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Dating a married man
« on: October 16, 2015, 04:43:08 pm »
I am in my mid-twenties now and my boyfriend is in his early-forties. We met at a club last year and somehow we just starting going out. Things progressed and now we are in an intimate relationship. He is really nice to me and I like him... the only catch is that he is married.

Because of that, I feel like breaking up with him because I want to get married and to someone closer to my age. But part of me also feels that it is a waste since he is very attentive, showers a lot of attention on me and also drives me wherever I want to go.

To be honest, he is the second married man I have dated so I don't think I feel guilty towards his wife, but it also doesn't feel like a steady relationship. So should I just break up with him now or just hang around until someone who I see myself marrying comes along? And would it be OK to tell whoever future husband is that I used to date married men? Do guys get affected by things like that?

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« Reply #1 on: October 16, 2015, 04:57:00 pm »
I am in my mid-twenties now and my boyfriend is in his early-forties. We met at a club last year and somehow we just starting going out. Things progressed and now we are in an intimate relationship. He is really nice to me and I like him... the only catch is that he is married.

Because of that, I feel like breaking up with him because I want to get married and to someone closer to my age. But part of me also feels that it is a waste since he is very attentive, showers a lot of attention on me and also drives me wherever I want to go.

To be honest, he is the second married man I have dated so I don't think I feel guilty towards his wife, but it also doesn't feel like a steady relationship. So should I just break up with him now or just hang around until someone who I see myself marrying comes along? And would it be OK to tell whoever future husband is that I used to date married men? Do guys get affected by things like that?

Im actually 2 timing 2 guys nao... If he treats u good just maintain the way it is. Its not easy to find guys who you so much.

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« Reply #2 on: October 16, 2015, 06:24:06 pm »
Im actually 2 timing 2 guys nao... If he treats u good just maintain the way it is. Its not easy to find guys who you so much.

it wasn't a conscious decision on my end. it just happened that he was married. its not like intentionally went to seek out married men.

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« Reply #3 on: October 16, 2015, 06:59:49 pm »
You are playing a dangerous game girl.

You have everything to lose but nothing to gain
Losing faith


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« Reply #4 on: October 16, 2015, 07:23:58 pm »
You are playing a dangerous game girl.

You have everything to lose but nothing to gain

Well I do get showered with quite a number of gifts now. But I get what you mean. I don't like being alone though.

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« Reply #5 on: October 16, 2015, 08:12:12 pm »
What is your end game plan?

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« Reply #6 on: October 16, 2015, 09:17:40 pm »
I am in my mid-twenties now and my boyfriend is in his early-forties. We met at a club last year and somehow we just starting going out. Things progressed and now we are in an intimate relationship. He is really nice to me and I like him... the only catch is that he is married.

Because of that, I feel like breaking up with him because I want to get married and to someone closer to my age. But part of me also feels that it is a waste since he is very attentive, showers a lot of attention on me and also drives me wherever I want to go.

To be honest, he is the second married man I have dated so I don't think I feel guilty towards his wife, but it also doesn't feel like a steady relationship. So should I just break up with him now or just hang around until someone who I see myself marrying comes along? And would it be OK to tell whoever future husband is that I used to date married men? Do guys get affected by things like that?

I hope you Kenna the same thing when you get married in the future with you husband having extra marital affairs while you aged at home.

Girls like you attract the right kind of man that will do the same thing as you. My advice to you is have fun with all the married man but never get married. Keep a cat in the future if you need company.

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« Reply #7 on: October 16, 2015, 09:22:22 pm »
What is your end game plan?

I'm not thinking too far into the future. I'm comfortable now and it is unlikely that we will be found out. However, I do also feel that this won't go on forever. It's like being addicted to a drug or even to smoking. You know you should stop, but you can't.

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« Reply #8 on: October 16, 2015, 10:46:15 pm »
I am in my mid-twenties now and my boyfriend is in his early-forties. We met at a club last year and somehow we just starting going out. Things progressed and now we are in an intimate relationship. He is really nice to me and I like him... the only catch is that he is married.

Because of that, I feel like breaking up with him because I want to get married and to someone closer to my age. But part of me also feels that it is a waste since he is very attentive, showers a lot of attention on me and also drives me wherever I want to go.

To be honest, he is the second married man I have dated so I don't think I feel guilty towards his wife, but it also doesn't feel like a steady relationship. So should I just break up with him now or just hang around until someone who I see myself marrying comes along? And would it be OK to tell whoever future husband is that I used to date married men? Do guys get affected by things like that?

 i am going to say something from my experience

a. if the story is real.

everyone thinks different. some feel short term (gain or target, whatever) is best. some think long term is best. those thinking short term might not get the best deal in the long run. those holding out for the long term not only lose out on the short term, but also might not get anywhere in the end. so who laugh at who is still too early to say.. if ts feels everything seems to work out fine compared to what she otherwise suffers, then maybe she's lucky. or maybe she chose to be blinded by "love", i went down enough paths to know ignorance IS a form of bliss. i recall a matured woman ever saying this, its better to have felt love for a short while than to feel prangs of loneliness in that same short instant.

b. if the story is made up

my worst fear. there are actually [email protected] whilst trolling these forums, trying to inject some offroad ideology that hooking up with married men is actually feasible alternative to being lonely. i suspect there are bound to be some women who fell pray to these false prophets and end up worse off..no matter short term or long run

deviousness like this one, even admin and moderators cannot help

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Re: Dating a married man
« Reply #9 on: October 17, 2015, 10:58:42 am »
I'm not thinking too far into the future. I'm comfortable now and it is unlikely that we will be found out. However, I do also feel that this won't go on forever. It's like being addicted to a drug or even to smoking. You know you should stop, but you can't.

this is quite a standard template. my feel:

1. Ask yourself how long you want to be in this game. example, if you intend to get married by 28, you need to start looking for someone serious around 26. means you can play for 2 more years since you are 24 this year.

2. its a gamble to ask the guy to divorce his wife as most of the time, they wont do it since they have to pay alimony and split their assets, if they have to begin wif..haha. high chances are that he wont do it.

3. need to tell yourself the gifting and pampering will stop 1 day, either you leave him first or he got a better sugerbabe and leave you first.

4. I think TS should be a presentable or above average girl since you are able to attract the guy. it should not be too difficult to get someone who is not married and yet can give you what you need too right?







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« Reply #10 on: October 17, 2015, 01:02:03 pm »
Find a guy who is able to be there with you.
You will feel even lonelier than with a married man. He won't be there with you when you need him most, especially on festive seasons. You will not be able to introduce him to your family members and your close friends etc.
Of coz, he is able to provide you with expensive gifts and holidays which guys, your age won't be able to afford them. His showering of gifts etc, is to keep you with him and free sex.
There won't be a future with him.
It is just not worth it.

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« Reply #11 on: October 17, 2015, 01:05:09 pm »
Find a guy who is able to be there with you.
You will feel even lonelier than with a married man. He won't be there with you when you need him most, especially on festive seasons. You will not be able to introduce him to your family members and your close friends etc.
Of coz, he is able to provide you with expensive gifts and holidays which guys, your age won't be able to afford them. His showering of gifts etc, is to keep you with him and free sex.
There won't be a future with him.
It is just not worth it.

haha...good advise..sounds like someone with experience..festive seasons and weekends are confirm out..unless his wife is super bz or already know he has a mistress....

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« Reply #12 on: October 17, 2015, 01:27:01 pm »
haha...good advise..sounds like someone with experience..festive seasons and weekends are confirm out..unless his wife is super bz or already know he has a mistress....

I don't have experience in a relationship with a married man, even though there are married men who wants to be in a relationship with me.

The only reason that I can think of if i am in a relationship with a married man, is just company and sex. But it is not worth it, that's how I feel. That is why I am not in a relationship with them.


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Re: Dating a married man
« Reply #13 on: October 17, 2015, 04:15:36 pm »
Sounds like sugar daddy. I think just hang around him till you find someone better. Don't have to tell about him to anyone.

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« Reply #14 on: October 17, 2015, 06:19:52 pm »
TS, dun waste your precious time on a married man

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