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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #45 on: May 10, 2018, 10:41:24 am »
That means her love language must be receiving gifts. Gd to know early.
Den the next week tell her it's her turn to ask you.

Must be able to trade challenge with challenge right.


LOL the face so big! hahahahahah

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #46 on: May 10, 2018, 10:41:58 am »
She would prefer to be happy whole day even doing anything simple.

Act of service - she would want me to plan everything and initiate everything. But sometimes I planned and she don’t like then just reject without giving me other option.

This doesn't sound like acts of service leh...

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #47 on: May 10, 2018, 11:46:38 am »
This doesn't sound like acts of service leh...

Define acts of service...

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #48 on: May 10, 2018, 05:02:17 pm »
Define acts of service...

Help her fix her it prob, light bulb
Teach her how to do her homework...
Actually I oso dunno..  ???
If she v busy... Help her lessen her workload

Help him make sandwich, cook a meal for him..
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #49 on: May 10, 2018, 05:04:07 pm »

LOL the face so big! hahahahahah

Yeah it's a big smirking face  :-[ :-[ :-[
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #50 on: May 10, 2018, 06:26:03 pm »
Wow .... expert jiu shi expert ... no horse run  :P
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« Reply #51 on: May 11, 2018, 02:20:19 pm »
Wow .... expert jiu shi expert ... no horse run  :P

Unker bj is the expert w most experience ...  :-[
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« Reply #52 on: May 20, 2018, 06:08:41 am »
Recently she meet up with a guy he met in Taiwan during her solo trip.. After she came back this is where the she mention break up.. I don’t know could this also be possible her heart stray.. All I could say during her trip I was supportive of her and even pay for her accommodation.

I felt like my trust issue with a relationship has been tarnished and afraid of trusting in future.. which all the while during this relationship we do not have any trust issue and I trust her totally..

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« Reply #53 on: May 20, 2018, 08:04:01 am »
Recently she meet up with a guy he met in Taiwan during her solo trip.. After she came back this is where the she mention break up.. I don’t know could this also be possible her heart stray.. All I could say during her trip I was supportive of her and even pay for her accommodation.

I felt like my trust issue with a relationship has been tarnished and afraid of trusting in future.. which all the while during this relationship we do not have any trust issue and I trust her totally..

(1)   look at it this way,  if she had not gone on the Taiwan trip she wouldn't have cleared her head and made up her mind right? 

(2)   lesson learnt for you - money ie. paying for her accommodation doesn't solve the problem with relationships

(3)  don't let a black sheep tar the whole lot.  each relationship is unique. you shouldn't carry the baggage from one relationship to another.  it is difficult but you must stop yourself from doing so and learn to trust again


it is okay to outgrow a relationship.  sometimes it takes a while to get there to realize that you weren't made for each other anymore.  I would like to think of it as a door closing and other doors opening elsewhere.  don't lose sight of the forest because of one tree.

make use of the time to better yourself,  take a course,  work harder at your career etc
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« Reply #54 on: May 20, 2018, 08:15:32 pm »
(1)   look at it this way,  if she had not gone on the Taiwan trip she wouldn't have cleared her head and made up her mind right? 

(2)   lesson learnt for you - money ie. paying for her accommodation doesn't solve the problem with relationships

I didn’t pay because I want her to consider our relationship. I didn’t use money to buy her feeling. In fact, I sponsor her because I want her to enjoy and be happy.

(3)  don't let a black sheep tar the whole lot.  each relationship is unique. you shouldn't carry the baggage from one relationship to another.  it is difficult but you must stop yourself from doing so and learn to trust again


it is okay to outgrow a relationship.  sometimes it takes a while to get there to realize that you weren't made for each other anymore.  I would like to think of it as a door closing and other doors opening elsewhere.  don't lose sight of the forest because of one tree.

make use of the time to better yourself,  take a course,  work harder at your career etc

Thanks your your advice.

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« Reply #55 on: May 20, 2018, 10:27:06 pm »
Hey bro, once you start dating again, all this angst is going to sound very silly. You'll forget her by and by ...  8)
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #56 on: May 21, 2018, 12:27:34 am »
Girls like to feel being wooed ba, not really about the specific detailed planning of dates but rather feeling "desired", and feeling sexy like a woman.
I believe this is wad the taiwan trip made her realise.
I believe if u make her feel womanly, she make u feel manly too... ???? Maybe can apply to next potential date.
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