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What should I do?
« on: December 22, 2017, 12:40:45 am »
Hi, I have been in a relationship for 1 year 4 months. We both agreed that our relationship is having a problem. After dating for so long we doesn’t have much topics to talk anymore and we are either playing with phone or doing something else not giving each other attention.

Our relation lack communication.. but whenever I try talking to her, she just felt so irritated that I decided to stop and play my phone.

What should I do?

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« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2017, 12:47:36 am »
I would also like to add that we seldom call or text each other on daily basis. If I don’t initiate then she won’t bother replying. I told her it can be e other way round. But she just feel that if there’s nothing to talk then don’t need text..

Even a simple text to check your day is also fine what.. hais.

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« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2017, 10:37:09 am »
Hi, I have been in a relationship for 1 year 4 months. We both agreed that our relationship is having a problem. After dating for so long we doesn’t have much topics to talk anymore and we are either playing with phone or doing something else not giving each other attention.

Our relation lack communication.. but whenever I try talking to her, she just felt so irritated that I decided to stop and play my phone.

What should I do?

How old is ahgirl and galfren? ???

I think the lack of effort on the part of both will kill the relationship.

Why not you initiate some holiday or staycation? ???

Yeah ... this handphone thingy is the bane of relationships which is why we ban the use of mobile when we're having dinner or together .... otherwise kenna fine $10 each time we reach for our phones
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« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2017, 10:38:53 am »
I would also like to add that we seldom call or text each other on daily basis. If I don’t initiate then she won’t bother replying. I told her it can be e other way round. But she just feel that if there’s nothing to talk then don’t need text..

Even a simple text to check your day is also fine what.. hais.

Let's hope she has not reached the stage of indifference ...  that's the death knell in any relationship.

She got text other people more than she does with you?
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« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2017, 02:32:16 pm »
How old is ahgirl and galfren? ???

I think the lack of effort on the part of both will kill the relationship.

Why not you initiate some holiday or staycation? ???

Yeah ... this handphone thingy is the bane of relationships which is why we ban the use of mobile when we're having dinner or together .... otherwise kenna fine $10 each time we reach for our phones

I’m 29, she’s 27. We just came back from Japan.

Maybe I should try this method.

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« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2017, 02:34:02 pm »
Let's hope she has not reached the stage of indifference ...  that's the death knell in any relationship.

She got text other people more than she does with you?

She will text with her friends and groups only if they text her also. Else she also the same.

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« Reply #6 on: December 22, 2017, 02:42:08 pm »
I’m 29, she’s 27. We just came back from Japan.

Maybe I should try this method.

Relationships follow the 2nd law of thermodynamics

- things tend towards disorder (entropy) unless effort is expended to keep a system (in this case - relationship) together

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« Reply #7 on: December 22, 2017, 04:56:35 pm »
Relationships follow the 2nd law of thermodynamics

- things tend towards disorder (entropy) unless effort is expended to keep a system (in this case - relationship) together

We both agree it takes two hand to clap. But she has the mentality that as a guy should take lead in everything.

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« Reply #8 on: December 23, 2017, 07:36:42 am »
We both agree it takes two hand to clap. But she has the mentality that as a guy should take lead in everything.


so she likes you to make exciting plans for the weekend? ???

instead of asking her - "where you wanna go this weekend ?" ???

ask her - "guess which exciting place i'm gonna take you this weekend?" :-*

then quickly call and book the first place she guesses .....

I learn this from EDMW forum de ..... 8)

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« Reply #9 on: December 24, 2017, 05:56:10 pm »


so she likes you to make exciting plans for the weekend? ???

instead of asking her - "where you wanna go this weekend ?" ???

ask her - "guess which exciting place i'm gonna take you this weekend?" :-*

then quickly call and book the first place she guesses .....

I learn this from EDMW forum de ..... 8)

I always asked her and her reply is always don’t know. Sometimes I’m a bit tired of this.

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« Reply #10 on: December 24, 2017, 06:10:34 pm »
I always asked her and her reply is always don’t know. Sometimes I’m a bit tired of this.

1 year n 4 months old relationship is a little too soon to run out of topics to talk about.

I think you have to go back to basics to try to rekindle those feelings.... if this r/s is worth salvaging.

What is in her that attracted you in the first place?

And hey, it is okay to move on too .... it is not a sin until you put your names on the ROM register. Some people are just not meant for each other. 

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« Reply #11 on: December 24, 2017, 06:47:25 pm »
1 year n 4 months old relationship is a little too soon to run out of topics to talk about.

I think you have to go back to basics to try to rekindle those feelings.... if this r/s is worth salvaging.

What is in her that attracted you in the first place?

And hey, it is okay to move on too .... it is not a sin until you put your names on the ROM register. Some people are just not meant for each other.

Honestly the things that attract me is her shows care for me. I’m trying to improve e relationship. Hope it works.

Although we went for many oversea trips but we didn’t have any sexual advance. Which I feel that it is incomplete. I’m not sure which couple still practice his after marriage. But not for me.

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« Reply #12 on: December 24, 2017, 10:30:04 pm »
Honestly the things that attract me is her shows care for me. I’m trying to improve e relationship. Hope it works.

Although we went for many oversea trips but we didn’t have any sexual advance. Which I feel that it is incomplete. I’m not sure which couple still practice his after marriage. But not for me.

Hmmm .... that she "cares" is an oxymoron if she doesn't give a rats arse on your concern that she is not communicative enough in the r/s right?

And even as she acknowledge that there is a problem, she attempts to do zilch to salvage? That is not caring,  that's indifference ...

As i have said to many gals on flowerpod - buying breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper everyday doesn't make a guy special or worth marrying.  A good fren can do the same.
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« Reply #13 on: December 25, 2017, 01:47:56 pm »
Hi, I have been in a relationship for 1 year 4 months. We both agreed that our relationship is having a problem. After dating for so long we doesn’t have much topics to talk anymore and we are either playing with phone or doing something else not giving each other attention.

Our relation lack communication.. but whenever I try talking to her, she just felt so irritated that I decided to stop and play my phone.

What should I do?

You are in a lesbian relationship????

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« Reply #14 on: December 25, 2017, 11:10:45 pm »
"A man who has depths in his shame meets his destiny and his delicate decisions upon paths which few ever reach."