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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #15 on: December 26, 2017, 02:18:45 am »
Seems like guys always more vulnerable in r/s.

If no sexual advances yet should be easy to move on.  ??? Now there's like no costs involved to move on
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #16 on: December 26, 2017, 09:42:45 am »
Seems like guys always more vulnerable in r/s.

If no sexual advances yet should be easy to move on.  ??? Now there's like no costs involved to move on

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #17 on: December 26, 2017, 07:44:01 pm »
Hmmm .... that she "cares" is an oxymoron if she doesn't give a rats arse on your concern that she is not communicative enough in the r/s right?

And even as she acknowledge that there is a problem, she attempts to do zilch to salvage? That is not caring,  that's indifference ...

As i have said to many gals on flowerpod - buying breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper everyday doesn't make a guy special or worth marrying.  A good fren can do the same.

I just told her my ex contacted me. She just “lol” without even asking me anything.

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #18 on: December 26, 2017, 07:45:05 pm »
You are in a lesbian relationship????

I’m a guy. I felt this forum is good to get what girl is thinking as there is more genuine ladies as compare to other forums.


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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #19 on: December 26, 2017, 08:06:38 pm »
I just told her my ex contacted me. She just “lol” without even asking me anything.

Are you usually quite "sticky" type. Like need to contact throughout the day everyday and night. But yet when it comes to dating activities you are clueless on where to bring her and require her input always.

Think maybe she is getting really bored and low investment.

Show some alpha traits lehhh.

Her love language probably not fulfilled and she has probably communicated to you before.
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« Reply #20 on: December 26, 2017, 08:17:43 pm »
Are you usually quite "sticky" type. Like need to contact throughout the day everyday and night. But yet when it comes to dating activities you are clueless on where to bring her and require her input always.

Think maybe she is getting really bored and low investment.

Show some alpha traits lehhh.

Her love language probably not fulfilled and she has probably communicated to you before.

I’m definitely not those sticky type of guy. Having said I’m quite run out of dating ideas. Maybe old liao just wanna be practical.

What do you mean love language?

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« Reply #21 on: December 27, 2017, 12:08:36 am »
I’m definitely not those sticky type of guy. Having said I’m quite run out of dating ideas. Maybe old liao just wanna be practical.

What do you mean love language?

If you want to be practical,  it is better to fly solo and be single ....
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #22 on: December 28, 2017, 12:57:25 pm »
If you want to be practical,  it is better to fly solo and be single ....

We was arranging for some CNY eve reunion dinner.. and we have to visit each other family to have dinner and build rapport. Of course time may crash so I suggested her ideas to work around.. but she asked why must go and not like married yet.. fyi she did attend last year. She is e one not willing to accommodate each other schedule and work together.. I’m just very dissappointed she think this way.

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« Reply #23 on: December 28, 2017, 03:36:29 pm »
We was arranging for some CNY eve reunion dinner.. and we have to visit each other family to have dinner and build rapport. Of course time may crash so I suggested her ideas to work around.. but she asked why must go and not like married yet.. fyi she did attend last year. She is e one not willing to accommodate each other schedule and work together.. I’m just very dissappointed she think this way.

From the way she says it seems like she's waiting for you to initiate breakup Cz she's not interested anymore.
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #24 on: January 03, 2018, 12:17:03 am »
From the way she says it seems like she's waiting for you to initiate breakup Cz she's not interested anymore.

I share the same sentiments... perhaps she really isn't interested in a relationship anymore...

by the way, if you interested in a bit of astrology, Libras tend to be indecisive when it comes to choices haha... random sidenote

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #25 on: January 03, 2018, 03:15:41 pm »
It's either waiting u to initiate breakup or frustrated with a long overdue proposal.  :-[

She is Libra?  ???
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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #26 on: February 03, 2018, 04:09:45 pm »
We was arranging for some CNY eve reunion dinner.. and we have to visit each other family to have dinner and build rapport. Of course time may crash so I suggested her ideas to work around.. but she asked why must go and not like married yet.. fyi she did attend last year. She is e one not willing to accommodate each other schedule and work together.. I’m just very dissappointed she think this way.


If she think that way then probably it’s time to let go, no point of holding on to something so tightly and hurting yourself... probably when u leave she will know what is she missing. Good luck!

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Re: What should I do?
« Reply #27 on: May 08, 2018, 06:05:34 pm »
Is almost 6 months soon. I'm back with an undesirable outcome. She had initiated a breakup which I don't agree and tried ways to save it.

Break up reason mainly due to incompatible hobbies and interest, and communication issue. By communication I mean we don't talk much as stated in my previous post. I already tried my best to show concern to her but she just felt frustrated talking to me.

We still love each other, she just felt that since this problem has been there for so long and not improving, should break up early to prevent more heartache. I, otherwise feel that we should both make it work out by doing more activities.

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« Reply #28 on: May 08, 2018, 06:10:21 pm »
Is almost 6 months soon. I'm back with an undesirable outcome. She had initiated a breakup which I don't agree and tried ways to save it.

Break up reason mainly due to incompatible hobbies and interest, and communication issue. By communication I mean we don't talk much as stated in my previous post. I already tried my best to show concern to her but she just felt frustrated talking to me.

We still love each other, she just felt that since this problem has been there for so long and not improving, should break up early to prevent more heartache. I, otherwise feel that we should both make it work out by doing more activities.

What kind of activities? ???

I think the issue will not be solved by doing more of the same.

Simple things like taking a walk and pouring out your heart and soul does better than watching more movies together. Save money on tickets and popcorn too
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« Reply #29 on: May 08, 2018, 06:32:30 pm »
What kind of activities? ???

I think the issue will not be solved by doing more of the same.

Simple things like taking a walk and pouring out your heart and soul does better than watching more movies together. Save money on tickets and popcorn too

Activities such as prawning, cycling and etc.. Her character is more of watching dramas and reading books, while I'm more of exercise. Thus we have completely different hobbies.

Agree that taking a walk is good. If I have the chance again.