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RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« on: October 15, 2015, 01:03:22 am »
Honestly, seems like a hornet's nest was stirred up today. I can't speak for all women but I feel that I should say something. So here goes.

Women are by and large maternalistic creatures (read again, I said maternalistic, not materialistic). It may be conscious or subconscious but wanting the best for your offspring often weighs heavily on the minds of women. In a country where failure is unacceptable and competition is rife, getting a headstart for your kids seems like a pretty important thing to me.

Income naturally comes into play. Just because your husband is rich doesn't mean your family would be happy. Of course. But having a healthier income means that more doors are open to your children. There is also the question of personal financial stability. It is definitely possible to eke out a living with a lower income. But what if you want to have a few kids and have to sacrifice your own career? Becoming a housewife is not a bad thing, but indirectly places you at the mercy of your husband, from the financial perspective. I mean, he probably won't be running off with some sweet young thing, but what if he gets into an accident? What happens next to you and your kids? Was your family income high enough to buffer for this tempestuous weather?

There are definitely women out there who want the money to themselves. But hey, not all of us think like that. And in all honesty, declaring a desired income for a partner means that the guy has a visible target. Its not an necessarily an impossible task. Compare that with wanting big boobs with skin that remains smooth forever. That is hardly achievable.

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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
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« Reply #2 on: October 15, 2015, 01:18:18 am »
i'm definitely on the boat with realistic women. unrealistic women are definitely a no no. some materialism is fine but of course too much is toxic.
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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #3 on: October 15, 2015, 01:31:51 am »
Honestly, seems like a hornet's nest was stirred up today. I can't speak for all women but I feel that I should say something. So here goes.

Women are by and large maternalistic creatures (read again, I said maternalistic, not materialistic). It may be conscious or subconscious but wanting the best for your offspring often weighs heavily on the minds of women. In a country where failure is unacceptable and competition is rife, getting a headstart for your kids seems like a pretty important thing to me.

Income naturally comes into play. Just because your husband is rich doesn't mean your family would be happy. Of course. But having a healthier income means that more doors are open to your children. There is also the question of personal financial stability. It is definitely possible to eke out a living with a lower income. But what if you want to have a few kids and have to sacrifice your own career? Becoming a housewife is not a bad thing, but indirectly places you at the mercy of your husband, from the financial perspective. I mean, he probably won't be running off with some sweet young thing, but what if he gets into an accident? What happens next to you and your kids? Was your family income high enough to buffer for this tempestuous weather?

There are definitely women out there who want the money to themselves. But hey, not all of us think like that. And in all honesty, declaring a desired income for a partner means that the guy has a visible target. Its not an necessarily an impossible task. Compare that with wanting big boobs with skin that remains smooth forever. That is hardly achievable.

Very well said. Guys just don't get it  ::)


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« Reply #4 on: October 15, 2015, 07:50:48 am »
Honestly, seems like a hornet's nest was stirred up today. I can't speak for all women but I feel that I should say something. So here goes.

Women are by and large maternalistic creatures (read again, I said maternalistic, not materialistic). It may be conscious or subconscious but wanting the best for your offspring often weighs heavily on the minds of women. In a country where failure is unacceptable and competition is rife, getting a headstart for your kids seems like a pretty important thing to me.

Income naturally comes into play. Just because your husband is rich doesn't mean your family would be happy. Of course. But having a healthier income means that more doors are open to your children. There is also the question of personal financial stability. It is definitely possible to eke out a living with a lower income. But what if you want to have a few kids and have to sacrifice your own career? Becoming a housewife is not a bad thing, but indirectly places you at the mercy of your husband, from the financial perspective. I mean, he probably won't be running off with some sweet young thing, but what if he gets into an accident? What happens next to you and your kids? Was your family income high enough to buffer for this tempestuous weather?

There are definitely women out there who want the money to themselves. But hey, not all of us think like that. And in all honesty, declaring a desired income for a partner means that the guy has a visible target. Its not an necessarily an impossible task. Compare that with wanting big boobs with skin that remains smooth forever. That is hardly achievable.

So if a guy with 7k/month take home salary comes into the equation, he is willing to spend on his kids education and utility bills etc, but being a frugal mam would NEVER spending on your purchases and travel holidays etc, would you still accept him?

He is more than capable of providing a shelter for your family and food on the table. But any luxuries and any pamper for yourself you would have to pay using your own salary. Would you want this man to be your husband?
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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2015, 08:07:22 am »
Honestly whats wrong with expecting the best for you and your family! I think 7k is not that much especially seeing how fresh graduates overseas earn a starting pay of roughly 6k

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« Reply #6 on: October 15, 2015, 08:12:02 am »
So if a guy with 7k/month take home salary comes into the equation, he is willing to spend on his kids education and utility bills etc, but being a frugal mam would NEVER spending on your purchases and travel holidays etc, would you still accept him?


He is more than capable of providing a shelter for your family and food on the table. But any luxuries and any pamper for yourself you would have to pay using your own salary. Would you want this man to be your husband?

True, I mean let's just say,  let's just call a spade a spade, don't wiggle out of it. Like the above edmwer mentioned, would you marry a man who earn a 20k per month, but no luxuries whatsoever, no getaway trip, no car.

Pretty obvious what's the real reason for that "7k" requirement right?

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« Reply #7 on: October 15, 2015, 08:14:53 am »
True, I mean let's just say,  let's just call a spade a spade, don't wiggle out of it. Like the above edmwer mentioned, would you marry a man who earn a 20k per month, but no luxuries whatsoever, no getaway trip, no car.

Pretty obvious what's the real reason for that "7k" requirement right?

You men should instead not trying to wiggle out of this. If you can't earn a sizeable income, you're not capable enough. Period. Dont blame it on our expectations

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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #8 on: October 15, 2015, 08:17:37 am »
Very well said. Guys just don't get it  ::)

Brilliant! Dun get it again? C'mon guys, think harder.

Work harder for your moola. Being satisfied with a 5k salary is so facepalm. Having it lower just makes everything worse in their courtship or the eventual marriage. Getting chosen with this yardstick is akin to getting your school of choice if you score.  ???

Dun get started with girls being fat, ugly and flat. Materialistic wanting women is justified. Oh of course, even if one hits the $ mark, it just doesn't stop at the financial mark yo! It's call the whole package guys. After which, be scrutinized from emo state to physical/mental state. And because it is modern times, it not required for every women to be paternally prepared or capable. :P

Divorce initiations are growing with the women's expectations. In such modern times, expectations not met means time to move on. Buck up guys. Cruel realistic world. :(
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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #9 on: October 15, 2015, 08:44:07 am »
Honestly, seems like a hornet's nest was stirred up today. I can't speak for all women but I feel that I should say something. So here goes.

Women are by and large maternalistic creatures (read again, I said maternalistic, not materialistic). It may be conscious or subconscious but wanting the best for your offspring often weighs heavily on the minds of women. In a country where failure is unacceptable and competition is rife, getting a headstart for your kids seems like a pretty important thing to me.

Income naturally comes into play. Just because your husband is rich doesn't mean your family would be happy. Of course. But having a healthier income means that more doors are open to your children. There is also the question of personal financial stability. It is definitely possible to eke out a living with a lower income. But what if you want to have a few kids and have to sacrifice your own career? Becoming a housewife is not a bad thing, but indirectly places you at the mercy of your husband, from the financial perspective. I mean, he probably won't be running off with some sweet young thing, but what if he gets into an accident? What happens next to you and your kids? Was your family income high enough to buffer for this tempestuous weather?

There are definitely women out there who want the money to themselves. But hey, not all of us think like that. And in all honesty, declaring a desired income for a partner means that the guy has a visible target. Its not an necessarily an impossible task. Compare that with wanting big boobs with skin that remains smooth forever. That is hardly achievable.

If your reason is for the kids, why can't the woman herself earn the bucks?

I believe in 50% 50% contribution between wife and husband, and keeping the expenses at the range that is affordable.

There are stay home dads nowadays too.

One moment, ladies asking not to be labelled as gcp coz of the bag they use as they earn their own bacon. Next moment, ladies are looking for guys who can "take care" of the family. Isn't that contradicting?  ???

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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #10 on: October 15, 2015, 08:46:57 am »
Was reading through the posts, had this thought.

There will always be materialistic gals out there whose criterias are centered on the 5c. Conversely, there are also guys out there who expect the world too want their gals to look pretty/sexy; at the same time possess good figure, low maintainence, can cook, take cate of chikdren etc.

So is it wrong for either side to have such expectations? After thinking through, I may not agree with it and to me it seems unrealistic but hey it may not be not wrong.

Everyone has their own definition of happiness n what they want in life as long as its not criminal or anything, they are entitled to their views

So I think we can argue till the cows come home, there will not be an answer.

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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #11 on: October 15, 2015, 08:48:23 am »
If your reason is for the kids, why can't the woman herself earn the bucks?

I believe in 50% 50% contribution between wife and husband, and keeping the expenses at the range that is affordable.

There are stay home dads nowadays too.

One moment, ladies asking not to be labelled as gcp coz of the bag they use as they earn their own bacon. Next moment, ladies are looking for guys who can "take care" of the family. Isn't that contradicting?  ???

Yes, I agree with Lemon. If businesswomen are more capable in bringing home the dough, and her SO is ok with taking care of the home and work at home, it is still an overall positive work-life balance.  :)
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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #12 on: October 15, 2015, 09:00:43 am »
Honestly whats wrong with expecting the best for you and your family! I think 7k is not that much especially seeing how fresh graduates overseas earn a starting pay of roughly 6k

where did you get that 6K figure? When i graduated few years back everyone was offering me 11K at least.

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« Reply #13 on: October 15, 2015, 09:05:02 am »
where did you get that 6K figure? When i graduated few years back everyone was offering me 11K at least.

What I've heard is that the top IIT graduate was hired by Google and paid 240k p.a. USD last year. But that is hardly the norm.

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Re: RE: Women looking for husbands with high income
« Reply #14 on: October 15, 2015, 09:12:13 am »
So if a guy with 7k/month take home salary comes into the equation, he is willing to spend on his kids education and utility bills etc, but being a frugal mam would NEVER spending on your purchases and travel holidays etc, would you still accept him?

He is more than capable of providing a shelter for your family and food on the table. But any luxuries and any pamper for yourself you would have to pay using your own salary. Would you want this man to be your husband?

From ur analogy. No wonder there are many single guys :-[.