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Re: Female friends, early 30s and still very single.
« Reply #165 on: December 01, 2017, 08:51:06 am »
not to generalise, but many singaporean guys really cannot make it.
expect us females to cook. I mean, this is what century? if i stay home as homemaker, then yes maybe i really ought to cook

but i am working like u guys too, bringing back the bacon.

and there are guys out there who still don't like that their wives work.... simi logic is this?
year 2015 leh, not 1915 leh.

carry a bit of branded handbag, then kanna labelled gold-digger.
i dont understand why some guys can splurge on car, car accessories, watches, tv, computers, mobile phones, but we buy a little nicer handbags, we are labelled?

some guys told me they dont want to approach any lady that carries a bag because they assume they (guys) are not fit for them liao.
waaaay to score.

pls dont judge us girls just because of a handbag we wear, or a lipstick color we have.
or just because our skirts a bit shorter (in case the guys dont realise it, we short girls have to wear short skirts to make our legs longer and appear taller!!!)

we dont put make up, we are labelled lazy and worse, UGLY.
no guys like us
put make up too much, we are labelled THICK LAYER OF CAKE and laughed at.
please tell us what to do.
u think we were born knowing how to put on the optimal level of make up? we don't learn this in sec school. we have to pay for workshops, or trial and errors.

and do u guys know how much cosmetic costs? 1 bloody lipstick costs $100.
thats $100 u guys can treat us to 4 meals. (casual dining)
and u guys complain that u guys have to pay for dinner everytime.
I havent even calculate the foundation, eye liner eye shadow etc etc

If i dont spend the money and just go plain, because i want to save more money, then I would be laughed as an ugly woman.

this is the truth abt singaporean men. many good men are taken up by the lucky girls, leaving all these jokers who think that we singaporean women are too good for them, so they bring some ladies from overseas.

I met a girl 6 years ago while being married to my ex wife, a typical spoilt local girl. My ex wife was emotionally abusive. She had 2 affairs and blamed me with the most bizarre reasons. I tried to salvage the marriage again and again in vain. I finally gave up and waited for her to divorce me given the fear of the women's charter. She eventually found another man, 3rd one and divorced me. I gave her more money than she contributed to end things quick.

This girl I met was through mutual friends. We went out on charity events and got together as a couple after I gave up my marriage after 8 years but before the 6 years of dreadful wait to divorce. My ex-wife's sense of entitlement would have robbed me of everything. She demanded 75% of my income as maintainence the last time she wanted a divorce and only stopped when her new bf dumped her.  Even though I was still married, this new girl stayed by me. She's above average looking, 166cm/53kg, highly educated, comes from an above average family. No lack of better suitors but she rejected them all and stayed with me.

She doesn't splurge and is frugal. I make 3x more than I used to 11 years ago and so I occasionally splurge on her with holidays in Europe, Australia and East Asia but she always makes it a point to ensure I have good amount of savings despite all that.

I asked her to move in after my divorce was finalised, i got to keep the flat and the pet. After moving in, she insisted to cook for me and does most of the household chores without complaint and this went on for months. I was completely touched by this and I quickly made it a point to help out as much as possible. When I need to work from home during the weekends, she stops me from helping so I could concentrate on my work. When I went on business trips, she stayed faithfully waiting for me to call her on whatsapp when I'm back in the hotel even when we are of different timezone.

She makes it a point to put on some light make up when we go out as a sign of respect for her man even though she still can make some heads turn without make up.

My car is about to expire and while considering a new car, she encourages me to buy something inexpensive focusing on practicality instead, a far cry from what I have now.

She is everything you are not and I love her, appreciate her faithfulness, sacrifice and dedication to make our relationship work. She does not make excuses like you do. 21st century or not, efforts put in are still efforts. Though I don't expect her to cook or do household chores (i could have hired someone every fortnight), she went ahead and took ownership of her place in the relationship and made a real difference. She could have allowed me to buy bags that cost thousands or asked for expensive jewelleries and I would have tried to give her but she didn't. Instead, she wanted me to manage my finances instead investing them in places that count. I make it a point that she pays nothing whenever we are together,  try to make more money myself so i can afford doing that.  This is my show of respect to her efforts.

We have already gotten a date to marry at the beginning of next year and I am prepared to start a family with her. Something i never dared to think of with my ex wife.

And also, she's a PRC.

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Re: Female friends, early 30s and still very single.
« Reply #166 on: December 01, 2017, 11:38:51 am »
I met a girl 6 years ago while being married to my ex wife, a typical spoilt local girl. My ex wife was emotionally abusive. She had 2 affairs and blamed me with the most bizarre reasons. I tried to salvage the marriage again and again in vain. I finally gave up and waited for her to divorce me given the fear of the women's charter. She eventually found another man, 3rd one and divorced me. I gave her more money than she contributed to end things quick.

This girl I met was through mutual friends. We went out on charity events and got together as a couple after I gave up my marriage after 8 years but before the 6 years of dreadful wait to divorce. My ex-wife's sense of entitlement would have robbed me of everything. She demanded 75% of my income as maintainence the last time she wanted a divorce and only stopped when her new bf dumped her.  Even though I was still married, this new girl stayed by me. She's above average looking, 166cm/53kg, highly educated, comes from an above average family. No lack of better suitors but she rejected them all and stayed with me.

She doesn't splurge and is frugal. I make 3x more than I used to 11 years ago and so I occasionally splurge on her with holidays in Europe, Australia and East Asia but she always makes it a point to ensure I have good amount of savings despite all that.

I asked her to move in after my divorce was finalised, i got to keep the flat and the pet. After moving in, she insisted to cook for me and does most of the household chores without complaint and this went on for months. I was completely touched by this and I quickly made it a point to help out as much as possible. When I need to work from home during the weekends, she stops me from helping so I could concentrate on my work. When I went on business trips, she stayed faithfully waiting for me to call her on whatsapp when I'm back in the hotel even when we are of different timezone.

She makes it a point to put on some light make up when we go out as a sign of respect for her man even though she still can make some heads turn without make up.

My car is about to expire and while considering a new car, she encourages me to buy something inexpensive focusing on practicality instead, a far cry from what I have now.

She is everything you are not and I love her, appreciate her faithfulness, sacrifice and dedication to make our relationship work. She does not make excuses like you do. 21st century or not, efforts put in are still efforts. Though I don't expect her to cook or do household chores (i could have hired someone every fortnight), she went ahead and took ownership of her place in the relationship and made a real difference. She could have allowed me to buy bags that cost thousands or asked for expensive jewelleries and I would have tried to give her but she didn't. Instead, she wanted me to manage my finances instead investing them in places that count. I make it a point that she pays nothing whenever we are together,  try to make more money myself so i can afford doing that.  This is my show of respect to her efforts.

We have already gotten a date to marry at the beginning of next year and I am prepared to start a family with her. Something i never dared to think of with my ex wife.

And also, she's a PRC.

congratulations !   

are you in the EDMW ah-tiong bu / wetnam bu / puying bu club izziiit? ....  can gai siao me to ah-tiong bu or not? 
« Last Edit: December 01, 2017, 12:20:35 pm by beaverjuice »
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Re: Female friends, early 30s and still very single.
« Reply #167 on: December 01, 2017, 02:32:19 pm »
congratulations !   

are you in the EDMW ah-tiong bu / wetnam bu / puying bu club izziiit? ....  can gai siao me to ah-tiong bu or not?

No I am not.
I just wanted to share my side of the story against the flawed arguments that the different era exempts women from responsibilities.

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Re: Female friends, early 30s and still very single.
« Reply #168 on: December 01, 2017, 02:36:52 pm »
I believe Singaorean ladies are at least 400% better than all other women around and please believe me I am not racist, I have been dating quite few ladies and sorry to say, they were spot on "professionals" and not going for love and family but just gold diggers or worst..

I am divorced and 50, working for a bank and trying to build a family; I thought I could have a chance (Im good looking) but every one treats me either as a wallet or worst.

So I guess the problem is where to find a good looking Singaporean lady who wants family
And don't worry I love making gifts and see my wife in nice dresses and high heels every single day.

But seems the problem is that Singaporean ladies despite what has being written above, don't really are open to foreigners (I am Caucasian European and scientist and educated person, and I didn't drop from the sky here, employers offered me the job).
Then all foreign national girls come and literally fill up the place, leaving us no room for choice.

So, I am with you, I love to see a well dressed woman and all, but I think the problem is, where to find her??!!! And I mean Singaporean - not other immigrants that came here escaping their country's conditions and throw themselves to anyone having a condo (kindly don't scold me as discriminating, first, we all know the reality and second, we all have preferences, so I'm looking for a feminine Singaporean lady having a normal job, which I thought is not that much to ask)

Thanks for reading so far.

I assure you there are still good men looking for local ladies to start a family. But please communicate..

Thank you and all the blessings for Singapore

Wow your singlish really up to par with the locals here wor. Confirm European and scientist and educated  ???
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Re: Female friends, early 30s and still very single.
« Reply #169 on: December 01, 2017, 02:41:05 pm »
I met a girl 6 years ago while being married to my ex wife, a typical spoilt local girl. My ex wife was emotionally abusive. She had 2 affairs and blamed me with the most bizarre reasons. I tried to salvage the marriage again and again in vain. I finally gave up and waited for her to divorce me given the fear of the women's charter. She eventually found another man, 3rd one and divorced me. I gave her more money than she contributed to end things quick.

This girl I met was through mutual friends. We went out on charity events and got together as a couple after I gave up my marriage after 8 years but before the 6 years of dreadful wait to divorce. My ex-wife's sense of entitlement would have robbed me of everything. She demanded 75% of my income as maintainence the last time she wanted a divorce and only stopped when her new bf dumped her.  Even though I was still married, this new girl stayed by me. She's above average looking, 166cm/53kg, highly educated, comes from an above average family. No lack of better suitors but she rejected them all and stayed with me.

She doesn't splurge and is frugal. I make 3x more than I used to 11 years ago and so I occasionally splurge on her with holidays in Europe, Australia and East Asia but she always makes it a point to ensure I have good amount of savings despite all that.

I asked her to move in after my divorce was finalised, i got to keep the flat and the pet. After moving in, she insisted to cook for me and does most of the household chores without complaint and this went on for months. I was completely touched by this and I quickly made it a point to help out as much as possible. When I need to work from home during the weekends, she stops me from helping so I could concentrate on my work. When I went on business trips, she stayed faithfully waiting for me to call her on whatsapp when I'm back in the hotel even when we are of different timezone.

She makes it a point to put on some light make up when we go out as a sign of respect for her man even though she still can make some heads turn without make up.

My car is about to expire and while considering a new car, she encourages me to buy something inexpensive focusing on practicality instead, a far cry from what I have now.

She is everything you are not and I love her, appreciate her faithfulness, sacrifice and dedication to make our relationship work. She does not make excuses like you do. 21st century or not, efforts put in are still efforts. Though I don't expect her to cook or do household chores (i could have hired someone every fortnight), she went ahead and took ownership of her place in the relationship and made a real difference. She could have allowed me to buy bags that cost thousands or asked for expensive jewelleries and I would have tried to give her but she didn't. Instead, she wanted me to manage my finances instead investing them in places that count. I make it a point that she pays nothing whenever we are together,  try to make more money myself so i can afford doing that.  This is my show of respect to her efforts.

We have already gotten a date to marry at the beginning of next year and I am prepared to start a family with her. Something i never dared to think of with my ex wife.

And also, she's a PRC.

Ok this WOT is believable. PrC v positive attitude and hardworking , would choose em over local staff anytime
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Re: Female friends, early 30s and still very single.
« Reply #170 on: December 01, 2017, 04:16:54 pm »
No I am not.
I just wanted to share my side of the story against the flawed arguments that the different era exempts women from responsibilities.

orhhhhhh ...... chiu mean chiur benchmark is your mother izziiiiiit? ???

but serious larrrrr ..... I want to know more ah-tiong bu ..... got look like Fan BingBing type or not?
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