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attachment style..which style do you belong to?
« on: November 20, 2015, 10:14:46 pm »
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment-style-impacts-your-relationship

I think there is an online quiz on the style.

Mine is the Avoidance of Closeness.  :-\
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Re: attachment style..which style do you belong to?
« Reply #1 on: November 21, 2015, 12:43:22 pm »
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment-style-impacts-your-relationship

I think there is an online quiz on the style.

Mine is the Avoidance of Closeness.  :-\

You mean atactile? Not particularly surprising since asian families, especially the older generation are seldom effusive with their feelings and expressing them outwardly. 

You'll carry this character traits from your parents into your r/s unless you make the effort to change


PS: how come your f0cus is now focus? ???
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« Reply #2 on: November 21, 2015, 05:57:28 pm »
You mean atactile? Not particularly surprising since asian families, especially the older generation are seldom effusive with their feelings and expressing them outwardly. 

You'll carry this character traits from your parents into your r/s unless you make the effort to change


PS: how come your f0cus is now focus? ???

Yes. Its just like how parents usually use the way their parents taught them on their own children.

So the relationship we have with our parents affect the relationship we have with our partner.

PS: my focus has always been focus ;)
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Re: attachment style..which style do you belong to?
« Reply #3 on: November 21, 2015, 10:52:04 pm »
mine is dismissive avoidant attachment [email protected]

but u think I'm quite detached... :(
anywhere cab read more. I didn't see any questionaire.
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« Reply #4 on: November 22, 2015, 07:51:49 am »
mine is dismissive avoidant attachment [email protected]

but u think I'm quite detached... :(
anywhere cab read more. I didn't see any questionaire.

http://psychologytoday.tests.psychtests.com/take_test.php?idRegTest=3265

I took that. Free report is just the summary.
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« Reply #5 on: November 23, 2015, 07:59:14 pm »
http://psychologytoday.tests.psychtests.com/take_test.php?idRegTest=3265

I took that. Free report is just the summary.

People who took the test please come and share :) Lai lai..
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« Reply #6 on: November 23, 2015, 09:09:36 pm »
I took this before seeing ur recommendation:

http://personality-testing.info/tests/ECR.php

I lie inside dismissing attachment just like I guessed. n my so is at the borderline between secure attachment and preoccupied attachment.

hehe we're like exact opposite attachment styles and we will not get to satisfy each others insecurities.
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« Reply #7 on: November 23, 2015, 11:43:55 pm »
I took this before seeing ur recommendation:

http://personality-testing.info/tests/ECR.php

I lie inside dismissing attachment just like I guessed. n my so is at the borderline between secure attachment and preoccupied attachment.

hehe we're like exact opposite attachment styles and we will not get to satisfy each others insecurities.

Relationships are like magnets..opposites always attract..
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« Reply #8 on: November 23, 2015, 11:54:05 pm »
Focus512?   :o 8)

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« Reply #9 on: November 24, 2015, 12:31:34 am »
Relationships are like magnets..opposites always attract..

I'm dismissive means need alot of independence freedom n personal space. preoccupied would require more attention and spending time together.

but then again if we think about two dismissive people tgt.. they would probably spend alot of time apart until one day they dun even realise there is a silent breakup.
whereas for both preoccupied tgt. .they would probably get tired of each other since everyday stick tgt?
hmm.
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« Reply #10 on: November 24, 2015, 06:14:25 pm »
I'm dismissive means need alot of independence freedom n personal space. preoccupied would require more attention and spending time together.

but then again if we think about two dismissive people tgt.. they would probably spend alot of time apart until one day they dun even realise there is a silent breakup.
whereas for both preoccupied tgt. .they would probably get tired of each other since everyday stick tgt?
hmm.

Lol ya that's why all the more shouldn't be alike.

Like if mine is avoidance of closeness, my partner should probably be someone full of love. Haha...
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« Reply #11 on: November 24, 2015, 06:15:45 pm »
Focus512?   :o 8)

Who?? Your friend ah? I'm focus  ;)  8)
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« Reply #12 on: November 24, 2015, 10:36:52 pm »
Who?? Your friend ah? I'm focus  ;)  8)

I tot u r focus87
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« Reply #13 on: November 24, 2015, 10:37:51 pm »
Lol ya that's why all the more shouldn't be alike.

Like if mine is avoidance of closeness, my partner should probably be someone full of love. Haha...

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« Reply #14 on: November 27, 2015, 11:41:17 am »
I took the quiz!

"Whether it involves emotional expression or developing a deep intimate bond, you're the type of person who is very at ease getting close to a partner. You are also comfortable relying on your partner when necessary, as well has having him/her dependent upon you in times of need."

Sounds good to me!  ;) 8)

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