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Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« on: June 22, 2017, 06:58:52 pm »
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Originally Posted by Whirling_Dervish:
I wouldn’t call this the most brutal rejection that I have received, but it was certainly the most memorable one.


Once upon a time, when I was still young and naïve, I used to like this guy, guy X, from the next door class in JC.

He wasnt the type of guy that most girls would take to. He wasnt good looking and was quite chubby (really looks like a cuddly teddy bear).

He wasnt well to do; his parents were hawkers, but he was extremely filial. And because of his circumstances, he suffered from an extreme lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, but he really had a heart of gold which I have never found before nor ever found since.

We became very close friends as we shared similar aspirations, values and outlooks in life. At the same time, I felt that I was ready and wanted to take the friendship to the next level, and I made sure that I spared no expense and detail in making this very clear to him.

We would spend every break in between tutorials studying together, and we were very comfortable in each other's presence even though we didnt speak; we had chemistry.

I would pack lunch for him every friday because I didnt want him to just eat cai png with only 1 vegetable side dish on friday (his allowance only afforded him normal meals [aka cai png with 1 meat and 1 veg] from mondays to thursdays, and on Friday, he only had money for cai png with one vegetable side dish), and he was too proud to accept my money if i offered to buy for him.

After school, sometimes I would visit his parents at the stall with him to help out (I was only allowed to serve customers and not help in the cooking ).

However, at the same time, I also had this other "friend", guy Y, who too wanted to take our friendship to the next level and tried to ask me out, but I declined because I was not interested in him and did not want to waste his time and money.

He then issued an unfair ultimatum: either we escalate our friendship and be more than just friends, or our friendship was over. I really liked him as a friend up till then, but I really didnt see us together, and I already have someone else in my heart, so I had to reject him with a heavy heart.

However, he didnt not take it in his stride and overnight, I became his enemy. He went around telling others that I was stuck up, arrogant and basically a spoilt b**ch, and that I played with his heart.

And this news got to my crush, and to be honest, I thought he would brush it off and stand by my side. But I guess his insecurities got the better of him, and he believed it. He wondered why would I want to get together with him even when he thought he had nothing to offer me. He felt extremely insecure. He thought that he was just an easy target for me to play around with and once I got bored of him, I would toss him aside, just as I had the other guy.

So he decided to cut off all contact with me and ignored me, and for a long while, I really had no idea what was going on, why the 180-degree change? And because school had ended and the pre A-level break had started, I did not have the chance to explain or find out what was wrong from him in person. I guess the karma of rejecting guy Y came back to bite me.

And during the study break, I broke down almost every day and cried till my eyes turned puffy. I had to lock myself in my room so that my parents would not see me in that condition and worry about me. But I was fortunate that I managed to do well enough for the As and not let my emotions get the better of me, and managed to get into a local U.

But along the way, after Sem 1, I decided to change course and study overseas instead. And in the interim, X was serving his national service. Since after the A levels, I have tried to contact him, but was not successful. But one day, he replied and we managed to have a good chat reminiscing about the old days and I told him that I was going abroad and asked if he would like to send me off. He said that he will be overseas for some army training around that time, and could not give me a definite answer, though he would be happy to come and see me off if he could make it in time. So I got the approximate date of his return and tried to plan around it. I had to book my flight late and hence miss uni orientation, in order to just have the slight possibility of him coming. I did not hear from him since then as I believed he was busy training in some remote area with no telecommunication facilities.

So on the day of my flight, friends and family came and offered their best wishes, hugs and kisses. Yet, the one whom I had wanted to come the most never came. Although I was in the company of my loved ones and friends, I have never felt so alone in my life before. I spent the entire red-eye flight staring into space and reflecting: what have i done to have deserved this, what I could have done....

So in short, I got rejected by a "BBFA" whom I really liked and chased. So whenever I see someone posting that they should give up chasing a girl because they are "BBFA" and not good enough compared to other guys, I kind of take it personally because I don't want their insecurities to potentially cost them their happiness, just as how X's insecurities had costed me mine. Thats why I would always post something to encourage them, and to say to them the words that I had always wanted to, but never got the chance to say to X.

I guess the reason why I felt that this rejection was the most memorable and probably the most brutal was because I was denied any formal closure from this, and to be honest, I don’t think I have fully gotten over this even though it has been so long.

Soz if you have read this story in the other thread as I was too lazy to rewrite everything again.
"A man who has depths in his shame meets his destiny and his delicate decisions upon paths which few ever reach."

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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2017, 12:06:24 am »
This gal is trending and getting lots of attention in that forum.  :P
Be nice or I Byte...

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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2017, 10:08:29 am »
boobs always win ..... always prioritize that part when going for plastic surgery .... most value for money ....
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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #4 on: July 07, 2017, 03:28:19 pm »
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Whirling_Dervish wrote:
This is going to sound super Ms-Universe-ly, but I mean every word of it.

1) I don't have stringent requirements for looks, I dont believe in investing the rest of my life into something that is so transient. However, I would prefer that he take ownership of his health so that he may live long enough to grow old with me and take care of our family together.

2) Character: Someone who is morally upright, matured and sensible, and who is willing to guide me through the trials and tribulations of life, come what may. Someone who is confident in himself, confident in me, and confident in us. Someone who is dependable, responsible; someone whom I can entrust my life and problems to. Someone who is loving, even-tempered, and gentle; someone who can teach me to love again.

3) Ambition: I don't mind someone who is just a diploma grad, so long as he is able to teach me more about life than what all the books in the world can. He need not be working in a managerial position in a top bank, I dont really fuss about money; I am fairly confident in my ability to provide for myself, or even us if it comes to that. However, I want someone who is highly ambitious, who constantly strives to improve himself for him, and for us. I want to be able to sit with him in the cold of the night as I watch his eyes light up with fire as he wax lyrical about his dreams and his plans to realise them, as I would find myself memorised or even stupefied by his passion and energy. And I want to be able to help him achieve his, no, our dreams. I am not looking for someone who is like me; I am looking for someone to complete me.

4) Family: Someone who is extremely filial to his parents. If he ever has to choose between his mum and myself, I would ask him to choose his mum. A man has only one mother, and his mother has martyred herself every day, for the past decades, just to nurture him into the man he is today. It would be selfish, cruel even, to pervert such a bond. Someone who will be willing to accept and embrace my parents and siblings as his own flesh and blood, as I, his. Someone who will be a role model for our children, someone to shower affection on them and baptise them in his love, someone to rein them in if they are indisciplined. Someone to nurture and grow our family with me.

5) Personality: Someone who knows me through and through; someone who can pierce the positive and happy facade that I have successfully deceived all those around me for years, and soothe my insecurities. Someone who can share a comfortable silence with me on the days when I need to be alone to recompose myself. Someone who would love me unconditionally and dote on me, but yet stand his ground should I err to teach me right from wrong. After 40 years of marriage, after all our looks have faded away, I want to be able to share my bed and life with my best friend. Someone who chooses to fall in love with me everyday, as I, him. Someone whom I can grow old together with, as we watch our grandchildren play at our feet. Love isnt Romeo and Juliet who died together. Love is Grandpa and Grandma who grew old together.

Call me naive, call me immature, but these are the qualities that I am looking for, though I admit that people with these qualities are a needle in a haystack.


once you have the je ne sais quoi ....... can tame all the BBFAs in EDMW .... 
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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #5 on: July 20, 2017, 04:21:37 pm »
1 2 3 4 5 I can fulfill. Uncle u got her photo?

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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #6 on: July 20, 2017, 04:28:36 pm »
1 2 3 4 5 I can fulfill. Uncle u got her photo?

fei mao ah ... fei mao .... if you are resourceful enough you can find her pictures in EDMW ... especially if you like to eat fish in Sydney market ..... if you catch my drift ..... ;-) ;-) ;-)

hungry cat will find fish, else starve to death in alley ....
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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #7 on: July 20, 2017, 07:40:10 pm »
boobs always win ..... always prioritize that part when going for plastic surgery .... most value for money ....

eh uncle you very dirty minded. shooo!!!!!

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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #8 on: July 21, 2017, 07:34:08 am »
eh uncle you very dirty minded. shooo!!!!!

wowsieee ..... show me a real man who isn't interested in boobs and I will show you either a dead man or a gay man  .... :-[
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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #9 on: July 21, 2017, 01:56:19 pm »
fei mao ah ... fei mao .... if you are resourceful enough you can find her pictures in EDMW ... especially if you like to eat fish in Sydney market ..... if you catch my drift ..... ;-) ;-) ;-)

hungry cat will find fish, else starve to death in alley ....

ohhh another edmw girls..or ah gua 5555....sure got a lot of guys protecting her  :-\

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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #10 on: July 21, 2017, 02:00:52 pm »
ohhh another edmw girls..or ah gua 5555....sure got a lot of guys protecting her  :-\

by means of stealth or surreptitiousness you shall prevail against those BBFAs .... jiayous !
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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #11 on: July 21, 2017, 09:39:36 pm »
by means of stealth or surreptitiousness you shall prevail against those BBFAs .... jiayous !

just went in to that thread....At first I thought 300+pages for a trip report is crazy. But seems like only the 1st few pages are talking about travel and the rest is random unrelated chat   ::)

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« Reply #12 on: July 22, 2017, 09:07:13 am »
just went in to that thread....At first I thought 300+pages for a trip report is crazy. But seems like only the 1st few pages are talking about travel and the rest is random unrelated chat   ::)

you can always seek medical advice in that thread ..... if you catch my drift ..... ;) ;) ;)
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« Reply #13 on: August 09, 2017, 08:22:09 pm »
wowsieee ..... show me a real man who isn't interested in boobs and I will show you either a dead man or a gay man  .... :-[

Gay man is also interested in boobs... but not on woman niah....

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Re: Encouragement: Never Give Up. Jiayou!
« Reply #14 on: August 09, 2017, 10:35:18 pm »
Gay man is also interested in boobs... but not on woman niah....

 ;D
@nomnom

 :o i think those gays don't like moobs de bah? ???

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