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« Reply #150 on: January 13, 2018, 12:04:57 am »
Need to occasionally "revive" the chop larrr dei .... once sign at ROM, the chop will be invalidated if not used often for reinforcement .....

The shop making the chop got cheo-kar-peng or not? ???
What does it say?

Luckuly is online cheena ppl who donch understand English. Is a paragraph of English words lo. Lazy to keep chopping and asking for endorsement lol.
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« Reply #151 on: January 13, 2018, 12:21:09 am »
My birthday now. Just past midnight. My girl just messaged me.
'Happy birthday baby. I am well, at peace'.
Sounds ominous.
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« Reply #152 on: January 13, 2018, 12:40:48 am »
Chill le... listen to.some cheena hip hop

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« Reply #153 on: January 13, 2018, 07:44:32 pm »
I drafted this. Gonna send it out to her in 10 days if I keep getting silent treatment.

Dear J
Things have been rocky and stressful, yes. Now after some time out , I hope both of us have had a breather and managed to look at our relationship with a clearer perspective.
I know I have been boorish, weird  and moody at times since receiving that bombshell of a letter, causing you much much distress. I was so in love with you  and still am. Early on after receiving the letter and those pictures  from that guy , I was so cocksure that I would be the better man and the one to help you redeem herself and build a positive, lasting loving relationship. However, try as i might to resist it….  I started acting weird after a short while, unable to suppress my inner insecurities and jealous pangs at times.  I am ashamed and there is no excusing my behaviour. I have lashed out in jealousy and acted out my insecurities… I have  made shitty, unkind comments and displayed inexcusable behaviour. At night, my sleep was  interrupted by irrational fear and jealousy for a while.  Although you has been forgiving thus far despite being treated so badly  by me,  I realize this is not good. I have tried so hard, so hard  to be a sweet, loving boyfriend and I only want to be ever sweet and loving to you… so I realized I must deal with my emotion and insecurity issues head on. And so I have tried to talk out my problems and resolve my sleep issues with a professional counsellor. You may find it odd, and I kind of regret telling you I had been to see one. With  the counsellor’s advice, mediation tips, thought exercises etc  I have  improved  myself and become calmer  over the last two weeks  and gotten rid of the negative, inexcusable emotions on my part. I should have done this earlier, before I really began to act out.
1.Now , I do miss you a lot every day, all the fun times we had at the movies, cycling, the conversations about music, shopping together, cooking together, being with your relatives, talking about  food etc.  I miss all the times I kissed you and hugged you close, and the way you touched my face and ears. I miss your laugh and your smiles. The way I massage your feet. The way we made love.   We had something special, I can feel it. I think we still have something special.   I don’t want all this negativeness to spoil it.  I  wish to patch things up and continue the relationship on a better note . I am confident you will get the better version of me after two weeks of self-improvement … I will wholeheartedly give you all  the parts of me that made you want to be with me.. I hope you can forgive my past mistakes and take me back, please and make me the happiest man in the world again.
 If you want a longer timeout least let me know whether you would be willing to meet me and my family for  CNY. So I can prepare them for the news.
2. However, if you think that the relationship has already been irreparably harmed ,let me know clearly. I will be crushed and very sad, but I will take it like a man.  I won’t cling. I won’t grovel. I did wrong because I couldn’t withstand the mental stress of that letter and got  emotional and acted weird. I lost control and  squandered this chance to be with a beautiful, loving girl with a great personality who adored me with all her heart…. All this heartache due to my inability to rein in my negative emotions then  .  I  regret it and I accept full responsibility for  the consequences of that. Give me a ‘quick death’ rather than leaving me in the  limbo of silent treatment and  indefinite time-out.  If you don’t want to be with me any longer, let me know on no uncertain terms quickly and without any sugar-coating. It will cause great pain to both of us, but we should get over it. A quick death is better than prolonged suffering.  Do this  so that I may grieve for a while and then get on with my life ASAP.   

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« Reply #154 on: January 13, 2018, 09:32:42 pm »
What's with the deadlines? ???  CNY so important? ???

Does your galfren like drama? ??? Some do and some don't but you'd know better
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« Reply #155 on: January 13, 2018, 09:46:07 pm »
What's with the deadlines? ???  CNY so important? ???

Does your galfren like drama? ??? Some do and some don't but you'd know better

Booked ticket to go to her hometown, and she booked one to go to mine for CNY. Families are expecting us. So if anything happen, rather prepare them in advance. Although I can't give the REAL reason for not being together.

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« Reply #156 on: January 13, 2018, 10:00:28 pm »
Booked ticket to go to her hometown, and she booked one to go to mine for CNY. Families are expecting us. So if anything happen, rather prepare them in advance. Although I can't give the REAL reason for not being together.

Ahhhh .... that's tough .... pull of family n seasons ....

Although it does feel like an ultimatum couched in not so few words....
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« Reply #157 on: January 13, 2018, 10:28:24 pm »
Sound like alot of baggage and burden letter to read.  :-X if she those type lack and crave attention or drama queen maybe she will like.

But if she practical and down to earth type it is a little melodramatic
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« Reply #158 on: January 17, 2018, 10:06:15 am »
OK update. She told me adios , and I said same to you. Its a relief, to be honest. Sad a bit, but in the end I realized my negative emotions are always gonna be there and I shouldn't kid myself or try fancy therapy .
Either accept it or not.

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« Reply #159 on: January 17, 2018, 12:17:32 pm »
OK update. She told me adios , and I said same to you. Its a relief, to be honest. Sad a bit, but in the end I realized my negative emotions are always gonna be there and I shouldn't kid myself or try fancy therapy .
Either accept it or not.
yup .... acceptance is key ..... compromise always comes back to bite you in the a$$

forest is very big bro' ..... gambatte !
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« Reply #160 on: January 17, 2018, 03:00:41 pm »
yup .... acceptance is key ..... compromise always comes back to bite you in the a$$

forest is very big bro' ..... gambatte !

now what do I tell my parents... I think I will have to tell them the truth, she slept with married man in the past, I tried to forgive her, but I cannot accept it in the end. What she tells her own parents is her own problem. Probably try to paint me black, say I cheated on her or some thing.

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« Reply #161 on: January 17, 2018, 04:51:10 pm »
No nd to tell le, appear with new one by cny better. hehehe
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« Reply #162 on: January 17, 2018, 05:14:10 pm »
now what do I tell my parents... I think I will have to tell them the truth, she slept with married man in the past, I tried to forgive her, but I cannot accept it in the end. What she tells her own parents is her own problem. Probably try to paint me black, say I cheated on her or some thing.

"Things didn't work out ... i am too YOLO liao ... too many hot babes out there to make babies with etc"

You do realize that you are in a statistically advantageous position right?  ....  you have a smorgasboard of choices now that you are single .... and for goodness sake choose one with less baggage ....
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« Reply #163 on: January 17, 2018, 05:52:25 pm »
No nd to tell le, appear with new one by cny better. hehehe

U suggesting him to swipe Tinder izzziiiit?  :o

Good things come slowly de .... cannot rush huan ...
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« Reply #164 on: January 17, 2018, 08:15:34 pm »
"Things didn't work out ... i am too YOLO liao ... too many hot babes out there to make babies with etc"

You do realize that you are in a statistically advantageous position right?  ....  you have a smorgasboard of choices now that you are single .... and for goodness sake choose one with less baggage ....

Yeah ts should more chill and yolo.
I'm sure ladies are more attracted to chill types than overly invested types.
Be more lighthearted ~  :P
Better to just do it than to look for problems / scrutinize details in problems
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