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Should I just move on?
« on: May 26, 2018, 10:24:10 am »
I know this guy through mutual friend and we generally go out as a group of 4(one couple and me and hm). Thr guy know my couple friend. We went out for about 3 group outings and on the last outing,  my mutual friend created a group chat so that we will know each other number. But we don't text each other in private at all and he is also not active in the group chat. I find this guy not bad but I don't think he has any interest in me since during the outing he doesn't really show any sign of interest. But I do have interest in him and was afraid I will slowly like him more as we go out more as a group. I don't think he has interest in me, so what should I do? Should i just ask my friend to stop planning the outing anymore?  Or to continue planning and just go out as friends? But I'm afraid the more time I spend with him, the deeper I will fall for him. I have not much experience with love. Only date a few guys and never really gotten into any relationship before.
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Re: Should I just move on?
« Reply #1 on: May 26, 2018, 12:25:43 pm »
I know this guy through mutual friend and we generally go out as a group of 4(one couple and me and hm). Thr guy know my couple friend. We went out for about 3 group outings and on the last outing,  my mutual friend created a group chat so that we will know each other number. But we don't text each other in private at all and he is also not active in the group chat. I find this guy not bad but I don't think he has any interest in me since during the outing he doesn't really show any sign of interest. But I do have interest in him and was afraid I will slowly like him more as we go out more as a group. I don't think he has interest in me, so what should I do? Should i just ask my friend to stop planning the outing anymore?  Or to continue planning and just go out as friends? But I'm afraid the more time I spend with him, the deeper I will fall for him. I have not much experience with love. Only date a few guys and never really gotten into any relationship before.

Must practice self-control larrrrr ah-girl ah ah-gurl !  ;)

Obviously the mutual couple friend is trying to match-make .... my wifey sometimes does that too ... but usually got ask permission first larrrr

I think it is important to keep an open mind and don't be too kan-cheong spider .... if it happens it happens ... like how one of our "success" came about only after many mutual dates and only when she lost her wallet and he held her hands for the first time to comfort her ... :P

But hor ... i think guys must make the first move laaaaar ....

Meanwhile go on other dates too .... don't close-off other options...

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Re: Should I just move on?
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2018, 12:46:02 pm »
Must practice self-control larrrrr ah-girl ah ah-gurl !  ;)

Obviously the mutual couple friend is trying to match-make .... my wifey sometimes does that too ... but usually got ask permission first larrrr

I think it is important to keep an open mind and don't be too kan-cheong spider .... if it happens it happens ... like how one of our "success" came about only after many mutual dates and only when she lost her wallet and he held her hands for the first time to comfort her ... :P

But hor ... i think guys must make the first move laaaaar ....

Meanwhile go on other dates too .... don't close-off other options...

The wallet kena hidden by u is it  ;D

Yeah I think should let the guy do the chasing if he does while you give the positive green light.
Too fast devote doesn't end well.
« Last Edit: May 26, 2018, 12:48:27 pm by happyshar »
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« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2018, 01:23:51 pm »
The wallet kena hidden by u is it  ;D
Yah .... got one time we pushed the gal in front of lorry and the guy rescued her... they got together also  :-X :-X :-X
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Yeah I think should let the guy do the chasing if he does while you give the positive green light.
Too fast devote doesn't end well.

Maybe can ask the guy to intro other guy friends since he not anxious .... play the ball back into his court ... tee hee hee  :P
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Re: Should I just move on?
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2018, 01:49:01 pm »
Yea. But he was not feeling yesterday. So today I make the move to text him and ask how is he feeling. It's NY first time texting him in private. Anw like this should be okay right? And yes, I will ask my friends not to plan too much outing for us le ba. Awkward also. :/

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« Reply #5 on: May 26, 2018, 03:22:36 pm »
Yea. But he was not feeling yesterday. So today I make the move to text him and ask how is he feeling. It's NY first time texting him in private. Anw like this should be okay right? And yes, I will ask my friends not to plan too much outing for us le ba. Awkward also. :/

Ok ok.... take it slow .... put long line to catch fish ...   8)
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« Reply #6 on: May 28, 2018, 01:08:24 am »
Yea. But he was not feeling yesterday. So today I make the move to text him and ask how is he feeling. It's NY first time texting him in private. Anw like this should be okay right? And yes, I will ask my friends not to plan too much outing for us le ba. Awkward also. :/

Can go outing , but let the guy know u preoccupied with other dates too ma
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Re: Should I just move on?
« Reply #7 on: May 30, 2018, 10:21:17 am »
Can go outing , but let the guy know u preoccupied with other dates too ma

Yup understood. But the problem is I'm quite an introvert and I don't have much guy friends. Currently in late twenties. :(

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Re: Should I just move on?
« Reply #8 on: May 30, 2018, 02:27:37 pm »
Yup understood. But the problem is I'm quite an introvert and I don't have much guy friends. Currently in late twenties. :(

Go join activities, interest groups ba?
Dunno what's in recently, can't comment lol.

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