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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #30 on: July 09, 2018, 06:46:46 pm »
you called?

 :D ...finding 机会 in 危机 ...  :P
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #31 on: July 09, 2018, 07:59:59 pm »
没有心,就不会痛 😉

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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #32 on: July 09, 2018, 08:11:17 pm »
Life is short.
Love and support those who love and support and provide value to your life.
Those who do not provide any value and / or are toxic or non-constructive , either can break contact or if cannot break contact can treat them like transparent.
Tell them if got next life I free den entertain u  :-X

ya that's what I am doing now.
Zero Contact now and i am prepared not to be friends anymore.
Well, we have quite alot of common friends , so gathering wise might not be avoidable.

Guess i can either don't attend their gatherings for now until dunno when bcoz i don't even want to see that person. See already all the fond memories will rush back again.

But certain gathering i'll have to be there for my other friends. i hope by then i will have let this person go totally.

And like you said,if i meet them on the streets, treat them transparent and dont initate convo with them .

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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #33 on: July 09, 2018, 08:15:40 pm »
No la, I think some guys like to cast net de, like they chase a few den decide which one more suitable and receptive?
I don't like fishermen who cast net, I prefer those type who fish without a bait and still get the fish like 姜子牙 ;D :D

I don't like guys who cast net(s) also ..

To me , it seem like you don't know what you want in your life. So ficker-minded.

Well to them, no harm dating a few at the same time, then if one or two doesn't respond or click so well, he can cut loss and still got others. I guess they call this , don't put all your eggs in one basket? Or risk management ?
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #34 on: July 09, 2018, 10:15:20 pm »
I don't like guys who cast net(s) also ..

To me , it seem like you don't know what you want in your life. So ficker-minded.

Well to them, no harm dating a few at the same time, then if one or two doesn't respond or click so well, he can cut loss and still got others. I guess they call this , don't put all your eggs in one basket? Or risk management ?
 :-X

I think so long as they are being upfront that they are active on the dating scene and making it clear that they are dating several potential long term partners it should be okay bah? ???


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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #35 on: July 09, 2018, 10:24:42 pm »
I think so long as they are being upfront that they are active on the dating scene and making it clear that they are dating several potential long term partners it should be okay bah? ???

Yeah I think they should inform instead of messaging sweet nothings daily and telling ppl not to go certain places because their mother there  ::) should let other party know they have other choice too and be light hearted in dealings instead of attempting to steal heart
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #36 on: July 09, 2018, 10:29:28 pm »
I don't like guys who cast net(s) also ..

To me , it seem like you don't know what you want in your life. So ficker-minded.

Well to them, no harm dating a few at the same time, then if one or two doesn't respond or click so well, he can cut loss and still got others. I guess they call this , don't put all your eggs in one basket? Or risk management ?
 :-X

I think they handle it logically like sending resume to companies. But they should not mislead the company that they r only applying to one. After the company want to accept them den they sign with another lol.
 :-X

I prefer the baiting with a hook but without bait. The person not rushing for relationship not trying to impress but naturally shines and somehow affinity pulls them tgt.
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« Reply #37 on: July 09, 2018, 11:09:38 pm »
I think so long as they are being upfront that they are active on the dating scene and making it clear that they are dating several potential long term partners it should be okay bah? ???

tbh i did sense way few mths back that he was interested in this current gf.
i asked him frankly before, if she wasn't married, is she your cup of tea ?
His answer was clear cut no.

And this lady has been filrting with him in their pvt chat. She was the one who mostly initated. He played along of cuz.

Well , maybe im too naive to believe that what he said.

Maybe things didn't look that simple in the first place. But i wasn't aware back then. Or i shld say i didn't suspect since i still trust that man.

To answer your question , yes if a guy make known to other potenial gfs or dating partners that he's keeping his options open then its okay. Not dropping them bombs that there's a future maybe this maybe that. As in ,the guy did not lead them on.

But in my case, i'm afraid this is not the case.






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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #38 on: July 09, 2018, 11:18:00 pm »
I think they handle it logically like sending resume to companies. But they should not mislead the company that they r only applying to one. After the company want to accept them den they sign with another lol.
 :-X

I prefer the baiting with a hook but without bait. The person not rushing for relationship not trying to impress but naturally shines and somehow affinity pulls them tgt.

haha but i always ask why do u want to dig your own graves by sending resumes to companies that clearly isn't your league ?
you know a part of me didn't let go fully is bcoz i still cared for that person.
Why on earth u pick a married woman ?
there is plenty of trees out in the forrest, why torture yourself?

I feel the same way as you , baiting with a hook without a bait. And things will unfold themselves when the time is right.

There's always a saying , fate might bring someone to you, but that someone is not your destiny.
But when you realised it , it's too late because you sunk too deep already.



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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #39 on: July 09, 2018, 11:27:51 pm »
haha but i always ask why do u want to dig your own graves by sending resumes to companies that clearly isn't your league ?
you know a part of me didn't let go fully is bcoz i still cared for that person.
Why on earth u pick a married woman ?
there is plenty of trees out in the forrest, why torture yourself?

I feel the same way as you , baiting with a hook without a bait. And things will unfold themselves when the time is right.

There's always a saying , fate might bring someone to you, but that someone is not your destiny.
But when you realised it , it's too late because you sunk too deep already.

Hmm I think he didn't pick her. She sort of hinted / made herself available for hookup and perhaps most guys wouldn't have rejected the chance to get laid given the girl looks decent and will not ask for commitment thereafter.
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #40 on: July 09, 2018, 11:33:37 pm »
Hmm I think he didn't pick her. She sort of hinted / made herself available for hookup and perhaps most guys wouldn't have rejected the chance to get laid given the girl looks decent and will not ask for commitment thereafter.

U mean which cat wouldn't eat fish? ???

Admittedly some married women jin yummy de ...
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« Reply #41 on: July 10, 2018, 12:11:27 am »
Hmm I think he didn't pick her. She sort of hinted / made herself available for hookup and perhaps most guys wouldn't have rejected the chance to get laid given the girl looks decent and will not ask for commitment thereafter.

that's true. Is foc and is offered to you.
No wonder they got together so soon.
i just hope he know what he's in for in case the hubby found out.
:)
All i can do now is wish him all the best and letting this person go, which clearly im not there yet.

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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #42 on: July 10, 2018, 05:17:40 am »
that's true. Is foc and is offered to you.
No wonder they got together so soon.
i just hope he know what he's in for in case the hubby found out.
:)
All i can do now is wish him all the best and letting this person go, which clearly im not there yet.

He is unavailable guy la.
Bad unavailable guy enjoys this type of lifestyle because it is minimal cost n maximal benefits.
Good unavailable guy dont invest in r/s anymore due to reasons.
Anyway both r unavailable. Haha.
U r hving the perception that he will be emotionally hurt.
I think there's higher Risk that he might be physically hurt.
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #43 on: July 10, 2018, 05:20:04 am »
U mean which cat wouldn't eat fish? ???

Admittedly some married women jin yummy de ...

Like serina wee?
Strangely married men gives off less manly vibes... less attractive
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #44 on: July 10, 2018, 07:14:13 am »
that's true. Is foc and is offered to you.
No wonder they got together so soon.
i just hope he know what he's in for in case the hubby found out.
:)
All i can do now is wish him all the best and letting this person go, which clearly im not there yet.

you're still holding out a candle for him and hanging on to hope ..... which obviously is not helping matters.

put this person behind you and look forward .... he's not worth it ... you must remember this.
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