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is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« on: November 15, 2015, 10:21:14 pm »
don't one feel that if love is without reason and without logical explanation, it is quite dangerous?  as one gets smitten without knowing why, can't see flaws in partner. And besides that a feeling doesn't know how to behave it can come it can very well go in the same manner, without reason.

what's your take on this? 😒
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2015, 10:47:36 pm »
I think mostly is fweel de ...

Maybe it has a fleeting and illogical explosion in the beginning,

Then it settles into a rhythm ....

Sustaining the rhythm and flow, dealing with the highs and lows takes some logical thinking ....

Actually i don't know ....

And i think people who have affairs are those who want to reattain the illogical high and fweel from that initial kaboom ... when the heart goes boom-boom-boom .... can always sustain that high? ??? tell me when you reach nirvana ...
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2015, 10:58:48 pm »
@happyshar - are you given to melancholy this evening?   :P
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2015, 11:10:51 pm »
Personally, I think need to balance both. Need to have feels and be logical at the same time. I also believe that most love will fade over time, like in old age. So it's good to be with someone who can click with.

Without love, can't sustain. But without logic, also cannot. So need to balance both.


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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #4 on: November 15, 2015, 11:24:39 pm »
@happyshar - are you given to melancholy this evening?   :P

no leh. dun make me sound like gt bipolar hor~~~ ○○▪¤☆ me still 😁😁😁 usually I'm happier in the morning n more serious once the sky turns dark~

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hehe.. cz I notice my so in recent months switch from logical to abit different like not thinking right. feels abit like smitten.
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #5 on: November 15, 2015, 11:26:17 pm »
Personally, I think need to balance both. Need to have feels and be logical at the same time. I also believe that most love will fade over time, like in old age. So it's good to be with someone who can click with.

Without love, can't sustain. But without logic, also cannot. So need to balance both.

me has always been logical. whenever I find myself guided by emotions I take out a piece of paper and do a cost-benefit analysis. :-/
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #6 on: November 16, 2015, 07:47:58 am »
me has always been logical. whenever I find myself guided by emotions I take out a piece of paper and do a cost-benefit analysis. :-/

a cost-benefit analysis can be done with a bff to give u a clearer pic. but usually such analysis bcomes useless la.. cuz u end up following your heart again, haiz... nu ren shi fan jian de
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #7 on: November 16, 2015, 08:26:02 am »
I think love is both. It started with a feeling and then u need to make a decision to love the person and accept everything.

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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #8 on: November 16, 2015, 09:38:27 am »
love is a feeling.....
but marriage is a logical decision....

dun just because you love the person then just marry him/her....

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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #9 on: November 16, 2015, 01:36:06 pm »
To me, like is a feeling.
Love is a conscious decision that you made.

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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #10 on: November 16, 2015, 02:08:19 pm »
sometimes the feeling is an unconscious decision .....  :-X
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #11 on: November 16, 2015, 02:13:55 pm »
sometimes the feeling is an unconscious decision .....  :-X

It is a subconscious decision made by logical assumptions and often mistaken incorrectly as instinct, when they are actually memories of logical assistance in your genes passed down through the ages in consultations with your ancestors.

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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #12 on: November 16, 2015, 02:17:10 pm »
wah. so chim ahhhh.

usually me make decision is logical one leh.

although I have experience feelings v long ago I didn't execute anythg based on feelings.

my so says that if decision is based on logic then its a transaction / deal not love leh. lol. me disagree!!!
cz if like dat den means to be in love one must be of unsound mind? :-l
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #13 on: November 16, 2015, 02:18:39 pm »
sometimes the feeling is an unconscious decision .....  :-X

I think that's how moths fly to fire to perish???:(:(:(
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Re: is love a feeling or a logical decision?
« Reply #14 on: November 16, 2015, 02:25:54 pm »
I think that's how moths fly to fire to perish???:(:(:(

@happyshar @MistralAstra - which is why every time on FP when I see posts by gals saying that those paramours telling them earnestly that they have deep feelings for them,  I begin by asking:

"Please clarify and ask them whether those deep feelings are coming from between their legs?"

if it were the case, my next reply to them is:

"Please kiap your legs tight-tight okies" ......  muacks muacks  :-* :-*
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