. All guys wants to be appreciated and reciprocated for their affection. Somehow, i come across girl who think being "mysterious" is by being limited in unavailable and unresponsive. Honestly, do u girls think it's mysterious? Isn't unresponsive and mirroring questions kind of rude and uninteresting?

I think a person does whatever he/she is doing now, most likely its affected by his/her own past experiences?
I think if you dislike that kind of behavior, just ignore her and find another gal who doesn't dislike that kind of behavior!
Those ppl shld learn that playing hard to get is so unlikeable. I can't understand why ppl want to do that. I hope they learn their lessons soon.


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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #6 on: February 28, 2016, 03:38:45 pm »
I think most girls (if interested) is likely to go for #2.

But isn't making things difficult and tiresome for suitor and give off the "自以为是" impression?

Yup. It does backfires!
I hate ppl who plays hard to get!
Because i hate that kind of behavior, i don't do that to guys.

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #7 on: February 28, 2016, 03:43:38 pm »
Yup. It does backfires!
I hate ppl who plays hard to get!
Because i hate that kind of behavior, i don't do that to guys.

I don't know why girls like to do that. Texting and organizing dates cost us guys a lot of time, effort, money, and emotions. Especially expending large amount effort is pain, not pleasurable.

For me, I am not going to fall in love by reading some text/sms. It's mostly just calculated reply, i prefer to talk face to face and spend time together. Do girls know texting is tiring? But if u don't text, she isn't going to meet u one.

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #8 on: February 28, 2016, 03:47:13 pm »
I don't know why girls like to do that. Texting and organizing dates cost us guys a lot of time, effort, money, and emotions. Especially expending large amount effort is pain, not pleasurable.

For me, I am not going to fall in love by reading some text/sms. It's mostly just calculated reply, i prefer to talk face to face and spend time together. Do girls know texting is tiring? But if u don't text, she isn't going to meet u one.

Yup. Those girls who play games, they will be missing out the good guys. At the end of the day, they will be complaining how come they never meet any good guys at all? Which, in fact, is their own wrongdoings. But somehow, they always fail to realise it. Haiz.
I pity the guys in this case.


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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #9 on: February 28, 2016, 03:52:10 pm »
Yup. Those girls who play games, they will be missing out the good guys. At the end of the day, they will be complaining how come they never meet any good guys at all? Which, in fact, is their own wrongdoings. But somehow, they always fail to realise it. Haiz.
I pity the guys in this case.

I read some dating guides written by women, those guide say guys like to "conquer" them. Fallacy?

I think nobody likes to conquer girls. It's plain tiring and misguided belief about how guys operate. Maybe only players do that? But isn't that the minority?

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #10 on: February 28, 2016, 03:56:36 pm »
The word "game" is actually not play games literally. I think girls may have a misconception about the word "game".

A game means a relational-interactional situation between object that has rules. It's a term that comes from behavioural economics.

Maybe that's why girls think playing games with guys is attractive because it's a "game"?

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #11 on: February 28, 2016, 04:03:44 pm »
The word "game" is actually not play games literally. I think girls may have a misconception about the word "game".

A game means a relational-interactional situation between object that has rules. It's a term that comes from behavioural economics.

Maybe that's why girls think playing games with guys is attractive because it's a "game"?

I have no idea. I think u gotta ask those girls who play games liao.  :-X

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #12 on: February 28, 2016, 04:28:41 pm »
I think most girls (if interested) is likely to go for #2.

But isn't making things difficult and tiresome for suitor and give off the "自以为是" impression?

Precisely they wanted to filter off those who have no capability and are not worthy to woo them.

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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #13 on: February 28, 2016, 04:37:33 pm »
Precisely they wanted to filter off those who have no capability and are not worthy to woo them.

What do u mean by capability? Every person is a unique person with inherent dignity and self-worth. By playing hard to get, isn't it bolstering own self-worth and undervaluing suitor's worth and disrespecting them. For me i feel offended if that's the case.

Let's be straightforward, if a guy is highly desirable, he will not have trouble finding attracting another girl. So going by this "play hard to get" logic to imply high female value, i think it is likely going to turn potential suitors off and actually a form of "unrealistically positive self-evaluations".

Imo, even if a person is highly valued, there is a sell-by date. There is a limit to chances and "yen fen", a girl/guy may not be able to meet another high quality suitor. So by having this illusion of "not committing = high self-worth" logic, I think it's delusional and actually foolish. It's like u have a trump card but u don't want to play out this card until the game is over, or u waiting for "the best 5-tai mahjong tile" but someone (female competitor) has "胡" with 2 tai. The over-waiter lost in the end.

What do u all think?
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Re: Why girls like to play games?
« Reply #14 on: February 28, 2016, 05:04:06 pm »
What do u mean by capability? Every person is a unique person with inherent dignity and self-worth. By playing hard to get, isn't it bolstering own self-worth and undervaluing suitor's worth and disrespecting them. For me i feel offended if that's the case.

Let's be straightforward, if a guy is highly desirable, he will not have trouble finding attracting another girl. So going by this "play hard to get" logic to imply high female value, i think it is likely going to turn potential suitors off and actually a form of "unrealistically positive self-evaluations".

Imo, even if a person is highly valued, there is a sell-by date. There is a limit to chances and "yen fen", a girl/guy may not be able to meet another high quality suitor. So by having this illusion of "not committing = high self-worth" logic, I think it's delusional and actually foolish. It's like u have a trump card but u don't want to play out this card until the game is over, or u waiting for "the best 5-tai mahjong tile" but someone (female competitor) has "胡" with 2 tai. The over-waiter lost in the end.

What do u all think?

What @FatNeko said, is true in some cases.
What @Tao Jiak said, is also true in some cases.
So, the gals will have to "gamble" and "pray hard" not to lose the desirable guy if they are going to play hard to get.

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