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I still loved my girlfriend after what she did to me.
« on: June 22, 2018, 11:51:44 pm »
I worked in construction industry, usually long hours and weekends so I had little time to spend with her. I brought her travelling overseas all expenses paid, every meal is my treat, movies, and stuff as she just started working.

She one day told me that she wanted me to get her out of her house asap, my family itself also struggling abit so I also providing for my family, but I promised her I will get it but it takes time, she agreed to it.

So there I was, full speed ahead, sometimes clocking 356 hrs a month, every off day I will meet her without fail. But as I work I don't text as it's dangerous on site.

I worked like this for 3.5 yrs, recently in March I finally had enough for the downpayment for a BTO, I got promoted and I am ready to proposed to her, got her a YSL bag she always wanted, gotten a Cartier ring for proposal, on the day of my promotion I went out dinner and wanted to propose to her, ring at my pocket and bloody happy, then she told me let's break up, as she is seeing another man for a month now, had sex twice with him.

I was devastated, I wanted to married her, walk to the end with her till death due us apart. I cried for a month almost every day. Everyday I worked I only can think of is her, I didnt see or chat with other girls with any ill intentions in mind, I don't go club I worry I will do things I regret, i worked hard for the future. She told me cause I am money minded, I didnt spend time with her.

Till now, i still love her the person she is....in my mind, things like, am I not good enough, am I ugly, am I lacking something, am I disposable....she told me she went with him out of fun and curiosity...

Recently she said she still loves me but she confused what she want in life...she wants time alone and wanted me to wait, but she didnt know how long she is going to take.

For me I don't mind waiting, 1 yr 2 yr 5 yr it doesn't matter, I am already planning to stay with you for the rest of my remaining life, those yrs are nothing.

I really dont know...

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Re: I still loved my girlfriend after what she did to me.
« Reply #1 on: June 23, 2018, 01:57:11 am »
Don't be stupid ... it is okay to out-grow a relationship ... never miss the forest for one tree ...  ;)

Just to add, you are not yet married ... so you can make the break-up easier by imagining how the other guy took her to H81 to hei-sho-hei-sho many times liao

Soon you will forget her by-the-by

You have fallen in love with love. Just some silly romanticised notion that you are holding fast to.  Holding fast to a value and not the person

Living well and doing well is the best "revenge" in coping with a breakup.  Concentrate on your career and build financial wealth. You will have no lack of chicks even if you are in your 50's
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Re: I still loved my girlfriend after what she did to me.
« Reply #2 on: June 24, 2018, 04:19:51 pm »
Pls don't buy her stories, she full well know your weak points and tries to manipulate you.

Now she's thinking of playing around first see if you still willing to stick around and wait after dat, and if you do, she gets a free pass next time. She doesn't care if you're hurt.

没有心,就不会痛 😉

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Re: I still loved my girlfriend after what she did to me.
« Reply #3 on: June 27, 2018, 01:13:09 pm »
How are you feeling now dear..
I hope you are feeling better... :-\

I worked in construction industry, usually long hours and weekends so I had little time to spend with her. I brought her travelling overseas all expenses paid, every meal is my treat, movies, and stuff as she just started working.

She one day told me that she wanted me to get her out of her house asap, my family itself also struggling abit so I also providing for my family, but I promised her I will get it but it takes time, she agreed to it.

So there I was, full speed ahead, sometimes clocking 356 hrs a month, every off day I will meet her without fail. But as I work I don't text as it's dangerous on site.

I worked like this for 3.5 yrs, recently in March I finally had enough for the downpayment for a BTO, I got promoted and I am ready to proposed to her, got her a YSL bag she always wanted, gotten a Cartier ring for proposal, on the day of my promotion I went out dinner and wanted to propose to her, ring at my pocket and bloody happy, then she told me let's break up, as she is seeing another man for a month now, had sex twice with him.

I was devastated, I wanted to married her, walk to the end with her till death due us apart. I cried for a month almost every day. Everyday I worked I only can think of is her, I didnt see or chat with other girls with any ill intentions in mind, I don't go club I worry I will do things I regret, i worked hard for the future. She told me cause I am money minded, I didnt spend time with her.

Till now, i still love her the person she is....in my mind, things like, am I not good enough, am I ugly, am I lacking something, am I disposable....she told me she went with him out of fun and curiosity...

Recently she said she still loves me but she confused what she want in life...she wants time alone and wanted me to wait, but she didnt know how long she is going to take.

For me I don't mind waiting, 1 yr 2 yr 5 yr it doesn't matter, I am already planning to stay with you for the rest of my remaining life, those yrs are nothing.

I really dont know...


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Re: I still loved my girlfriend after what she did to me.
« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2018, 01:38:37 am »
I worked in construction industry, usually long hours and weekends so I had little time to spend with her. I brought her travelling overseas all expenses paid, every meal is my treat, movies, and stuff as she just started working.

She one day told me that she wanted me to get her out of her house asap, my family itself also struggling abit so I also providing for my family, but I promised her I will get it but it takes time, she agreed to it.

So there I was, full speed ahead, sometimes clocking 356 hrs a month, every off day I will meet her without fail. But as I work I don't text as it's dangerous on site.

I worked like this for 3.5 yrs, recently in March I finally had enough for the downpayment for a BTO, I got promoted and I am ready to proposed to her, got her a YSL bag she always wanted, gotten a Cartier ring for proposal, on the day of my promotion I went out dinner and wanted to propose to her, ring at my pocket and bloody happy, then she told me let's break up, as she is seeing another man for a month now, had sex twice with him.

I was devastated, I wanted to married her, walk to the end with her till death due us apart. I cried for a month almost every day. Everyday I worked I only can think of is her, I didnt see or chat with other girls with any ill intentions in mind, I don't go club I worry I will do things I regret, i worked hard for the future. She told me cause I am money minded, I didnt spend time with her.

Till now, i still love her the person she is....in my mind, things like, am I not good enough, am I ugly, am I lacking something, am I disposable....she told me she went with him out of fun and curiosity...

Recently she said she still loves me but she confused what she want in life...she wants time alone and wanted me to wait, but she didnt know how long she is going to take.

For me I don't mind waiting, 1 yr 2 yr 5 yr it doesn't matter, I am already planning to stay with you for the rest of my remaining life, those yrs are nothing.

I really dont know...

Depends what you want to do with your life, easy way out is to condemn her being materialistic and move on. However, you do need to change ur style a bit.. over-pampering your woman does you no good.

The harder way? Your mentality got serious problem. Need to change else forever like this one... repeatedly self-abuse urself in a relationship.
Make the choice right, not making right choices.