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Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« on: January 22, 2016, 12:54:15 am »
Hi all... I'm a guy, early 30s, my GF is also early 30s. I have been with my GF for almost 2 years now, and she seems happy and loves me, but I must admit that my feelings for her have faded... I feel like she is just a friend now, and the romantic feelings have faded away...

We have a lot of trips planned, and another trip that is planned is to visit my family in MY (she has not met them yet). I just don't know what to do... I feel I should end it before she meets them, but I am afraid of making her cry and i would feel like a total jerk. But at the same time I also don't know if I should just "continue" and just keep quiet and go along the expected time line... But if I am honest, I don't think it will be happy for me in the long run.... But I don't want to shatter her world...

Can any girls give advice???? What should I do???

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #1 on: January 22, 2016, 02:15:04 am »
Hi all... I'm a guy, early 30s, my GF is also early 30s. I have been with my GF for almost 2 years now, and she seems happy and loves me, but I must admit that my feelings for her have faded... I feel like she is just a friend now, and the romantic feelings have faded away...

We have a lot of trips planned, and another trip that is planned is to visit my family in MY (she has not met them yet). I just don't know what to do... I feel I should end it before she meets them, but I am afraid of making her cry and i would feel like a total jerk. But at the same time I also don't know if I should just "continue" and just keep quiet and go along the expected time line... But if I am honest, I don't think it will be happy for me in the long run.... But I don't want to shatter her world...

Can any girls give advice???? What should I do???

just be a man and tell her...dun waste her time...

But then again, there must be something that motivates you to initiate the break up...u met someone else izzit izzit??
~Tearing me apart with words you wouldn't say~喜欢的人得不到,得到的人不珍惜~

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #2 on: January 22, 2016, 04:31:51 pm »
Hi all... I'm a guy, early 30s, my GF is also early 30s. I have been with my GF for almost 2 years now, and she seems happy and loves me, but I must admit that my feelings for her have faded... I feel like she is just a friend now, and the romantic feelings have faded away...

We have a lot of trips planned, and another trip that is planned is to visit my family in MY (she has not met them yet). I just don't know what to do... I feel I should end it before she meets them, but I am afraid of making her cry and i would feel like a total jerk. But at the same time I also don't know if I should just "continue" and just keep quiet and go along the expected time line... But if I am honest, I don't think it will be happy for me in the long run.... But I don't want to shatter her world...

Can any girls give advice???? What should I do???

tell early.. don't be too harsh.

u have no impetus to break up yet..  haven't meet someone new is it?
没有心,就不会痛 😉

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #3 on: January 22, 2016, 04:44:43 pm »
tell early.. don't be too harsh.

u have no impetus to break up yet..  haven't meet someone new is it?

just be a man and tell her...dun waste her time...

But then again, there must be something that motivates you to initiate the break up...u met someone else izzit izzit??

usually the case for guys but the problem is also the solution in itself - at least I think so larrrrrrr ..... :-X

my new gen advise is to do it .... as Nike says ...... YOLO ! .... 8)
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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #4 on: January 22, 2016, 04:56:43 pm »
please just be up front, dun waste the girl time. just tell her you fall for someone else can alrdy.

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #5 on: January 22, 2016, 04:58:08 pm »
No... I haven't met anyone else, honest! I just simply feel like the feelings have faded.

But, what would be your reaction if your bf just decided to break up? How would you want to be told? Just a random "let's talk" and then all this bad news??

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #6 on: January 22, 2016, 05:02:17 pm »
No... I haven't met anyone else, honest! I just simply feel like the feelings have faded.

But, what would be your reaction if your bf just decided to break up? How would you want to be told? Just a random "let's talk" and then all this bad news??

best is mutual agreement that feeling faded and both wants to break up 8)

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #7 on: January 22, 2016, 05:04:12 pm »
best is mutual agreement that feeling faded and both wants to break up 8)

Of course that's best... But I'm sure it's one sided. She definitely loves me. Haiz. Why is life so hard

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #8 on: January 22, 2016, 05:28:58 pm »
how you know. maybe girl putting up an act too. if you are not really committed to this r/s and no longer "love" her just break dun prolong her pain.

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #9 on: January 22, 2016, 05:34:10 pm »
TS, can't help u in this case. Your mind is already made up to break off liao. So, just do it. No point dragging it.

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #10 on: January 22, 2016, 05:52:14 pm »
TS, can't help u in this case. Your mind is already made up to break off liao. So, just do it. No point dragging it.

he wan to be seen as pure and innocent ma. other ppl ask him to break up too.

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #11 on: January 22, 2016, 06:00:42 pm »
he wan to be seen as pure and innocent ma. other ppl ask him to break up too.

Ya loh. Can see it from the way he wrote liao.

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #12 on: January 22, 2016, 06:39:13 pm »
Feelings fade :(
But it might happen to ur next gf also .. Also break ?

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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #13 on: January 22, 2016, 07:09:57 pm »
No... I haven't met anyone else, honest! I just simply feel like the feelings have faded.

But, what would be your reaction if your bf just decided to break up? How would you want to be told? Just a random "let's talk" and then all this bad news??
can tell that u hvnt meet someone else. cz if u hv u will just break alr...

if it's me will utterly shock if it's out of the blue.
pls give some heads up first la...

just in case.. maybe she is wondering hw to break too n welcoming ur action?
« Last Edit: January 22, 2016, 07:13:05 pm by happyshar »
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Re: Help!!! Don't know how to break up with GF
« Reply #14 on: January 22, 2016, 09:10:44 pm »
Of course that's best... But I'm sure it's one sided. She definitely loves me. Haiz. Why is life so hard

 :-[

Did u try to re-ignite the feelings or not? Love is hard work on both sides.