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initiating cooling off and possible break up
« on: March 07, 2016, 03:26:34 pm »
is a guys response and words trustworthy when he doesn't want u to leave.

how to tell whether the words are for real.
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2016, 03:42:48 pm »
is a guys response and words trustworthy when he doesn't want u to leave.

how to tell whether the words are for real.

Did your boyfriend initiate a cooling period?

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2016, 03:46:56 pm »
by ur instinct lor. normally instinct is correct and accurate

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2016, 05:15:52 pm »
is a guys response and words trustworthy when he doesn't want u to leave.

how to tell whether the words are for real.
Ask him why he doesn't want you to leave and you might get the answer you want.
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #4 on: March 07, 2016, 05:23:35 pm »
Based on ? No info how to judge?

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #5 on: March 07, 2016, 05:26:44 pm »
Did your boyfriend initiate a cooling period?

I initiated it cz I don't wanna decide when I'm angry
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #6 on: March 07, 2016, 05:27:47 pm »
Ask him why he doesn't want you to leave and you might get the answer you want.

it's more of problems unsolved den make promises to resolve but doesn't sounds practical 😧 sound like delay until find solution
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #7 on: March 07, 2016, 05:43:21 pm »
it's more of problems unsolved den make promises to resolve but doesn't sounds practical 😧 sound like delay until find solution
So the cooling off period is basically his timeline to resolve the problems? Ultimatum, showhand, all-or-nothing?  :-X
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #8 on: March 07, 2016, 06:01:27 pm »
kinda bah. to let him know the seriousness of the prob
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #9 on: March 07, 2016, 06:35:03 pm »
if that the case, than see how he behave after the cooling period lor. if still the same. make ur own judgment see if u wan to leave or stay

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #10 on: March 07, 2016, 06:55:37 pm »
I see.. but if an ultimatum is issued and conditions are not complied, the threat has to be carried out or the problem will be worse in future.
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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #11 on: March 07, 2016, 07:18:54 pm »
is a guys response and words trustworthy when he doesn't want u to leave.

how to tell whether the words are for real.

Words don't mean anything. Its the actions that count.

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #12 on: March 07, 2016, 07:21:59 pm »
Words don't mean anything. Its the actions that count.

ironic when you say that...is that why you are still single while you desperately want to be attached.....words means nothing..little girl

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #13 on: March 07, 2016, 08:15:09 pm »
is a guys response and words trustworthy when he doesn't want u to leave.

how to tell whether the words are for real.

Actually if u expect your guy to change cos of ultimatum, it's a mistake. Even if he change now, he will revert after a while when danger is over.

You ask yourself if u still want to be with him if he still doesn't change, that's more impt...

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Re: initiating cooling off and possible break up
« Reply #14 on: March 07, 2016, 08:36:22 pm »
Actually if u expect your guy to change cos of ultimatum, it's a mistake. Even if he change now, he will revert after a while when danger is over.

You ask yourself if u still want to be with him if he still doesn't change, that's more impt...

There are some things that can't be changed.
If the changes only involve himself, he might change if he feels that it is for his own good.
However, if the change involves his family, i think it will be difficult.
Are you prepared to leave him?