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I think a lot depends on your work environment bah...

If u r in a all same sex work environment, then sitting around waiting for the one to appear is going to be more difficult then striking lottery.

Even if u want to strike lottery, u hv to go to the Singapore pools to buy the ticket then hv chance...

But if you are prepared to walk the road alone, then u can wait and see if the one will drop into your lap... Becos then u won't hv any regrets for whichever direction your life takes

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I feel that ppl shouldn't write a list of criteria that they want their other halves to be.
Instead, they should have a simple list of criteria that they don't want their other halves to have.
For e.g. my list will include non smoker, no religion/not religious etc.

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Even if u want to strike lottery, u hv to go to the Singapore pools to buy the ticket then hv chance...
zeh zeh outdated liao!  8)

http://www.singaporepools.com.sg/en/spa/Pages/htplobvp.aspx
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I feel that ppl shouldn't write a list of criteria that they want their other halves to be.
Instead, they should have a simple list of criteria that they don't want their other halves to have.
For e.g. my list will include non smoker, no religion/not religious etc.

I rmb ard 6 to 7 yrs ago in flowerpod got a thread abt writing down criteria.. and miraculously getting a bf delivered at the doorstep. think it was a discussion regarding a talk show by Oprah Winfrey or sth.

I did write down some criteria and 6 months later delivered. only short of 2 criteria leh...  :-X

I still have that book whr I wrote stuffs down. 😁😂
« Last Edit: April 17, 2016, 04:11:34 am by happyshar »
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poo42

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zeh zeh outdated liao!  8)

http://www.singaporepools.com.sg/en/spa/Pages/htplobvp.aspx

You still hv to contact Singapore pools, make the effort mah... That's my point lah ..didi

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I feel that ppl shouldn't write a list of criteria that they want their other halves to be.
Instead, they should have a simple list of criteria that they don't want their other halves to have.
For e.g. my list will include non smoker, no religion/not religious etc.

Well, I am also a believer of this; like having a simple list such as what you've mentioned above, but, when you really meet someone that felt like your soulmate that kind of things, whatever the person's character is will just override your list of criteria. Trust me. Love; is indeed blind. So blind that you might just lose your soul to the person that you fell in love with in the very first instance.

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Well, I am also a believer of this; like having a simple list such as what you've mentioned above, but, when you really meet someone that felt like your soulmate that kind of things, whatever the person's character is will just override your list of criteria. Trust me. Love; is indeed blind. So blind that you might just lose your soul to the person that you fell in love with in the very first instance.

it is still a choice ultimately and poor excuse if you ask me for anyone to stick with an inveterate gambler, womanizer, abuser etc.
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happyshar

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Well, I am also a believer of this; like having a simple list such as what you've mentioned above, but, when you really meet someone that felt like your soulmate that kind of things, whatever the person's character is will just override your list of criteria. Trust me. Love; is indeed blind. So blind that you might just lose your soul to the person that you fell in love with in the very first instance.

Actually I don't believe in fall in love. I only choose to be with someone logically. And there are some simple criteria lah.
When someone actually gives me the heart skipping feeling n vulnerability feeling of losing my Mind I actually go the opposite direction because it is "dangerous" when one is illogical in the presence of another. I have actually tested this type of feelings out and it passed in 3 months as in the feelings faded.

Also sometimes it's a matter of lack. If one has abundance of security and comfort and lack of scumbags in  one's life. one is attracted to a scummy guy which makes their heart skip beats it's better to run far far
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it is still a choice ultimately and poor excuse if you ask me for anyone to stick with an inveterate gambler, womanizer, abuser etc.

Yea I agree. He or she has to bear full responsibility for the choice that he or she made even despite having sound advice or warnings from family or friends whom can foresee that the other party may not be suited for the person.
Sometimes people think that once they enter into their lover's life, they would be able to "change" them. But sadly it takes two hands to clap.

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Actually I don't believe in fall in love. I only choose to be with someone logically. And there are some simple criteria lah.
When someone actually gives me the heart skipping feeling n vulnerability feeling of losing my Mind I actually go the opposite direction because it is "dangerous" when one is illogical in the presence of another. I have actually tested this type of feelings out and it passed in 3 months as in the feelings faded.

Also sometimes it's a matter of lack. If one has abundance of security and comfort and lack of scumbags in  one's life. one is attracted to a scummy guy which makes their heart skip beats it's better to run far far

Hahaa. Run far far away.. At the end of the day, love is human's basic need in life bah. we all need love.  Whether be it loving someone or just being loved.
Time will eventually prove how long a couple can last lopz regardless of whether is there the love element in or not and the person's character that will be moulded over the years.

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beaverjuice

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Actually I don't believe in fall in love. I only choose to be with someone logically. And there are some simple criteria lah.
When someone actually gives me the heart skipping feeling n vulnerability feeling of losing my Mind I actually go the opposite direction because it is "dangerous" when one is illogical in the presence of another. I have actually tested this type of feelings out and it passed in 3 months as in the feelings faded.

Also sometimes it's a matter of lack. If one has abundance of security and comfort and lack of scumbags in  one's life. one is attracted to a scummy guy which makes their heart skip beats it's better to run far far

please loh ..... yours is a unique detached personality trait and so it is a subconscious choice.  so if you are talking about doing the opposite, it would be to abandon caution and leap into the relationship ....

I know you how long liao .....
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Yea I agree. He or she has to bear full responsibility for the choice that he or she made even despite having sound advice or warnings from family or friends whom can foresee that the other party may not be suited for the person.
Sometimes people think that once they enter into their lover's life, they would be able to "change" them. But sadly it takes two hands to clap.

as they say,  man marry woman and expect her not to change while woman marry man and expect him to change .... never the twain shalt meet ...
"A man who has depths in his shame meets his destiny and his delicate decisions upon paths which few ever reach."

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please loh ..... yours is a unique detached personality trait and so it is a subconscious choice.  so if you are talking about doing the opposite, it would be to abandon caution and leap into the relationship ....

I know you how long liao .....

Doing opposite???  ???
Detached Will leap into relation?
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Doing opposite???  ???
Detached Will leap into relation?

Just saying that you should be doing the opposite of your instinct and character  ...
"A man who has depths in his shame meets his destiny and his delicate decisions upon paths which few ever reach."

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happyshar

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Just saying that you should be doing the opposite of your instinct and character  ...

For what if the cost outweighs the gain  ??? Leaping into unknown based on attraction which you can't quantify or put to words. If something renders me less powerful and less in control...It does not contribute positively. If one can feel that something is good but cannot state why, then it might just be the hormones.
« Last Edit: April 24, 2018, 01:32:08 am by happyshar »
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