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Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« on: July 31, 2018, 09:08:24 am »
Recently I got quite active on online dating platforms like OKCupid, Coffee Meets bagel and even the SDN online network but then I find it a waste of time somehow.

For OKC I have been sending messages to hundreds of ladies (and most of them are just normal looking, not those chio type) but not a single replies from them. And the only message that I received there was just a simple 'Hi' from one ladies who fall way below my expectation.

For Coffee meets Bagel I just got involved in it and have sent likes to several ladies but not replies also. Also that site got many ladies with professions like lawyer, doctor etc which are out of my reach. Then for the SDN online network, fine enough since it was not a popular channel for singles to look for their right one most members might be inactive there.

The more I swipe their profiles, the more I feel like I am wasting my time and I'd rather consider some other channels to get to meet the right one I suppose. :(

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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #1 on: August 01, 2018, 04:14:10 pm »
I think enjoy process very impt ba,
If only focus on the outcome which is to find partner, it's very Sian?
Just use the app u often enjoy using lor,
I heard stories gt online buyer married their online seller, or met their other half thru hobby, or thru gaming etc.
Similarity was they didn't focus on finding other half but was doing what they enjoyed doing.

U know like someone who likes to buy meets someone who likes to sell.
Someone who likes to play games meet similar.
Someone who like to find fishing kaki found wife thru same hobby.
« Last Edit: August 01, 2018, 04:16:02 pm by happyshar »
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #2 on: August 01, 2018, 04:26:26 pm »
Yupz.... i also prefer to know as friends. No pressure and expectations .... 闪友 FTW ...

You can join such groups ....
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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2018, 09:28:16 am »
I think enjoy process very impt ba,
If only focus on the outcome which is to find partner, it's very Sian?
Just use the app u often enjoy using lor,
I heard stories gt online buyer married their online seller, or met their other half thru hobby, or thru gaming etc.
Similarity was they didn't focus on finding other half but was doing what they enjoyed doing.

U know like someone who likes to buy meets someone who likes to sell.
Someone who likes to play games meet similar.
Someone who like to find fishing kaki found wife thru same hobby.

Yupz.... i also prefer to know as friends. No pressure and expectations .... 闪友 FTW ...

You can join such groups ....

I agree that making friends and enlarging social circle first is better and more 'natural' than online dating.

Somehow I find online dating very superficial as we usually judge whether we would like to proceed to the next stage just based on a few pictures in the profile and some information there and we might miss out on those who might be suitable for us. Also, online dating is somewhat like approaching strangers on the street just that they have the same intention of looking for that special one. But then our culture have teach us to be more wary on strangers.....

And yes I am now thinking of platforms other than online dating to better my chance of meeting the right one.... Like through hobbies as you suggested or through friends' introduction.

For online dating platform, think I will not pin too much hope on it and I will put less priority on it and will only play with it during my free time at work.....
« Last Edit: August 02, 2018, 09:30:28 am by Ah Tiong »


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Re: Is online dating effective or a waste of time?
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2018, 01:32:56 pm »
I tried using online dating website before. I forgot what was the name of the online dating site. My parent pressured me to get a gf, so my so-called step elder brother recommended me to use those online dating website to find where he has successfully found one and is currently his wife now. I registered to that website, put my dull photos in where I was doing Darui from Naruto's poses  :P because he was my favorite Naruto's character at that time  :P but in the end, nothing :( girls don't view my profile. My step brother said that I have to imitate and message to girls first. So, I find a beautiful, busty, sweet looking, younger than me ones and send a message to one of them. This was my message iirc: "Hi, I am interested in you babe, wanna date cutie?" and no reply even though she is still online :( I tried sending the same message to other as well, but still no reply too. So it is waste of time to me :P

My sister went to a dating agency and look for a bf. She successfully found a guy who is like about 40 plus years old, but he looks quite young to me :o They have been dating like for two years now. Seems like dating agency work fast, but they need to pay some fees to the agency, this was what I heard from her while online dating is free, but slow.
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« Reply #5 on: August 02, 2018, 02:40:54 pm »
I tried using online dating website before. I forgot what was the name of the online dating site. My parent pressured me to get a gf, so my so-called step elder brother recommended me to use those online dating website to find where he has successfully found one and is currently his wife now. I registered to that website, put my dull photos in where I was doing Darui from Naruto's poses  :P because he was my favorite Naruto's character at that time  :P but in the end, nothing :( girls don't view my profile. My step brother said that I have to imitate and message to girls first. So, I find a beautiful, busty, sweet looking, younger than me ones and send a message to one of them. This was my message iirc: "Hi, I am interested in you babe, wanna date cutie?" and no reply even though she is still online :( I tried sending the same message to other as well, but still no reply too. So it is waste of time to me :P

My sister went to a dating agency and look for a bf. She successfully found a guy who is like about 40 plus years old, but he looks quite young to me :o They have been dating like for two years now. Seems like dating agency work fast, but they need to pay some fees to the agency, this was what I heard from her while online dating is free, but slow.

Actually I have tried dating agency before and end up not only wasting my time but also wasting my money.

I have 'shortlisted' some ladies for one-to-one meetup but none were interested despite having the dating agency as 'middle person'. And those ladies mostly are just normal looking.

So IMO unless you can get replies or meetups in online dating sites, it's better not to waste the money on dating agencies. :(

As for sending messages to ladies, I tend to be more 'conservative' in this case and I will ask them questions based on their profiles or I will ask them on their hobbies if their profiles does not state any.
« Last Edit: August 02, 2018, 02:45:05 pm by Ah Tiong »

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« Reply #6 on: August 02, 2018, 05:45:03 pm »
Actually I have tried dating agency before and end up not only wasting my time but also wasting my money.

I have 'shortlisted' some ladies for one-to-one meetup but none were interested despite having the dating agency as 'middle person'. And those ladies mostly are just normal looking.

So IMO unless you can get replies or meetups in online dating sites, it's better not to waste the money on dating agencies. :(

As for sending messages to ladies, I tend to be more 'conservative' in this case and I will ask them questions based on their profiles or I will ask them on their hobbies if their profiles does not state any.
maybe dating agency are meant for urgent needs to have gf or bf  :P I remember my parent kept on nagging my sister to find a bf and she had no choice but to spend her money on dating agency

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« Reply #7 on: August 03, 2018, 12:12:14 am »
I agree that making friends and enlarging social circle first is better and more 'natural' than online dating.

Somehow I find online dating very superficial as we usually judge whether we would like to proceed to the next stage just based on a few pictures in the profile and some information there and we might miss out on those who might be suitable for us. Also, online dating is somewhat like approaching strangers on the street just that they have the same intention of looking for that special one. But then our culture have teach us to be more wary on strangers.....

And yes I am now thinking of platforms other than online dating to better my chance of meeting the right one.... Like through hobbies as you suggested or through friends' introduction.

For online dating platform, think I will not pin too much hope on it and I will put less priority on it and will only play with it during my free time at work.....

Do what u like to do lo, if manage to find partner den also good .. next time if do your hobby won't nag at u but will accompany u lol.
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« Reply #8 on: August 03, 2018, 12:13:42 am »
maybe dating agency are meant for urgent needs to have gf or bf  :P I remember my parent kept on nagging my sister to find a bf and she had no choice but to spend her money on dating agency

Idk y I get this feeling that online dating apps are either for urgent ons or urgent marriage .. hmmm ..
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« Reply #9 on: August 03, 2018, 12:19:24 am »
I tried using online dating website before. I forgot what was the name of the online dating site. My parent pressured me to get a gf, so my so-called step elder brother recommended me to use those online dating website to find where he has successfully found one and is currently his wife now. I registered to that website, put my dull photos in where I was doing Darui from Naruto's poses  :P because he was my favorite Naruto's character at that time  :P but in the end, nothing :( girls don't view my profile. My step brother said that I have to imitate and message to girls first. So, I find a beautiful, busty, sweet looking, younger than me ones and send a message to one of them. This was my message iirc: "Hi, I am interested in you babe, wanna date cutie?" and no reply even though she is still online :( I tried sending the same message to other as well, but still no reply too. So it is waste of time to me :P

My sister went to a dating agency and look for a bf. She successfully found a guy who is like about 40 plus years old, but he looks quite young to me :o They have been dating like for two years now. Seems like dating agency work fast, but they need to pay some fees to the agency, this was what I heard from her while online dating is free, but slow.

Maybe they are guys with girl profile pictures to camp for pickup lines so that they can reuse those lines?

Maybe u can try chiobu profile then see what other guys do.. lol
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« Reply #10 on: August 03, 2018, 08:04:38 am »
I tried using online dating website before. I forgot what was the name of the online dating site. My parent pressured me to get a gf, so my so-called step elder brother recommended me to use those online dating website to find where he has successfully found one and is currently his wife now. I registered to that website, put my dull photos in where I was doing Darui from Naruto's poses  :P because he was my favorite Naruto's character at that time  :P but in the end, nothing :( girls don't view my profile. My step brother said that I have to imitate and message to girls first. So, I find a beautiful, busty, sweet looking, younger than me ones and send a message to one of them. This was my message iirc: "Hi, I am interested in you babe, wanna date cutie?" and no reply even though she is still online :( I tried sending the same message to other as well, but still no reply too. So it is waste of time to me :P

My sister went to a dating agency and look for a bf. She successfully found a guy who is like about 40 plus years old, but he looks quite young to me :o They have been dating like for two years now. Seems like dating agency work fast, but they need to pay some fees to the agency, this was what I heard from her while online dating is free, but slow.

if you put those anime pictures,  girls might think that you are ohtaku mah ....

and your selection filter are those beautiful busty ones? ???

and your opening line is - "Hi, I am interested in you babe, wanna date cutie?"  ..... :-X
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« Reply #11 on: August 03, 2018, 09:04:17 am »
Idk y I get this feeling that online dating apps are either for urgent ons or urgent marriage .. hmmm ..

Actually from what I observed there are many ladies (not sure for guys) who are not serious in those online apps as their profile lacks information like hobbies etc and they doesn't seem to be online often.

Some might have create an account for fun or have abandoned their accounts....

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« Reply #12 on: August 03, 2018, 09:07:18 am »
maybe dating agency are meant for urgent needs to have gf or bf  :P I remember my parent kept on nagging my sister to find a bf and she had no choice but to spend her money on dating agency

From my experience I feels that those online apps can also do whatever those dating agencies can do.

That time I used dating agency, not as if the consultant there 'encouraged' the ladies to agree for my request for one-on-one meeting.

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« Reply #13 on: August 03, 2018, 09:09:27 am »
Maybe they are guys with girl profile pictures to camp for pickup lines so that they can reuse those lines?

Maybe u can try chiobu profile then see what other guys do.. lol

Heard that there are many guys around who used a fake female account for the purpose of 'testing' and see how much likes and messages can a lady gets.

So needs to be extra careful when in OKC.

Anyway finally I received a message reply in OKC but till now there is no replies from her after I replied her back yesterday evening..... :(

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« Reply #14 on: August 03, 2018, 10:33:18 am »
if you put those anime pictures,  girls might think that you are ohtaku mah ....
it is me in anime's character pose  :P

and your selection filter are those beautiful busty ones? ???
yes

and your opening line is - "Hi, I am interested in you babe, wanna date cutie?"  ..... :-X
and yes  :P