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Hey i'm new here. Heard there's a mix of gender in this forum so i decided to see if i can get some opinions on this matter, hopefully no troll replies lol. WOT incoming.

I'm sure some of us have used okcupid.

Quite recently mid December i got to know a girl there. Exchanged like more than 200+ messages. We  talked on quite a number of topics and the messages can be really long from both of us, which i felt we were going the right direction. She comes online pretty often at least a few times a day even on weekdays. So come after xmas, i was thinking of asking for her contact but before i could she went missing for 4-5 days. This is uncommon as she usually logs in daily to chat but not she doesn't even come online. Yes... you can see last online status on okcupid.

So i left a message asking if everything's fine, she came back to me with an apology explaining about her hectic schedule due to work and the remainder of the message was a followup of the chat we had previously which is also quite lengthy. Although i think it is understandable but even if i'm busy i will find even just 1 min even in the washroom to cook up a reply personally. ???

Then..... she went MIA again, same thing not even coming online, now for almost 1 week or so. So yeah i kinda regret not asking her contact earlier on but my instinct tells me it seems like this is probably going no where and i should give up. Sigh....

So what do you guys/girls think?  :'(

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2016, 03:04:54 pm »
my gut feel says someone else made the move first .... but I could be wrong.

why not ask for her number the next time you see her on-line? ???

gambatte !

PS:  don't miss the forest because of one tree .....
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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2016, 03:07:22 pm »
Maybe she found a boyfriend already, or progressing with another guy. If before christmas and after christmas her schedule is the same then too bad lah....but like what she said her schedule is crazy busy, then you can't do anything also mah....

Just ask her for number like what I always did in this forum. Don't let the chance slip.

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2016, 03:09:02 pm »
Does she initiates in texting you after she MIA?
For those who know me, I am back!!!


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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2016, 03:10:36 pm »
I've never used OKcupid before and have no idea on this.

Does she have pictures there or did she send you any?

According to what you know, is she a local or other nationality?

It could be a scam. If you send me pictures, I can tell you if those pics have been used in scams.

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #5 on: January 08, 2016, 03:12:18 pm »
I've never used OKcupid before and have no idea on this.

Does she have pictures there or did she send you any?

According to what you know, is she a local or other nationality?

It could be a scam. If you send me pictures, I can tell you if those pics have been used in scams.

I may not look like it, but I stare at picture whole day to analyse. Send me too to double confirm...

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #6 on: January 08, 2016, 03:13:56 pm »
if someone suddenly disappears.
it's time to move on.
没有心,就不会痛 😉

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #7 on: January 08, 2016, 03:14:59 pm »
Maybe her account kena locked for scamming?


I may not look like it, but I stare at picture whole day to analyse. Send me too to double confirm...

There are a few ways to check if a pic has been taken off another website or used in scams.

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #8 on: January 08, 2016, 03:16:39 pm »
if someone suddenly disappears.
it's time to move on.

wei ask u thing bo reply, ai si ahhh

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #9 on: January 08, 2016, 03:36:19 pm »
Does she initiates in texting you after she MIA?

Not sure if you call this initiate but before she MIA I asked if she's alright. Few days later she replied out of the blue.

Kind of confused here cause if she didn't want to carry on she could have just made do without this reply and not lead me on.

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #10 on: January 08, 2016, 03:37:34 pm »
I've never used OKcupid before and have no idea on this.

Does she have pictures there or did she send you any?

According to what you know, is she a local or other nationality?

It could be a scam. If you send me pictures, I can tell you if those pics have been used in scams.

Yeah she had pictures. I know her name, where she works and where she studied.

Local.

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #11 on: January 08, 2016, 03:40:25 pm »
Not sure if you call this initiate but before she MIA I asked if she's alright. Few days later she replied out of the blue.

Kind of confused here cause if she didn't want to carry on she could have just made do without this reply and not lead me on.

you'd prefer that she was harsh instead of letting you down gently? ???
"A man who has depths in his shame meets his destiny and his delicate decisions upon paths which few ever reach."

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #12 on: January 08, 2016, 03:40:57 pm »
mean girl not interested in you.

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #13 on: January 08, 2016, 03:42:09 pm »
Not sure if you call this initiate but before she MIA I asked if she's alright. Few days later she replied out of the blue.

Kind of confused here cause if she didn't want to carry on she could have just made do without this reply and not lead me on.

it's ok. they just lost their motive of chatting w u.
for my case was digging certain info frm me after tat disappeared.

wen the fella reappeared. this time I fed him with false info 😁😁😂

you must be v young. gd to learn to let go.
« Last Edit: January 08, 2016, 03:45:52 pm by happyshar »
没有心,就不会痛 😉

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Re: Seeking opinion - Sudden disappearance after texting for 3 weeks
« Reply #14 on: January 08, 2016, 03:45:40 pm »
Yeah she had pictures. I know her name, where she works and where she studied.

Local.

She could be using someone's pictures. Chio or not?