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For me I agreed that I'm more choosy now. Especially after a failed marriage and with a child. I guess it's phobia? I'm actually happily single for 3 years+ now. Tried dating a few guys but always never work.  :-[
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For me I agreed that I'm more choosy now. Especially after a failed marriage and with a child. I guess it's phobia? I'm actually happily single for 3 years+ now. Tried dating a few guys but always never work.  :-[

Not all guys are bad ...  :-[

Maybe your social circles just aren't wide enough ....
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i assume u are a guy? actually won't u want to date a girl who is pretty, sweet and gentle? best if the body is devlish too!
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those are wants, not needs. i may want a pretty sweet gentle girl, but it's not a need. if i cant stand her character even though she's pretty, sweet and gentle, then i rather not want her. i rather have a normal looking rough girl who i can connect with.

most singaporean chinese girls have very high expectations until they are left on the shelves. but that's fine since women can be very independent now especially in singapore where they are more equal than men. so it's fine since they don't need a husband to survive in this era.

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those are wants, not needs. i may want a pretty sweet gentle girl, but it's not a need. if i cant stand her character even though she's pretty, sweet and gentle, then i rather not want her. i rather have a normal looking rough girl who i can connect with.

most singaporean chinese girls have very high expectations until they are left on the shelves. but that's fine since women can be very independent now especially in singapore where they are more equal than men. so it's fine since they don't need a husband to survive in this era.

It's the same as you don't need a wife to survive isn't it ? Haha

I think what woman expects depends on what type of livelihood they choose.

If you're a misogynist, the most attractive thing about you will be $$$, den don't expect to attract sweet gentle women but materialistic women. Cz nobody is with misogynist for love (unless they're dumb or loves to be punished/disregarded)  ;D

However if you have some gd personality to attract, definitely will be able to find the right type of woman to hv a synergistic r/s with
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what kind of person you are. attached what kind of guy/girl :-X

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we are not picky for no good reason. we want a good person to live with for life, to be our soulmate, to accompany us, to take care of us and for us to take care of him. And to be a terrific father for our children.
Of course we want him to be handsome, don't u guys want beautiful or sexy women? look at all the trophy wives the rich men have.
of course we want him to be rich, we would like to have a comfortable life. would you rather struggle over a $5 hour wage?

and of course we want a knowledgeable guy. no one likes being with a dimwitted.
a smart person or a knowledgeable person is so much more better as a father too!

Sorry to bump up old threads.

IMO there's nothing wrong for individual to have some standard but then we have to be practical when we set up a standard in this case.

I understand most ladies would not want a debt ridden guy with bad personality but a decent looking enough guy with a decent and stable job with good personality is someone that can be considered.

I am more practical in this case. I know when I stands and I am not looking for a very pretty lady with good figures and big boobs. Instead, I am looking for a comfortable looking enough ladies (does not mean she is pretty in this case) with a decent personality. I do prefer girl next door type or shy/introvert ladies but I will consider ladies that doesn't fall into this category.

But then as what I mentioned, it's totally alright to have a standard and I would reject those that falls under my expectation. I don't expect 8 out of 10 in terms of looks but at least 4.5 out of 10 aren't that irreasonable isn't it?

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Sorry to bump up old threads.

IMO there's nothing wrong for individual to have some standard but then we have to be practical when we set up a standard in this case.

I understand most ladies would not want a debt ridden guy with bad personality but a decent looking enough guy with a decent and stable job with good personality is someone that can be considered.

I am more practical in this case. I know when I stands and I am not looking for a very pretty lady with good figures and big boobs. Instead, I am looking for a comfortable looking enough ladies (does not mean she is pretty in this case) with a decent personality. I do prefer girl next door type or shy/introvert ladies but I will consider ladies that doesn't fall into this category.

But then as what I mentioned, it's totally alright to have a standard and I would reject those that falls under my expectation. I don't expect 8 out of 10 in terms of looks but at least 4.5 out of 10 aren't that irreasonable isn't it?

so you have a set of criteria which in itself is not wrong but aren't these also expectations?

I think for most people I know,  one of their expectation is that their wife must be pleasant looking enough to put their faces next to in a photo that you will be staring at for the next 60 years of their lives
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so you have a set of criteria which in itself is not wrong but aren't these also expectations?

I think for most people I know,  one of their expectation is that their wife must be pleasant looking enough to put their faces next to in a photo that you will be staring at for the next 60 years of their lives

Yup I would say it is expectations.

But then while we set up an expectation for ourself we also need to see are we setting up our expectation too high?

I can't speak for ladies while I knew of some guys whose expectations are quite high like for example they want a pretty girlfriend with good looks, great body, big boobs, can cook, a virgin, submissive etc while for me lookswise a plain jane whom I am comfortable with her looks/appearance is enough. Characterstic wise as long as we can click and having mutual respect for each other is enough. I don't really mind things like boobs size, divorcee, non virgin etc.

Of course in terms of perference I'd prefer a girl next door type of lady with shy and introvert character but if I can click well with a girl not under this category I am also OK with it.