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Being the other woman
« on: July 30, 2017, 03:34:04 pm »
Hi all,

Looking for soneone with similar experiences to share and confide. Feel vv lost.

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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #1 on: July 30, 2017, 04:27:38 pm »
How did you start being the "other woman"? ???

Did he hide his marital status from you in the beginning? ???
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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2017, 12:22:54 pm »
Hi. Guy here, full disclosure.

I'm dating a girl for 3 months now, and I basically found out that my gf was 'the other woman' before.
How I found out? well, one day I got an angry email  from a stranger claiming to be the married man that my gf was conducting an affair with.
As proof, he put in some salacious intimate selfies sent by my gf addressed to him.
This guy is now angry cos my girl basically wanted to stop the affair and be with me. Long letter, I attach below.

Just want to know what girls here think. Is my girl going to stay true to me? Or is this guy forever going to be a shadow looming over the relationship.

https://imgur.com/a/juAMD

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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2017, 12:41:58 pm »
story too long to read ..... can summarize? ???

and we need some pictures before we can ascertain whether your girl is worth your time ....
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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #4 on: November 15, 2017, 04:59:17 pm »
story too long to read ..... can summarize? ???

and we need some pictures before we can ascertain whether your girl is worth your time ....
One of the pictures are in the last page of that link I sent.
Summary is , my girl, lets call her J, had an affair with a guy from 2011-2012. Broke off , but still on and off  from 2012 to 2017 . Then she met me. Then she broke off for real with this guy. This guy buay song, sent me an email to expose her, and attached a few intimate selfie.

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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #5 on: November 15, 2017, 06:04:57 pm »
One of the pictures are in the last page of that link I sent.
Summary is , my girl, lets call her J, had an affair with a guy from 2011-2012. Broke off , but still on and off  from 2012 to 2017 . Then she met me. Then she broke off for real with this guy. This guy buay song, sent me an email to expose her, and attached a few intimate selfie.

On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 = heck care; 10 = extremely bothered till can't sleep n eat)

Please rate your feeling upon receiving the email on

1st day

10th day

30th day

60th day

90th day


Thanks in advance
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« Reply #6 on: November 15, 2017, 10:50:42 pm »
On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 = heck care; 10 = extremely bothered till can't sleep n eat)

Please rate your feeling upon receiving the email on

1st day

10th day

30th day

60th day

90th day


Thanks in advance

1st day-extremely bothered
10th day-not so bothered

30th day-realized i still love her. Confronted her with the email. Which is just a few days ago. She sobbed and said she was sorry. I told her I forgave her. Asked her to pls stop talking to this guy. But she said she now just talking about mundane stuff with him. Scared of him. Scared he ki siao and email everyone else in her family like her brother. Email her friends, colleagues etc.


60th day-not yet.

90th day

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« Reply #7 on: November 15, 2017, 11:24:08 pm »
1st day-extremely bothered
10th day-not so bothered

30th day-realized i still love her. Confronted her with the email. Which is just a few days ago. She sobbed and said she was sorry. I told her I forgave her. Asked her to pls stop talking to this guy. But she said she now just talking about mundane stuff with him. Scared of him. Scared he ki siao and email everyone else in her family like her brother. Email her friends, colleagues etc.


60th day-not yet.

90th day

Supposing hypothetically, the guy emails the photos to EDMW and to your parents .... how will you feel? ???
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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #8 on: November 16, 2017, 12:25:00 am »
Hi. Guy here, full disclosure.

I'm dating a girl for 3 months now, and I basically found out that my gf was 'the other woman' before.
How I found out? well, one day I got an angry email  from a stranger claiming to be the married man that my gf was conducting an affair with.
As proof, he put in some salacious intimate selfies sent by my gf addressed to him.
This guy is now angry cos my girl basically wanted to stop the affair and be with me. Long letter, I attach below.

Just want to know what girls here think. Is my girl going to stay true to me? Or is this guy forever going to be a shadow looming over the relationship.

https://imgur.com/a/juAMD

If I were you I would leave after receiving such email because I'm a peaceful person.
Not sure if u adventurous or like excitement and drama in your life though.
The guy seem like the emotionally imbalance type and I can imagine that type of ppl appearing in the news for some sort of crime like assault or murder over jealousy or in the name of "love".
And a woman who willingly been together with such a guy no doubt enjoys attracting trouble.

Not sure if you find some association with these two types of ppl.

From what I see the woman might be with a third guy next and probably have u two fighting. +1 to her scoreboard. You will probably be penning down such letter to her next boyfriend. So might as well save it down for forwarding next time.  :-[
« Last Edit: November 16, 2017, 12:45:14 am by happyshar »
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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #9 on: November 16, 2017, 06:35:34 pm »
If I were you I would leave after receiving such email because I'm a peaceful person.
Not sure if u adventurous or like excitement and drama in your life though.
The guy seem like the emotionally imbalance type and I can imagine that type of ppl appearing in the news for some sort of crime like assault or murder over jealousy or in the name of "love".
And a woman who willingly been together with such a guy no doubt enjoys attracting trouble.

Not sure if you find some association with these two types of ppl.

From what I see the woman might be with a third guy next and probably have u two fighting. +1 to her scoreboard. You will probably be penning down such letter to her next boyfriend. So might as well save it down for forwarding next time.  :-[

I don't think so serious bah?  I think the guy upset that he lost his "comfort" woman but unlikely to go postal ... married men only after one thing .... if you catch my drift  ;) ;) ;)
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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #10 on: November 17, 2017, 12:26:36 am »
I don't think so serious bah?  I think the guy upset that he lost his "comfort" woman but unlikely to go postal ... married men only after one thing .... if you catch my drift  ;) ;) ;)

Can write till so long paragraph must be really extremely desperate liao  :o
Only after one thing den can just find another mistress + gf + fling wad.
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Re: Being the other woman
« Reply #11 on: November 17, 2017, 11:36:41 am »
Can write till so long paragraph must be really extremely desperate liao  :o
Only after one thing den can just find another mistress + gf + fling wad.

yah .... actually why need to write such a long story? ???

a few nekkid pictures is worth a thousand words ..... ;) ;) ;)

and why she still must keep up convo with the guy leh?
as if just making small talk will keep him satisfied and not release details to the her family .....
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« Reply #12 on: November 18, 2017, 12:35:33 am »
yah .... actually why need to write such a long story? ???

a few nekkid pictures is worth a thousand words ..... ;) ;) ;)

and why she still must keep up convo with the guy leh?
as if just making small talk will keep him satisfied and not release details to the her family .....
Ya ... that's what my girl says. I so want to believe her....

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« Reply #13 on: November 18, 2017, 10:07:47 am »
Ya ... that's what my girl says. I so want to believe her....

what is the objective for making small-talk? ??? ..... what makes her so sure that he will not ki-siao when he doesn't get what he wants eventually? ???

doesn't feel like a sound strategy to me .....

put yourself in the married man's shoes - what is his objective by threatening to release intimate photos?  or spilling the beans that your galfren is a Xiao-san? ???

my personal take is to bite the bullet and call his bluff .... yes, worse damage may come but if you really love your gal,  this would be water under the bridge in no time .....

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« Reply #14 on: November 18, 2017, 02:31:31 pm »
what is the objective for making small-talk? ??? ..... what makes her so sure that he will not ki-siao when he doesn't get what he wants eventually? ???

doesn't feel like a sound strategy to me .....

put yourself in the married man's shoes - what is his objective by threatening to release intimate photos?  or spilling the beans that your galfren is a Xiao-san? ???

my personal take is to bite the bullet and call his bluff .... yes, worse damage may come but if you really love your gal,  this would be water under the bridge in no time .....

It's like to delay the time bomb and face the music later lor.

Otherwise is BOOMZ liao

Agitate him ltr release pic or vids  :o
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