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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #30 on: August 06, 2018, 04:25:55 pm »
I think she could be either testing you or conversing with many people at the same time and mixed u up with someone else.

With this public warning service by the Straits Times, i think girls are more wary now

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/beware-the-danger-lurking-in-online-dating

Yup.... By right it should be relatively easy and convenience for one to get to make new friends online but just because of those bad sheeps with ill intention end up we became wary of one another.

Even me as a guy, I also feel wary sometimes.

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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #31 on: August 06, 2018, 05:35:02 pm »
Yup.... By right it should be relatively easy and convenience for one to get to make new friends online but just because of those bad sheeps with ill intention end up we became wary of one another.

Even me as a guy, I also feel wary sometimes.

Yeah .... i never hook girls from those sites like Tinder, OKC .... sekali is si chow ah qua lai de ...  :-\
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #32 on: August 06, 2018, 05:53:33 pm »
You ask her 爱好 or 爱爱? Got difference one leh :-X

Or u call her 小姐 is it, also got meaning  :-X
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #33 on: August 06, 2018, 05:57:02 pm »
Don't know if it is a good thing but she requested that we continue our conversions in Wechat instead of OKC.

I am more inclined to make new friends first instead of specifically finding the special someone.

Wechat is ok ba, I'm on there too, mainly for biz purpose.
(Though sometimes got prostitutes and strange sleazy guy or scammer which is,why I chg to guy profile on wechat lol)
Just rmb to off location finder too. Lol
Any messaging app got problem is due to ppl causing it rather than the messaging app got problem.
She maybe want to call or video call that's y go wechat? Or she mainly use that messaging app
« Last Edit: August 06, 2018, 06:09:07 pm by happyshar »
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #34 on: August 07, 2018, 09:10:56 am »
Yeah .... i never hook girls from those sites like Tinder, OKC .... sekali is si chow ah qua lai de ...  :-\

Not easy to make new friends in those online dating platform also.....

It is just like approaching strangers in public just that you know that the stranger is also looking for a relationship and thus we will be wary of one another.

And for online dating, there is a possibility that the other party could be a guy disguised as a lady.
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #35 on: August 07, 2018, 09:12:20 am »
You ask her 爱好 or 爱爱? Got difference one leh :-X

Or u call her 小姐 is it, also got meaning  :-X

I messaged her 'Just wondering what is your hobby outside work?' and she thought I am looking for casual sex or hook ups.

Not as if my message to her contains any sexual references nor I have such intentions either.

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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #36 on: August 07, 2018, 12:39:56 pm »
Not easy to make new friends in those online dating platform also.....

It is just like approaching strangers in public just that you know that the stranger is also looking for a relationship and thus we will be wary of one another.

And for online dating, there is a possibility that the other party could be a guy disguised as a lady.

Yupz.... better meet in public and well lit places first for coffee before committing further to jalan jalan in park,  dark movie theatre or Hotel81....

Don't want surprises of a guy hoping to play your backside or some 千年女妖 waiting to take your life force .... :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #37 on: August 07, 2018, 03:36:15 pm »
Yupz.... better meet in public and well lit places first for coffee before committing further to jalan jalan in park,  dark movie theatre or Hotel81....

Don't want surprises of a guy hoping to play your backside or some 千年女妖 waiting to take your life force .... :-[ :-[ :-[ :-[

I heard of some gays who likes to target straight men lol.....

But then I think it is better to get to know more people and increase the chances of meeting the right one rather than looking for that specific someone to begin a relationship with.

There's a reason why I don't usually use dating apps during my personal time outside work.

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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #38 on: August 07, 2018, 04:11:38 pm »
I heard of some gays who likes to target straight men lol.....

But then I think it is better to get to know more people and increase the chances of meeting the right one rather than looking for that specific someone to begin a relationship with.

There's a reason why I don't usually use dating apps during my personal time outside work.

I think for some of those si chow gays is like achievement unlocked if they managed to do so .....
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #39 on: August 20, 2018, 11:48:49 am »
Haiz.... The only two ladies who have messaged me have 'ghosted' i.e cut off contact with me.  :(

And the other ladies that I have messaged does not reply to me.

Really need to focus more on other channels in order to find my right girl. :(


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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #40 on: August 20, 2018, 01:20:52 pm »
Haiz.... The only two ladies who have messaged me have 'ghosted' i.e cut off contact with me.  :(

And the other ladies that I have messaged does not reply to me.

Really need to focus more on other channels in order to find my right girl. :(

I think if you try 10 times and still receive the same results .... then maybe should consider that your technique needs to correct course? ???

it may not be the lack of channels but the want of hook in your messaging ....
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #41 on: August 21, 2018, 08:50:02 am »
I think if you try 10 times and still receive the same results .... then maybe should consider that your technique needs to correct course? ???

it may not be the lack of channels but the want of hook in your messaging ....

Haiz..... It's more like trying 100 times and still the same.... :( I also don't know what went wrong..... :(

I have changed my photos to better ones and also tweaked my profile details... Also my messages to the ladies isn't just a 'Hi' or 'Hello' but rather I mentioned something regarding their profiles for example if she mentioned that she is an introvert my message to her will be something like 'Hi, I suppose it is not easy for an introvert to interact with strangers even on online platform?'

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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #42 on: August 21, 2018, 12:28:34 pm »
Haiz..... It's more like trying 100 times and still the same.... :( I also don't know what went wrong..... :(

I have changed my photos to better ones and also tweaked my profile details... Also my messages to the ladies isn't just a 'Hi' or 'Hello' but rather I mentioned something regarding their profiles for example if she mentioned that she is an introvert my message to her will be something like 'Hi, I suppose it is not easy for an introvert to interact with strangers even on online platform?'

I agree that using a presentable photo counts ...

I always use this photo



But why are you underlining her insecurities by emphasing her "introvertness"? ???

I never talk about her big boobs when i message a girl with big boobies de ...
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #43 on: August 23, 2018, 08:51:32 am »
I agree that using a presentable photo counts ...

I always use this photo



But why are you underlining her insecurities by emphasing her "introvertness"? ???

I never talk about her big boobs when i message a girl with big boobies de ...

Hmm.... Many of the profiles there actually have limited information. Nor that their pictures give any hints of their hobbies, characterstics etc, so I can only use the limited information from her profile to strike a talk with her.

But then one thing is certain, I will refrain from using any sexual references since I am looking for a serious relationship not hookups or ONS.

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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #44 on: August 23, 2018, 09:09:25 am »
Another thing that I have realised is that, it seems quite hard to find new friends of similar hobbies in those online dating sites.

I think I have mentioned earlier that my hobby is collectible collections but I realised that those ladies in OKC tend to have very different hobbies likes traveling around the world frequently.

Then for another dating site Coffee Meets Bagel - the ladies that the app attempts to match me with is too 'atas' for me with professions like lawyer, doctor, senior executives etc while I am just a small Associate Engineer..

It seems that those ladies that I can really click with might not be lurking around at those dating sites....