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« Reply #15 on: November 20, 2017, 01:00:13 pm »
My gal suggested pretend break up with me and tell the guy. And I also send an angry email to the guy saying 'Look what you made me do, you a$$hole. Thanks for poisoning the relationship '. 
then she says to the guy 'I hate you both. I want to be alone'

That guy is in a small town in East Malaysia. Unlikely he find out until later down the road me and my gf suddenly progress to engagement and marriage-- and huge newspaper ads appear in her hometown.

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« Reply #16 on: November 20, 2017, 01:04:02 pm »
what is the objective for making small-talk? ??? ..... what makes her so sure that he will not ki-siao when he doesn't get what he wants eventually? ???

doesn't feel like a sound strategy to me .....

put yourself in the married man's shoes - what is his objective by threatening to release intimate photos?  or spilling the beans that your galfren is a Xiao-san? ???

my personal take is to bite the bullet and call his bluff .... yes, worse damage may come but if you really love your gal,  this would be water under the bridge in no time .....

He feels he has been wronged because he feels he sacrificed a lot , his marriage , custody of kid etc to be with my gf. And my gf was on this relationship with him for so long.  So want to take revenge. So he goes on this kamikaze attack. Destroy his own reputation and mine and my girl's, and her family's.

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« Reply #17 on: November 20, 2017, 01:21:58 pm »
My gal suggested pretend break up with me and tell the guy. And I also send an angry email to the guy saying 'Look what you made me do, you a$$hole. Thanks for poisoning the relationship '. 
then she says to the guy 'I hate you both. I want to be alone'

That guy is in a small town in East Malaysia. Unlikely he find out until later down the road me and my gf suddenly progress to engagement and marriage-- and huge newspaper ads appear in her hometown.

Kuching?  Sibu?  Bintulu? Miri?  Sendakan? .... so your galfren was in a long-distance Xiao-san relationship? ???

I think too much drama ....
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« Reply #18 on: November 20, 2017, 01:22:39 pm »
He feels he has been wronged because he feels he sacrificed a lot , his marriage , custody of kid etc to be with my gf. And my gf was on this relationship with him for so long.  So want to take revenge. So he goes on this kamikaze attack. Destroy his own reputation and mine and my girl's, and her family's.

ermmm .... so this guy is already divorced ah? ??? .... hmmm ....

btw, are you mingthething on hwz?
http://forums.hardwarezone.com.sg/eat-drink-man-woman-16/serious-what-do-if-found-out-gf-someone-mistress-before-5711357.html

why you post her photo for hwz peoples? :( 


how would she feel if she found out?  wouldn't you be as bad as that married guy?
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« Reply #19 on: November 20, 2017, 04:57:08 pm »
ermmm .... so this guy is already divorced ah? ??? .... hmmm ....

btw, are you mingthething on hwz?
http://forums.hardwarezone.com.sg/eat-drink-man-woman-16/serious-what-do-if-found-out-gf-someone-mistress-before-5711357.html

why you post her photo for hwz peoples? :( 


how would she feel if she found out?  wouldn't you be as bad as that married guy?

Bribe perverts there. They are surprisingly candid and I got a general feel of the guy perspective on this thing. Now I want what females think. What would my gf be feeling. Is being the other woman a permanent character trait? Or was she looking for true love in the wrong place without being intentionally hurtful.
here is a girls' forum. No need so much visual stimuli needed. 

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« Reply #20 on: November 20, 2017, 05:42:05 pm »
Bribe perverts there. They are surprisingly candid and I got a general feel of the guy perspective on this thing. Now I want what females think. What would my gf be feeling. Is being the other woman a permanent character trait? Or was she looking for true love in the wrong place without being intentionally hurtful.
here is a girls' forum. No need so much visual stimuli needed.

How is she being hurtful - intentional or otherwise, prior to knowing you? ???

This is a YOLO trait if anything ...
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« Reply #21 on: November 20, 2017, 08:29:44 pm »
How is she being hurtful - intentional or otherwise, prior to knowing you? ???

This is a YOLO trait if anything ...

Hurtful to the other guy's wife and kid.

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« Reply #22 on: November 20, 2017, 09:36:24 pm »
Hurtful to the other guy's wife and kid.

That's on the guy.

Besides, you're projecting ....
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« Reply #23 on: November 21, 2017, 12:50:35 am »
Already told u she's a troublemaker but u don't believe....  :o ???

I think she probably doesn't love herself and mainly is with unavailable men ... If she does end up with an available man she will end up sabotaging the relationship just so she can't settle down. It goes on this type of loop forever.

U r probably in denial because you love her and choose to only believe in info which sides her. Therefore you don't nd any advice.

The best way to test is to see through the story to the end.  :-[

(And I can tell u secretly like this type of attention / excitement the gal brings like some kinda aphrodisiac)  :-[

Otherwise why are you showing her butt and half boobs photo on edmw lol. U'll probably play her for a few months nia. And if u really are high income lawyer suggest you get her a new phone. That's a very old model of Samsung phone she used to take selfie.
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« Reply #24 on: November 21, 2017, 02:53:18 pm »
I think she probably doesn't love herself and mainly is with unavailable men ... If she does end up with an available man she will end up sabotaging the relationship just so she can't settle down. It goes on this type of loop forever.

this I partly agree - that some gals are inadvertently drawn to unavailable men like moths to fire.

but in TS case,  it would appear that maybe the gal is trying to break-free from that previous relationship?
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« Reply #25 on: November 22, 2017, 02:11:51 am »
this I partly agree - that some gals are inadvertently drawn to unavailable men like moths to fire.

but in TS case,  it would appear that maybe the gal is trying to break-free from that previous relationship?

Is ts unavailable or available guy.  ???
If available, polygamous?  :o
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« Reply #26 on: November 22, 2017, 09:39:21 am »
Is ts unavailable or available guy.  ???
If available, polygamous?  :o

I think TS is available bah .....  let's get him to confirm?
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« Reply #27 on: November 22, 2017, 01:19:52 pm »
I think TS is available bah .....  let's get him to confirm?

Yes. Available. She was eager to show me to her friends, her family etc.

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« Reply #28 on: November 22, 2017, 01:21:13 pm »
Yes. Available. She was eager to show me to her friends, her family etc.

And she also met my sister and her family. My parents are going to meet her when they fly back from holiday.

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« Reply #29 on: November 22, 2017, 01:52:11 pm »
Yes. Available. She was eager to show me to her friends, her family etc.

so it does appear at first glance that she does not have a "type" for unavailable guys .....

I would give her a chance if I were you .... everyone has a past .... doesn't mean we haven't changed.

first, she needs to up her game and tell the other fella in no uncertain terms that she is done - whatever the consequences ..... she has to sleep in the bed that she made ....
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