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What should I do now ?
« on: July 06, 2018, 03:17:11 am »
What do u do when you realised a crush of yours is dating a married woman?
No I'm not hoping that they break up or anything.
The lady is a common friend of a group that we uses to hang out .

But I'm just puzzled why do guy fall for a married woman?


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Re: What should I do now ?
« Reply #1 on: July 06, 2018, 04:39:03 am »
What do u do when you realised a crush of yours is dating a married woman?
No I'm not hoping that they break up or anything.
The lady is a common friend of a group that we uses to hang out .

But I'm just puzzled why do guy fall for a married woman?

Because of excitement,
Because of forbidden love,
Because he could never fully get her,
Because he doesn't need to commit,
Because there's an aura of confidence + indifference to flirting / wooing
Because he already fell lust for her before she got married.
Because he could be taken care of.
Because she is independent of him.
« Last Edit: July 06, 2018, 04:46:25 am by happyshar »
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« Reply #2 on: July 06, 2018, 08:30:26 am »
Married woman jin yummy ....  :-* :-* :-*

someone's galfren is already QCed ....
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« Reply #3 on: July 06, 2018, 08:36:23 am »
Because of excitement,
Because of forbidden love,
Because he could never fully get her,
Because he doesn't need to commit,
Because there's an aura of confidence + indifference to flirting / wooing
Because he already fell lust for her before she got married.
Because he could be taken care of.
Because she is independent of him.

Ooh ya Hor , it sounds so true!
Why did I even not notice that in the first place?
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Sigh don’t know why I fall for such a guy


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« Reply #4 on: July 06, 2018, 08:40:48 am »
Married woman jin yummy ....  :-* :-* :-*

someone's galfren is already QCed ....

It’s all lust .
I get it now .

Letting this person go is the way to go only

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« Reply #5 on: July 06, 2018, 01:08:28 pm »
It’s all lust .
I get it now .

Letting this person go is the way to go only

yes,  if he can't keep his pecker in his pants when he is single, he is unlikely to keep his pecker in his pants if he is attached .....
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« Reply #6 on: July 06, 2018, 01:35:24 pm »
yes,  if he can't keep his pecker in his pants when he is single, he is unlikely to keep his pecker in his pants if he is attached .....

Yup u have a point here.
 I have been trying .. but seem like letting go is much tougher than I thought it would be .

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« Reply #7 on: July 06, 2018, 06:26:47 pm »
Yup u have a point here.
 I have been trying .. but seem like letting go is much tougher than I thought it would be .

I guess it is difficult for gals to let go of their crushes ... :-[

For guys we just imagine our crushes going to pika-pika in H81 with another guy.... immmeriately we can get over liao .... :-X
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« Reply #8 on: July 06, 2018, 07:13:05 pm »
I guess it is difficult for gals to let go of their crushes ... :-[

For guys we just imagine our crushes going to pika-pika in H81 with another guy.... immmeriately we can get over liao .... :-X

Maybe I shld try your method 🤣🤣.. hope it helps .. I know this kind of guy is really cmi one ..
Do u still got have any other methods ?
Pls enlighten me 😂 not much experience here 😂😂
« Last Edit: July 06, 2018, 07:20:10 pm by Missypika »

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« Reply #9 on: July 07, 2018, 06:33:38 pm »
Yup u have a point here.
 I have been trying .. but seem like letting go is much tougher than I thought it would be .

If u really want to let go, it can happen within a snap of the fingers.  :-[
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« Reply #10 on: July 07, 2018, 06:35:49 pm »
I guess it is difficult for gals to let go of their crushes ... :-[

For guys we just imagine our crushes going to pika-pika in H81 with another guy.... immmeriately we can get over liao .... :-X

I don't think so leh, it's easy to let go if one wants to.
If one doesn't want to let go is because they think they hv chance, just confess to the guy, get the answer and move on. Did that before in my younger days.
In my older days I realise the brain is like a switch,  you can switch off the crushing after measuring cost benefit. Still can keep as eye candy. Just use the left side of the brain.
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« Reply #11 on: July 07, 2018, 09:35:57 pm »
I don't think so leh, it's easy to let go if one wants to.
If one doesn't want to let go is because they think they hv chance, just confess to the guy, get the answer and move on. Did that before in my younger days.
In my older days I realise the brain is like a switch,  you can switch off the crushing after measuring cost benefit. Still can keep as eye candy. Just use the left side of the brain.

Not everyone is like you mah ....

We got fweeeeelings huan okayyyyy...  :-[
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« Reply #12 on: July 08, 2018, 03:16:00 am »
If u really want to let go, it can happen within a snap of the fingers.  :-[

Is it really that easy or I’m missing something here?
I got the answers I was looking for. Or I shld say I killed all hopes that I thought it was there previously.
 
But he still linger at the back of my head.
And I often thought it was smtg that’s wrong with me that he chosen the other lady.

I know this is unhealthy, but I find it hard to stop.

I did try to keep myself occupied , get a new hobby. But that didn’t quite work out that well.

Do u mind enlighten me what else I could do , to totally let this person go ?

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« Reply #13 on: July 08, 2018, 05:09:12 am »
Is it really that easy or I’m missing something here?
I got the answers I was looking for. Or I shld say I killed all hopes that I thought it was there previously.
 
But he still linger at the back of my head.
And I often thought it was smtg that’s wrong with me that he chosen the other lady.

I know this is unhealthy, but I find it hard to stop.

I did try to keep myself occupied , get a new hobby. But that didn’t quite work out that well.

Do u mind enlighten me what else I could do , to totally let this person go ?

Hmm , maybe u r young that's y.

I have reach a point where I feel I kena nirvana-ed, I can accept anything that happens very fast because - the longer time one takes to accept reality (which they cannot change), the less time one has to enjoy themselves and do other constructive things.
If I were you I will either try to seduce him from the married woman and show him your worth (if u really Like him), or if it failed accept the fact that both can't be together and move on with other gd stuffs in life.

Because as u sit there n think n wonder, good things in the world passes u by.
V long time ago moi used to waste two years lingering on bad stuffs, after that I learnt never to waste time again. Because I realised I missed out golden ages.
Either u can chg your reality or you can accept it, the faster the better.
The more u want to forget someone the more you would remember someone. Perhaps you can think of him daily, think of all the gd in him and all the bad, construct a guy in your head who has his good and don't have his bad. Den find this type of guy in your life. This type of guy do exist and when u find him, u will still not forget the guy you are mentioning here. But u will thank him greatly for not being with you so that you meet the one. And you will be grateful for it.
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« Reply #14 on: July 08, 2018, 11:57:39 am »
Hmm , maybe u r young that's y.

I have reach a point where I feel I kena nirvana-ed, I can accept anything that happens very fast because - the longer time one takes to accept reality (which they cannot change), the less time one has to enjoy themselves and do other constructive things.
If I were you I will either try to seduce him from the married woman and show him your worth (if u really Like him), or if it failed accept the fact that both can't be together and move on with other gd stuffs in life.

Because as u sit there n think n wonder, good things in the world passes u by.
V long time ago moi used to waste two years lingering on bad stuffs, after that I learnt never to waste time again. Because I realised I missed out golden ages.
Either u can chg your reality or you can accept it, the faster the better.
The more u want to forget someone the more you would remember someone. Perhaps you can think of him daily, think of all the gd in him and all the bad, construct a guy in your head who has his good and don't have his bad. Den find this type of guy in your life. This type of guy do exist and when u find him, u will still not forget the guy you are mentioning here. But u will thank him greatly for not being with you so that you meet the one. And you will be grateful for it.

No I don't think I'll even bother to seduce him , bcoz this has nv cross my mind. And the way he did things , itd def a no-no. I totally cannot stand his way of doing things.
When things goes wrong , he can't be bothered about how I felt, then just ghost me instead.

Acceptance is the way to go.

The imaging good stuff is good, but I won't want to bring him into the picture. Am still trying to let the person and all his memories go.
 In fact ,I'm set to let this person to go, even as a friend. I don't see a point why I need to even bother to continue being friends. Only I'll suffer in the long run.

Maybe just imagine a guy which I like , then find this kind of guy next time?

Time for me to learn how to accept things fast , so that I don't waste any more time of people who no longer exist anymore.