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First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« on: March 02, 2016, 06:50:02 pm »
Hey peeps,

Been texting and calling this lady for at least 3 weeks now. I scheduled a meet-up with this lady 1 week before and it was all fine even in the morning but she texted me 2 hours before the meet-up that she is bogged down by work, needs to OT and asks to reschedule to the next wed. She did mentioned that if i really can't make it next week she can still meet.

So i decided to tell her that i cancelled the dinner booking and will be hanging out with my friends, so if she still wants a drink/bite later on can give me a call. Also, ask her to let me know about the reschedule again. And..... she simply replied with an apology and that she appreciates it.

Errrrr.....inevitably i'm feeling disappointed and a little angry. Will have been better if she called me to cancel the meet-up instead of a text..... but oh well....

So what have i handled it in a right manner and how do you peeps think should i proceed from here? Any chance this is just a excuse for last minute rejection?

Looks like im gonna remain sadface for quite some time....

« Last Edit: March 02, 2016, 06:52:10 pm by verysadface »

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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #1 on: March 02, 2016, 06:59:19 pm »
@verysadface - don't worry about it. At worse she's got a case of cold-feet.

At best she's really bogged down with work.

Important thing is don't be anxious.

Good stuff comes to those with patience.

Sometimes better to adopt a little cavalier streak when it comes to wooing gals. And i don't mean it in extremes - if you catch my drift  ;)

Gambatte!

Edit: i meant to use nonchalence in place of cavalier
« Last Edit: March 02, 2016, 07:15:06 pm by beaverjuice »
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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #2 on: March 02, 2016, 08:35:21 pm »
Hey peeps,

Been texting and calling this lady for at least 3 weeks now. I scheduled a meet-up with this lady 1 week before and it was all fine even in the morning but she texted me 2 hours before the meet-up that she is bogged down by work, needs to OT and asks to reschedule to the next wed. She did mentioned that if i really can't make it next week she can still meet.

So i decided to tell her that i cancelled the dinner booking and will be hanging out with my friends, so if she still wants a drink/bite later on can give me a call. Also, ask her to let me know about the reschedule again. And..... she simply replied with an apology and that she appreciates it.

Errrrr.....inevitably i'm feeling disappointed and a little angry. Will have been better if she called me to cancel the meet-up instead of a text..... but oh well....

So what have i handled it in a right manner and how do you peeps think should i proceed from here? Any chance this is just a excuse for last minute rejection?

Looks like im gonna remain sadface for quite some time....

@verysadface Don't be sad. And don't think too much. I am sure she is really busy! But be prepared that if you guys become a couple in the future, she might cancel her dates with you at last minute due to work commitments.
My bf also cancels our date sometimes at the last min when he is busy with work and so, i can understand.

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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #3 on: March 02, 2016, 10:12:04 pm »
doesn't sound like anythg that bad..
just heck care and go busy. find another date.

a guy nd to knw hw tk care of himself b4 tking care of another gal.
« Last Edit: March 02, 2016, 10:13:39 pm by happyshar »
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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #4 on: March 02, 2016, 10:58:26 pm »
doesn't sound like anythg that bad..
just heck care and go busy. find another date.

a guy nd to knw hw tk care of himself b4 tking care of another gal.

Phuiyooooooohhhhh ..... quote for truth laaarrrrrr ....  8)
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« Reply #5 on: March 02, 2016, 11:16:18 pm »
Actually if no expectation then no disappointment.  Just take it easy, still got next time.
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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #6 on: March 03, 2016, 09:06:31 am »
Hey peeps,

Been texting and calling this lady for at least 3 weeks now. I scheduled a meet-up with this lady 1 week before and it was all fine even in the morning but she texted me 2 hours before the meet-up that she is bogged down by work, needs to OT and asks to reschedule to the next wed. She did mentioned that if i really can't make it next week she can still meet.

So i decided to tell her that i cancelled the dinner booking and will be hanging out with my friends, so if she still wants a drink/bite later on can give me a call. Also, ask her to let me know about the reschedule again. And..... she simply replied with an apology and that she appreciates it.

Errrrr.....inevitably i'm feeling disappointed and a little angry. Will have been better if she called me to cancel the meet-up instead of a text..... but oh well....

So what have i handled it in a right manner and how do you peeps think should i proceed from here? Any chance this is just a excuse for last minute rejection?

Looks like im gonna remain sadface for quite some time....

dont listen to this new generation girls here....just move on and get some other girls and women, dont and never settle for a woman or girl that blew you off, this girls or tramps here know what it like to blew nice innocent guy off as they like the attention, never give the girl attention unless it is worthy, treat them like how you would treat yourself, if she blew you off, blew her off, move on, have some balls for sake and dont let it shrink with these new generation attention seekers tramps here....

be a man, do the right thing for yourself

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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #7 on: March 03, 2016, 09:08:15 am »
Hey peeps,

Been texting and calling this lady for at least 3 weeks now. I scheduled a meet-up with this lady 1 week before and it was all fine even in the morning but she texted me 2 hours before the meet-up that she is bogged down by work, needs to OT and asks to reschedule to the next wed. She did mentioned that if i really can't make it next week she can still meet.

So i decided to tell her that i cancelled the dinner booking and will be hanging out with my friends, so if she still wants a drink/bite later on can give me a call. Also, ask her to let me know about the reschedule again. And..... she simply replied with an apology and that she appreciates it.

Errrrr.....inevitably i'm feeling disappointed and a little angry. Will have been better if she called me to cancel the meet-up instead of a text..... but oh well....

So what have i handled it in a right manner and how do you peeps think should i proceed from here? Any chance this is just a excuse for last minute rejection?

Looks like im gonna remain sadface for quite some time....

if it is only one time, fine, dont get mad, dont be like your typical nasty ass new generation singlish guy that is SO SELF-ENTITLED TO GET ATTENTION FROM A LADY, BE A MAN, UES LOGIC AND EMPATHY, IF IS ONE TIME, HOLD YOUR COOL DOWN, IF IT MORE THAN ONE TIME, SCREW HER AND MOVE ON.......CHERISH YOURSELF BEFORE CHERISH OTHERS..

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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #8 on: March 03, 2016, 09:25:32 am »
I'm feeling bipolar  ...... :-\
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« Reply #9 on: March 03, 2016, 10:40:53 am »
TS, a lot of ppl just use txt instead of call nowadays, she just busy ma. if she reschedule ur dates again . maybe it time to move on

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« Reply #10 on: March 03, 2016, 11:25:23 am »
I'm feeling bipolar  ...... :-\
Have you ever met someone who is bipolar?
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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #11 on: March 03, 2016, 11:40:03 am »
Have you ever met someone who is bipolar?

I think got date before .....  :-[

Is this a rhetorical question?  :P ... i do see some postings ......  :-X
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Re: First Meet-up Cancelled and rescheduled. How should i react?
« Reply #12 on: March 03, 2016, 01:42:30 pm »
white noise... white noise
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« Reply #13 on: March 03, 2016, 02:01:50 pm »
I think got date before .....  :-[

Is this a rhetorical question?  :P ... i do see some postings ......  :-X
Nope, just curious to know more about the bipolar condition.  If you really dated one before, you will know it is not the same as girls having extreme mood swings.

People who are bipolar have manic periods where they can go into a 'berserk' state of extreme productivity or destruction.
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« Reply #14 on: March 03, 2016, 02:29:51 pm »
Hey peeps,

Been texting and calling this lady for at least 3 weeks now. I scheduled a meet-up with this lady 1 week before and it was all fine even in the morning but she texted me 2 hours before the meet-up that she is bogged down by work, needs to OT and asks to reschedule to the next wed. She did mentioned that if i really can't make it next week she can still meet.

So i decided to tell her that i cancelled the dinner booking and will be hanging out with my friends, so if she still wants a drink/bite later on can give me a call. Also, ask her to let me know about the reschedule again. And..... she simply replied with an apology and that she appreciates it.

Errrrr.....inevitably i'm feeling disappointed and a little angry. Will have been better if she called me to cancel the meet-up instead of a text..... but oh well....

So what have i handled it in a right manner and how do you peeps think should i proceed from here? Any chance this is just a excuse for last minute rejection?

Looks like im gonna remain sadface for quite some time....

How did u get to know about dis gal? Dating app? mutual friends?