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She rejected me but I'm confused
« on: May 30, 2016, 07:16:20 pm »
Hi ladies, need your help to better understand what is going on here.

I just confessed to a girl and she rejected me. I actually confessed cause I thought from her actions that she likes me

Basically, we are in the same cca in uni for the past 3 months, and I grew to like her over time.

Her personality is the outgoing type and she hangs around well with guys. When she's around with me both alone and in a group, she would stand very close to me, and occassionally touch my arm playfully. Sometimes, she "accidentally" brushes her chest across me. Since she is usually friendly with guys, I tried observing how she behaves around other guys. With a few other guys, she would also stand pretty close to them, but she touches them less often and not as playfully. Occasionally, she seems to set the situation up for both of us to be alone and talk together privately

As our cca has ended, we will not see each other that often, so I took the chance to confess to her by writing a card and slipping it into her hostel room

She replied that she would love to continue hanging out with me and we should catch up often through dinners and stuff, and that she's currently seeing somebody else, although they just started off and are not official yet.

After I replied that I might have took her friendliness wrongly, she said that she treats me like a good friend.

So I'm really confused over her "friendliness" as to whether she treats me like a good friend all along or just rejected me politely because she's seeing somebody else. I'm also not too sure if she's really seeing another person or just made it up to reject me politely

Also, judging from her replies, is it possible to try and continue chasing her, or meet up with her often and hope that she likes me?

Could she be rejecting me although she likes me but out of various reasons?
« Last Edit: May 30, 2016, 07:21:17 pm by redrose »

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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2016, 10:00:05 pm »
No.1 rule - never confess.
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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2016, 10:20:27 pm »
I think she is treating you as a spare tyre. If the guy dump her, she is open to other options around.

Just be her good friend then.... chase her when she gets dumped

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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #3 on: May 31, 2016, 03:32:25 pm »
I think she is treating you as a spare tyre. If the guy dump her, she is open to other options around.

Just be her good friend then.... chase her when she gets dumped

This is foolish. Don't get used as backup.


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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #4 on: June 01, 2016, 09:52:41 pm »
Nah. Dun think too much.
Continue your life as per normal...

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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #5 on: July 04, 2016, 12:22:58 pm »
you say you think? but what you think and assume might not be the truth. PPl just dun like you that it

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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #7 on: July 04, 2016, 09:20:26 pm »
Anyway, she said it's not official, doesn't mean cannot go out with you.

She also want to continue hanging out with you.

If yes means no and no means yes, then what do you think is best now?


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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #8 on: July 04, 2016, 10:46:44 pm »
How does that work? haha

He needs to keep a level of ambiguity and the balance of power on his side ....  :-X :P ....

When a guy confesses, he thinks its a napshot but it isn't really ....
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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #9 on: July 05, 2016, 07:09:57 am »
He needs to keep a level of ambiguity and the balance of power on his side ....  :-X :P ....

When a guy confesses, he thinks its a napshot but it isn't really ....

like that ar... hmm...

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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #10 on: July 05, 2016, 10:58:47 am »
like that ar... hmm...

yupz ..... never lose the plot .....  :-X
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Re: She rejected me but I'm confused
« Reply #11 on: July 05, 2016, 06:16:40 pm »
Base on what you have shared.

My view is that she has put it in a very nice way. She reject and mention she is seeing someone currently. That leaves no more room.

You still can hang out with her but keep it strictly as friends and monitor. But don't have high hopes though.
Situation might turn around and might not. Is she worth your while to do so?

If not, take this as a closure and carry on. There are many trees in the forest.

Good luck!
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« Reply #12 on: July 05, 2016, 06:58:29 pm »
Agree with Gary ... don't lose sight of the forest because of 1 tree ..... there's a smorgasboard of choices out there folks .... 8) .... 
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« Reply #13 on: July 06, 2016, 12:11:53 am »
Agree with Gary ... don't lose sight of the forest because of 1 tree ..... there's a smorgasboard of choices out there folks .... 8) ....

It takes a while to drop her in your mind, that's natural.

Pick up a new hobby, do some work out to sharpen your body. Just occupy your time fully.
In due time, it will soon fade even if you bump into her.

I know because most of my clients encounter this too. :)

Good luck buddy!
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