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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #15 on: July 08, 2018, 04:27:14 pm »
No I don't think I'll even bother to seduce him , bcoz this has nv cross my mind. And the way he did things , itd def a no-no. I totally cannot stand his way of doing things.
When things goes wrong , he can't be bothered about how I felt, then just ghost me instead.

Acceptance is the way to go.

The imaging good stuff is good, but I won't want to bring him into the picture. Am still trying to let the person and all his memories go.
 In fact ,I'm set to let this person to go, even as a friend. I don't see a point why I need to even bother to continue being friends. Only I'll suffer in the long run.

Maybe just imagine a guy which I like , then find this kind of guy next time?

Time for me to learn how to accept things fast , so that I don't waste any more time of people who no longer exist anymore.

Actually since he is just a crush then your feelings for him should be a one-way street and not reciprocated by him presumably? ???

If that were the case,  then your misplaced feelings could be the hurt to your self-esteem ie. he chose a married woman over you ....despite your availability ...

As @vanillaicecream used to say ...

"Never put someone on priority if he doesn't treat you with priority"
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #16 on: July 08, 2018, 06:19:47 pm »
Actually since he is just a crush then your feelings for him should be a one-way street and not reciprocated by him presumably? ???

If that were the case,  then your misplaced feelings could be the hurt to your self-esteem ie. he chose a married woman over you ....despite your availability ...

As @vanillaicecream used to say ...

"Never put someone on priority if he doesn't treat you with priority"

Tbh I confessed abt how I felt . And I got my answers . It wasn’t a one way street. Have asked common friends how they think , and they also think it wasn’t one way.
In some ways , he did hinted maybe there’s a future, but suddenly went MIA after he broke all his promises.
Clearly I wasn’t impt to him . But I didn’t saw it back then.

But well I have to accept that feeling change over time. What he used to feel , isn’t the same now.
There’s no need to think about all those memories anymore. Although yes they keep appearing . I got to Think of the present and like many have told me , love yourself which clearly I’m  still learning how to .

Maybe my misplaced feelings are why did I place him as a priority in my life when clearly he has been keeping his options open?
Maybe I blame myself too for being so silly to offer someone a place in my heart now.

Side track is @vanillaicecream I presume she is a lady , still here? She was active in fp days . 

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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #17 on: July 08, 2018, 07:33:50 pm »
Tbh I confessed abt how I felt . And I got my answers . It wasn’t a one way street. Have asked common friends how they think , and they also think it wasn’t one way.
In some ways , he did hinted maybe there’s a future, but suddenly went MIA after he broke all his promises.
Clearly I wasn’t impt to him . But I didn’t saw it back then.
Well if u can't hold a man to his words, u know he is worthless by now

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But well I have to accept that feeling change over time. What he used to feel , isn’t the same now.
There’s no need to think about all those memories anymore. Although yes they keep appearing . I got to Think of the present and like many have told me , love yourself which clearly I’m  still learning how to .
Yes precisely what u must do.

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Maybe my misplaced feelings are why did I place him as a priority in my life when clearly he has been keeping his options open?
Maybe I blame myself too for being so silly to offer someone a place in my heart now.
We gotta live, (love) and learn dear

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Side track is @vanillaicecream I presume she is a lady , still here? She was active in fp days .
Yes very chio. I mean no horse run chio.

She was very active on FP 10 years ago.

Probably graduate to SG Brides and have 4 babies liao  :-[
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #18 on: July 08, 2018, 08:05:28 pm »
Well if u can't hold a man to his words, u know he is worthless by now
Yes precisely what u must do.
We gotta live, (love) and learn dear
Yes very chio. I mean no horse run chio.

She was very active on FP 10 years ago.

Probably graduate to SG Brides and have 4 babies liao  :-[

Yup worthless and not worthy of my time to think anymore.

Maybe i don't know how to let go , even i accepted things is what it is now.

oh , you met her before? hehe

i remember her advices back then , which was helpful in threads. That's all i rmb.


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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #19 on: July 08, 2018, 09:00:43 pm »
Yup worthless and not worthy of my time to think anymore.

Maybe i don't know how to let go , even i accepted things is what it is now.

oh , you met her before? hehe

i remember her advices back then , which was helpful in threads. That's all i rmb.

@vanillaicecream was a very sensible gal. Yupz plenty of good advice and she was wise beyond her years ... :-*
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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #20 on: July 09, 2018, 02:47:11 pm »
Tbh I confessed abt how I felt . And I got my answers . It wasn’t a one way street. Have asked common friends how they think , and they also think it wasn’t one way.
In some ways , he did hinted maybe there’s a future, but suddenly went MIA after he broke all his promises.
Clearly I wasn’t impt to him . But I didn’t saw it back then.

But well I have to accept that feeling change over time. What he used to feel , isn’t the same now.
There’s no need to think about all those memories anymore. Although yes they keep appearing . I got to Think of the present and like many have told me , love yourself which clearly I’m  still learning how to .

Maybe my misplaced feelings are why did I place him as a priority in my life when clearly he has been keeping his options open?
Maybe I blame myself too for being so silly to offer someone a place in my heart now.

Side track is @vanillaicecream I presume she is a lady , still here? She was active in fp days .

Once had a guy like dat too, confessed and ask me to be gf, as we only know each other for few weeks, and although I liked him already, I told him would prefer to know each other more before we get together who knows two more weeks later he got another gf.  :'( 8)
When I was younger I thought that he misunderstood my words so when he got together with the other girl I went to ask him Did he ever even like me then he said we were friends.

Den I thought back whenever we pass by certain shop he will tell me not to walk there as his mum work there and she is strict, doesn't allow him to date. After he got together with that girl did I realise that y he girl was working in that shop part time. Zzz.


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« Reply #21 on: July 09, 2018, 02:58:53 pm »
Once had a guy like dat too, confessed and ask me to be gf, as we only know each other for few weeks, and although I liked him already, I told him would prefer to know each other more before we get together who knows two more weeks later he got another gf.  :'( 8)
When I was younger I thought that he misunderstood my words so when he got together with the other girl I went to ask him Did he ever even like me then he said we were friends.

Den I thought back whenever we pass by certain shop he will tell me not to walk there as his mum work there and she is strict, doesn't allow him to date. After he got together with that girl did I realise that y he girl was working in that shop part time. Zzz.

yeah .... sounds like lost in translation to me .....

who knows what might have happened if you had said "yes" at that time to him ....

oh wells .... coulda, woulda, shoulda ......

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« Reply #22 on: July 09, 2018, 03:14:11 pm »
yeah .... sounds like lost in translation to me .....

who knows what might have happened if you had said "yes" at that time to him ....

oh wells .... coulda, woulda, shoulda ......

Actually luckily not tgt , abit of mismatch hurhur.

I figured guys always have a long lisft to go through lol. Not wooing one and only. Though they make u feel.so.
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« Reply #23 on: July 09, 2018, 03:35:12 pm »
Actually luckily not tgt , abit of mismatch hurhur.

I figured guys always have a long lisft to go through lol. Not wooing one and only. Though they make u feel.so.

how old was he at that time?  .... but still I feel lah hor ... that he really too much to try and hide her from you even if you were being considered as his project ...
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« Reply #24 on: July 09, 2018, 03:46:22 pm »
Yup worthless and not worthy of my time to think anymore.

Maybe i don't know how to let go , even i accepted things is what it is now.

oh , you met her before? hehe

i remember her advices back then , which was helpful in threads. That's all i rmb.

Life is short.
Love and support those who love and support and provide value to your life.
Those who do not provide any value and / or are toxic or non-constructive , either can break contact or if cannot break contact can treat them like transparent.
Tell them if got next life I free den entertain u  :-X
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« Reply #25 on: July 09, 2018, 03:53:19 pm »
how old was he at that time?  .... but still I feel lah hor ... that he really too much to try and hide her from you even if you were being considered as his project ...

He was 20 I was still in jc.
He added me on social media a few years back, dunno y and I accepted coz curious. Abit surprised he still single.
Maybe like to date around?  ???
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« Reply #26 on: July 09, 2018, 04:03:19 pm »
Once had a guy like dat too, confessed and ask me to be gf, as we only know each other for few weeks, and although I liked him already, I told him would prefer to know each other more before we get together who knows two more weeks later he got another gf.  :'( 8)
When I was younger I thought that he misunderstood my words so when he got together with the other girl I went to ask him Did he ever even like me then he said we were friends.

Den I thought back whenever we pass by certain shop he will tell me not to walk there as his mum work there and she is strict, doesn't allow him to date. After he got together with that girl did I realise that y he girl was working in that shop part time. Zzz.

Argh!
Sobs sobs how can he do that? Pats pats.

But actually also thankfully that u didn’t date him for so Long .. imagine how much u had invested in before u realised he did smtg like this .. sry to say that he seem to want to step on 2 boats back then ?

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« Reply #27 on: July 09, 2018, 04:08:26 pm »
Argh!
Sobs sobs how can he do that? Pats pats.

But actually also thankfully that u didn’t date him for so Long .. imagine how much u had invested in before u realised he did smtg like this .. sry to say that he seem to want to step on 2 boats back then ?

Some told me a phrase , if it’s fated to be , then it will be yours. If not , then let it go. If it’s not yours , it will never be no matter what.

No la, I think some guys like to cast net de, like they chase a few den decide which one more suitable and receptive?
I don't like fishermen who cast net, I prefer those type who fish without a bait and still get the fish like 姜子牙 ;D :D
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« Reply #28 on: July 09, 2018, 04:15:53 pm »
He was 20 I was still in jc.
He added me on social media a few years back, dunno y and I accepted coz curious. Abit surprised he still single.
Maybe like to date around?  ???
Serial dater? ???
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