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Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« on: December 17, 2015, 10:00:21 am »
I stumbled upon his browsing history on a tablet where he synced his google account. Noticed he has been visiting Sammyboy forum and browsed through pubs with happy endings and massage parlors where you can get extra services. If you are familiar with that forum, you will know that guys share their "field reports" on the feedback and who they met etc.. and my hub was asking for contact of the place and about a week later, he responded and said so and so services not bad.. :(

I crashed, devastated, cried but in the end, I didn't manage to confront him. All because I didn't know how. We are married for 4years, dated for more than 10 and have a young child. I let this matter pass though I dropped hints that I know he's up to something no good by sending him some links on cheating husbands etc but at the back of my head, I still have this 心病 and hope someone can share what will they do if you are in my shoes.

I do not have solid evidence, I thought of checking his in-car camera etc or even tailing him when he goes out after dinner. Any advice?

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #1 on: December 17, 2015, 10:06:32 am »
First ask yourself what you really want to get out of this? Sounds like you want to catch him. Let's say if you found him red handed, does that cure your Xin Bing? Will that make you feel better?

Just curious. Having married for 4 years and have a child, how active are you and your hub in your bedroom affairs if you know what I mean? :-X no need for detailed description. Like, often or not etc and how often is often etc.
« Last Edit: December 17, 2015, 10:17:54 am by focus »
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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #2 on: December 17, 2015, 10:20:42 am »
I stumbled upon his browsing history on a tablet where he synced his google account. Noticed he has been visiting Sammyboy forum and browsed through pubs with happy endings and massage parlors where you can get extra services. If you are familiar with that forum, you will know that guys share their "field reports" on the feedback and who they met etc.. and my hub was asking for contact of the place and about a week later, he responded and said so and so services not bad.. :(

I crashed, devastated, cried but in the end, I didn't manage to confront him. All because I didn't know how. We are married for 4years, dated for more than 10 and have a young child. I let this matter pass though I dropped hints that I know he's up to something no good by sending him some links on cheating husbands etc but at the back of my head, I still have this 心病 and hope someone can share what will they do if you are in my shoes.

I do not have solid evidence, I thought of checking his in-car camera etc or even tailing him when he goes out after dinner. Any advice?

How did he respond after you hinted to him?
If he comes clean with his act (if he really had those extra services), what is your next step?

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #3 on: December 17, 2015, 10:28:07 am »
maybe BJ will have more indept information since he is the mod of sammyboy  :-X

but i dont know why you don't just ask him straight in the face? why must hint, sneak around and follow him? he is the one doing wrong, not you lei


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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #4 on: December 17, 2015, 10:50:35 am »
I tink if you dun wan ask him, than u must first find out if he really done all these. sometimes, guy just wan to boast but nvr really do anything to boast their ego.


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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #5 on: December 17, 2015, 10:52:30 am »
sigh.. I also agree and don't understand why I don't dare to confront him. I confided in one of his friends, we were quite close chit chat mates before I got married and he also asked what I want after confronting him. I worry what will happen if we split, then the kid how? Where will I stay, am I strong and stable enough to live without him.. Coz other than this "activity", he's a doting father and also takes care of me.

Bedroom wise, I must admit that he has initiated a few times but somehow, I'm just not in the mood especially after giving birth. And when I agree, it's really like "eng xiu" him, get it over and done with. This is also something where I wonder if I'm at fault that he turned towards this? I checked the account and noticed that he is a member after I popped, so maybe it's really the lack of bedroom activity. My self confidence is now at an all time low :(


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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #6 on: December 17, 2015, 10:55:05 am »
sigh.. I also agree and don't understand why I don't dare to confront him. I confided in one of his friends, we were quite close chit chat mates before I got married and he also asked what I want after confronting him. I worry what will happen if we split, then the kid how? Where will I stay, am I strong and stable enough to live without him.. Coz other than this "activity", he's a doting father and also takes care of me.

Bedroom wise, I must admit that he has initiated a few times but somehow, I'm just not in the mood especially after giving birth. And when I agree, it's really like "eng xiu" him, get it over and done with. This is also something where I wonder if I'm at fault that he turned towards this? I checked the account and noticed that he is a member after I popped, so maybe it's really the lack of bedroom activity. My self confidence is now at an all time low :(

Well... if he really goes to that kind of places, please ask him to wear a condom if you guys are having sex... who knows if he has contracted HIV or syphilis or those sexually transmitted diseases or not...

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #7 on: December 17, 2015, 10:56:03 am »
sigh.. I also agree and don't understand why I don't dare to confront him. I confided in one of his friends, we were quite close chit chat mates before I got married and he also asked what I want after confronting him. I worry what will happen if we split, then the kid how? Where will I stay, am I strong and stable enough to live without him.. Coz other than this "activity", he's a doting father and also takes care of me.

Bedroom wise, I must admit that he has initiated a few times but somehow, I'm just not in the mood especially after giving birth. And when I agree, it's really like "eng xiu" him, get it over and done with. This is also something where I wonder if I'm at fault that he turned towards this? I checked the account and noticed that he is a member after I popped, so maybe it's really the lack of bedroom activity. My self confidence is now at an all time low :(

But i feel that that is an excuse to cheat.
Anyways, he still has his right hand and left hand, right?

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #8 on: December 17, 2015, 10:58:42 am »
first of all, can you really forgive and forget. if he tell you he really got do this. Anyway check for prove first before you confront him. Guy normally will not admit till evidence are place in front of them

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #9 on: December 17, 2015, 11:01:11 am »
sigh.. I also agree and don't understand why I don't dare to confront him. I confided in one of his friends, we were quite close chit chat mates before I got married and he also asked what I want after confronting him. I worry what will happen if we split, then the kid how? Where will I stay, am I strong and stable enough to live without him.. Coz other than this "activity", he's a doting father and also takes care of me.

Bedroom wise, I must admit that he has initiated a few times but somehow, I'm just not in the mood especially after giving birth. And when I agree, it's really like "eng xiu" him, get it over and done with. This is also something where I wonder if I'm at fault that he turned towards this? I checked the account and noticed that he is a member after I popped, so maybe it's really the lack of bedroom activity. My self confidence is now at an all time low :(

actually ar, are you thinking too much.... you haven't even confirm with him, then you already thought of he cheating on you, sleeping with other people... is like haven't catch the chicken, thinking how to cook the chicken.. seekali there is no chicken at the first place lei

liike i always bio sexy, 6 packs men picture online especially they appear on my facebook wall.. but that's doesnt mean i really go and look for sexy & 6 packs men :P

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #10 on: December 17, 2015, 11:07:25 am »
But i feel that that is an excuse to cheat.
Anyways, he still has his right hand and left hand, right?

maybe sick of wife? since wife is not satisficing him? haiz, although we keep saying they got MS Right and MS left but man really think with their lower body.

it take a lot of will power to depend on Ms Right and Ms left only

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #11 on: December 17, 2015, 11:32:22 am »
When a husband goes out and cheat, why does a woman feel that it is her fault if she can't satisfy him?
Isn't marriage more than having sex?
By feeling that it is her fault, she is finding excuses or validating the excuse for the guy to cheat.
Cheating is cheating loh.
There is once, there might be a 2nd time too.

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #12 on: December 17, 2015, 11:36:59 am »
to me this is not counted as cheating. cheating to me is when your hubby outside got a mistress and bring the lady back home and it involve feeling between your hubby n the lady. then tat is cheating.

this is call normal arm length transaction. i can tell u that it is v hard for guys not to go to these kind of places. once a blue moon still ok.

since you say ur bed skill is not gd, then mayb he go out settle his needs liao then come back home back to normal. and also visit that place doesnt mean is full service. mayb just a normal hand job to let him release all this stress out.
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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #13 on: December 17, 2015, 11:42:17 am »
When a husband goes out and cheat, why does a woman feel that it is her fault if she can't satisfy him?
Isn't marriage more than having sex?
By feeling that it is her fault, she is finding excuses or validating the excuse for the guy to cheat.
Cheating is cheating loh.
There is once, there might be a 2nd time too.

ya. it not really the wife fault la. when one party in a marriage cheat. both party are at fault. but the one at most fault is the cheater.

But what TS really need to do now, it go find out if he really go these places. if really got. protect herself first go do body checkup, ask hubby go too. than see if she can really forgive him, and forget abt this incident

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Re: Found out hub going for sleazy massages
« Reply #14 on: December 17, 2015, 11:43:21 am »
to me this is not counted as cheating. cheating to me is when your hubby outside got a mistress and bring the lady back home and it involve feeling between your hubby n the lady. then tat is cheating.

this is call normal arm length transaction. i can tell u that it is v hard for guys not to go to these kind of places. once a blue moon still ok.

since you say ur bed skill is not gd, then mayb he go out settle his needs liao then come back home back to normal. and also visit that place doesnt mean is full service. mayb just a normal hand job to let him release all this stress out.

Oh.. then the wife can go outside and find ONS lah...