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How do u love yourself before others?
« on: June 30, 2016, 07:44:32 pm »
Does it mean I should put myself as priority? Be a selfish bitch?

Or does it mean I should have more confidence?

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #1 on: June 30, 2016, 08:31:23 pm »
Does it mean I should put myself as priority? Be a selfish bitch?

Or does it mean I should have more confidence?

 :o

As vanillaicecream used to say - "never make someone a priority if you're not his priority".  It doesn't mean you have to be a bitch. I think it also means don't be a "door-mat" .... ;)

PS:  nothing to do with being selfish but rather not being selfless for the wrong reasons or for the wrong person
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #2 on: June 30, 2016, 08:43:48 pm »
http://petalbytes.com/chit-chat-corner/who's-your-female-role-model/

I think it also means that you define yourself by your own standards and not live by someone else's ....

I think so larrrrrrr ... my engrish not so good because i fail P5 and got kicked out of pri sch ... :(
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #3 on: June 30, 2016, 09:21:05 pm »
Does it mean I should put myself as priority? Be a selfish bitch?

Or does it mean I should have more confidence?

 :o

I always place myself first... second position goes to the person who makes me happy...
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #4 on: July 02, 2016, 10:35:51 am »
self-love is more of a sense of self-acceptance while selfishness is a sense of self-interest.
always placing ourselves as the top most priority without a care of how it will adversely affect people around us = selfishness. or in other words, selfishness = self-love without awareness.

this link might give you some examples on how to differentiate the two.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-paul-phd/selflessness_b_2750730.html
« Last Edit: July 02, 2016, 10:38:36 am by MiaMia »

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #5 on: July 02, 2016, 12:39:22 pm »
Agree miamia. Dun live ur life around someone else life. Need to had own self of worth.

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #6 on: July 02, 2016, 09:30:57 pm »
I see it as a way to help oneself before helping others.

For example, some businesses are in the way of service and helping others, let's use food. But if they cannot help themselves first, like putting reasonable prices to pay rent, they are unable to continue for long.

When it's family or friends, if one does not love oneself by taking care of their own health, how can they be healthy enough to take care of others?

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #7 on: July 03, 2016, 12:52:17 am »
learning to love ourselves before loving others actually is a reminder for us to not lose ourselves (our feelings, our principles, and what we truly are) when loving others.
ultimately you can just translate it to not letting your loved ones treat you like a doormat, and at the same time you shouldn't treat them as one too.

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #8 on: July 03, 2016, 02:45:56 am »
learning to love ourselves before loving others actually is a reminder for us to not lose ourselves (our feelings, our principles, and what we truly are) when loving others.
ultimately you can just translate it to not letting your loved ones treat you like a doormat, and at the same time you shouldn't treat them as one too.

haha actually I dun uds hw someone can love others before themselves?
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #9 on: July 03, 2016, 02:47:22 am »
self-love is more of a sense of self-acceptance while selfishness is a sense of self-interest.
always placing ourselves as the top most priority without a care of how it will adversely affect people around us = selfishness. or in other words, selfishness = self-love without awareness.

this link might give you some examples on how to differentiate the two.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/margaret-paul-phd/selflessness_b_2750730.html

agree to certain extent.
but the part abt selfishness is without awareness.
actually is AWARE but made choice to be selfish..
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #10 on: July 03, 2016, 11:45:48 am »
agree to certain extent.
but the part abt selfishness is without awareness.
actually is AWARE but made choice to be selfish..
alright so selfishness is self love without humanity then?
« Last Edit: July 03, 2016, 11:48:51 am by MiaMia »

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #11 on: July 03, 2016, 11:48:03 am »
haha actually I dun uds hw someone can love others before themselves?
I believe it's something they do without knowing? like how some girls stay in toxic relationships and allow themselves to be disrespected again and again?

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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #12 on: July 03, 2016, 01:20:07 pm »
Anyway @tauhuay not coming back here liao ....
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #13 on: July 03, 2016, 11:49:55 pm »
alright so selfishness is self love without humanity then?

it's selfishness with being practical.
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Re: How do u love yourself before others?
« Reply #14 on: July 04, 2016, 12:51:01 am »
it's selfishness with being practical.

erm, it's actually quite similar.  8)

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