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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #30 on: May 08, 2018, 06:40:44 pm »
Activities such as prawning, cycling and etc.. Her character is more of watching dramas and reading books, while I'm more of exercise. Thus we have completely different hobbies.

Agree that taking a walk is good. If I have the chance again.

Both of you are "solo" creatures it seems? ???

Lack or the dearth of communication seems to be the root. 

What is her dream?
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« Reply #31 on: May 08, 2018, 06:50:38 pm »
Both of you are "solo" creatures it seems? ???

Lack or the dearth of communication seems to be the root. 

What is her dream?

Solo to certain extent?

I don’t know her dream. she don’t like to plan much and just follow the flow.

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #32 on: May 08, 2018, 07:01:38 pm »
Solo to certain extent?

I don’t know her dream. she don’t like to plan much and just follow the flow.

Like i said, once the r/s sink into indifference, game-over liao ....

If you are still vested in this, you need to spice up the r/s,  plan something different this weekend .... how about a picnic in Botanical Gardens?  Visit to the National Gallery followed by a river cruise?
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #33 on: May 08, 2018, 11:50:50 pm »
Is almost 6 months soon. I'm back with an undesirable outcome. She had initiated a breakup which I don't agree and tried ways to save it.

Break up reason mainly due to incompatible hobbies and interest, and communication issue. By communication I mean we don't talk much as stated in my previous post. I already tried my best to show concern to her but she just felt frustrated talking to me.

We still love each other, she just felt that since this problem has been there for so long and not improving, should break up early to prevent more heartache. I, otherwise feel that we should both make it work out by doing more activities.

can dont agree one?
Work it out by doing more seems like solving math  :o
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #34 on: May 08, 2018, 11:51:47 pm »
Solo to certain extent?

I don’t know her dream. she don’t like to plan much and just follow the flow.

Ur gf sound like me to some extend lol.

Ambition is third level of communication le..
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #35 on: May 09, 2018, 12:00:32 am »
Do you know what's your ex love language?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch
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« Reply #36 on: May 09, 2018, 04:55:06 am »
Do you know what's your ex love language?

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch

She belongs to 4 and 2.

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« Reply #37 on: May 09, 2018, 07:36:21 am »
She belongs to 4 and 2.

define "quality" time - what does she mean by that?  ???  it doesn't mean just spending time together .....

define "acts of service" - likewise,  what does that mean to her? ???
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« Reply #38 on: May 09, 2018, 10:35:36 am »
define "quality" time - what does she mean by that?  ???  it doesn't mean just spending time together .....

define "acts of service" - likewise,  what does that mean to her? ???

She would prefer to be happy whole day even doing anything simple.

Act of service - she would want me to plan everything and initiate everything. But sometimes I planned and she don’t like then just reject without giving me other option.

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« Reply #39 on: May 09, 2018, 12:50:59 pm »
She would prefer to be happy whole day even doing anything simple.

Act of service - she would want me to plan everything and initiate everything. But sometimes I planned and she don’t like then just reject without giving me other option.

Does she even like spending time with you? ???
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« Reply #40 on: May 09, 2018, 03:34:31 pm »
Does she even like spending time with you? ???

Not so much.

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« Reply #41 on: May 09, 2018, 03:51:03 pm »
Not so much.

I have the feeling that the relationship is on its last legs already.  for too long you have left it to deteriorate.

if she doesn't want to invest anymore in the relationship, I think this is what she would do - be disinterested in any of your attempts to inject more spice into the relationship.

she doesn't seem to care that you are planning anything or want to take part in any activities.

btw,  quality time is time spent in building the relationship and not pak computer game together.
nurturing a relationship is what couples do when they go on holidays for example to build experiences together. 
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« Reply #42 on: May 09, 2018, 05:22:27 pm »
She would prefer to be happy whole day even doing anything simple.

Act of service - she would want me to plan everything and initiate everything. But sometimes I planned and she don’t like then just reject without giving me other option.

Try this on your next girl lo,

"Honey guess where I want to bring u tml afternoon"
Den she will answer..
Den faster go book.... :D
Den u ma no need to play guessing game
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« Reply #43 on: May 09, 2018, 10:45:21 pm »
Sekali she guess "Tiffany & Co." .... how? how? how?  :-[
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« Reply #44 on: May 10, 2018, 01:09:50 am »
Sekali she guess "Tiffany & Co." .... how? how? how?  :-[

That means her love language must be receiving gifts. Gd to know early.
Den the next week tell her it's her turn to ask you.

Must be able to trade challenge with challenge right.
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