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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #120 on: December 10, 2015, 08:58:29 am »
what do you call a person who listens to you but insists on his/her way in the end?

boss??  ;D

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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #121 on: December 10, 2015, 09:07:39 am »
so u think is not right for him to do those?
I always think he's smarter n more logical n if he saes so it must be dat I'm not too good or logical to think another way.

take the bicycle for example he saes that he always ( actually is sometimes ) buy stuffs for me and I seldom buy stuffs for him. all he request for me is to buy a functional bicycle for myself for my own good yet I cannot do it.

my situation is alittle bit similar to you.. as in my SO prefer to use his brain, i prefer not to use my brain. coz use too much brain will cause premature aging  :P  so he always decide stuffs, and i just tag along (i pretty fine with it as long as is not financial related)

we can't really gauge who buy who more stuffs. coz generally he pays for grocery, meals, entertainment, holidays, big item stuffs like washing machine, vacuum cleaner, etc. i pays for anything related to the house (since i'm the sole owner), his clothes, pants, undies & those small item stuffs...

i guess the main difference is he knows that i hate people nags at me. for your case, i find it consider nagging. my concept is if you think something is good for me, then go ahead & buy/ do it for me. don't come and nag at me 10000005 times. actually anything he repeat more than 3 times is nagging. if i didn't do it (because i plain lazy or just forgot about it or just can't be bother) means is not that significant for me to take action.

so now my SO either do / buy whatever he thinks his smart brain determines. or he just leave me alone  :P

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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #122 on: December 10, 2015, 10:20:21 am »
my situation is alittle bit similar to you.. as in my SO prefer to use his brain, i prefer not to use my brain. coz use too much brain will cause premature aging  :P  so he always decide stuffs, and i just tag along (i pretty fine with it as long as is not financial related)

we can't really gauge who buy who more stuffs. coz generally he pays for grocery, meals, entertainment, holidays, big item stuffs like washing machine, vacuum cleaner, etc. i pays for anything related to the house (since i'm the sole owner), his clothes, pants, undies & those small item stuffs...

i guess the main difference is he knows that i hate people nags at me. for your case, i find it consider nagging. my concept is if you think something is good for me, then go ahead & buy/ do it for me. don't come and nag at me 10000005 times. actually anything he repeat more than 3 times is nagging. if i didn't do it (because i plain lazy or just forgot about it or just can't be bother) means is not that significant for me to take action.

so now my SO either do / buy whatever he thinks his smart brain determines. or he just leave me alone  :P

yeah I was telling him since u think bike is gd for me why dun u get for me. den I won't hv to fret over design since I'm no longer the buyer and will nt hv buyer criteria.
den he say I'm materialistic. lol.
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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #123 on: December 10, 2015, 10:46:36 am »
yeah I was telling him since u think bike is gd for me why dun u get for me. den I won't hv to fret over design since I'm no longer the buyer and will nt hv buyer criteria.
den he say I'm materialistic. lol.

u tell him is not materialistic, is you lazy to think & decide  :P


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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #124 on: December 10, 2015, 12:45:11 pm »
uncle...let her rant ba...no matter what, she is not looking for a solution but a place to vent. This kind of things only she knows well and only she can help herself..

LOL .... okies .... okies .... I let her rant ...... :P
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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #125 on: December 10, 2015, 12:45:34 pm »
"A man who has depths in his shame meets his destiny and his delicate decisions upon paths which few ever reach."

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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #126 on: December 10, 2015, 04:38:55 pm »
my point exactly .....  :-X

he always call me boss.
seem like I the subordinate?  lol
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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #127 on: December 10, 2015, 04:40:47 pm »
LOL .... okies .... okies .... I let her rant ...... :P

u wan me to fry the boss cuttlefish is it.
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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #128 on: December 10, 2015, 05:24:01 pm »
u wan me to fry the boss cuttlefish is it.
it depends on where the balance of power is skewed ... towards him or towards you .... :-X
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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #129 on: December 20, 2015, 03:37:25 pm »
like if he wants me to get insured.. I have to get it after incessant nagging.. though it's for my own gd. and I did get it in the end.

if he wants me to cycle with him den I have to buy a new bike .. but he's not comfortable with me dragging purchase to find a design I like. (i have bought one few months ago due to his chasing and cz I bought on impulse the bike does not fit my frame I resold at a loss. now he's bugging me to buy again)

and den if he n his family go overseas. he will be angry if I didn't go with him n I dun have the freedom of choice to choose even if I'm paying for my own tics?

I find it quite ridiculous.

I mean do you guys do these too.. hving to tag along travelling for countries u dun want to visit just to accompany ur so? den going by the family planning even if u dun prefer to do these activities.

I'm so not used to all these for long and I have had the abundance of freedom when I'm in my own family for 20 over yrs. whether to buy thgs or NOT. whether to go trips tgt or NOT. even if it were a sponsored trip I have the freedom to choose whether to go. nw if it's nt sponsored I should hv freedom of choice also right?

this is his personality and it is not going to change.

if you can tolerate this for life, then continue with the relationship.

if this is not something you can take, then end it early. a woman's youth is not forever.

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« Reply #130 on: March 16, 2016, 09:31:17 am »
my situation is alittle bit similar to you.. as in my SO prefer to use his brain, i prefer not to use my brain. coz use too much brain will cause premature aging  :P  so he always decide stuffs, and i just tag along (i pretty fine with it as long as is not financial related)

we can't really gauge who buy who more stuffs. coz generally he pays for grocery, meals, entertainment, holidays, big item stuffs like washing machine, vacuum cleaner, etc. i pays for anything related to the house (since i'm the sole owner), his clothes, pants, undies & those small item stuffs...

i guess the main difference is he knows that i hate people nags at me. for your case, i find it consider nagging. my concept is if you think something is good for me, then go ahead & buy/ do it for me. don't come and nag at me 10000005 times. actually anything he repeat more than 3 times is nagging. if i didn't do it (because i plain lazy or just forgot about it or just can't be bother) means is not that significant for me to take action.

so now my SO either do / buy whatever he thinks his smart brain determines. or he just leave me alone  :P

typical new generation singlish men-in-skirts behavior.....no wonder singlish girls CMI

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Re: always in conflict w so over freedom of choice
« Reply #131 on: March 16, 2016, 09:31:51 am »
yeah I was telling him since u think bike is gd for me why dun u get for me. den I won't hv to fret over design since I'm no longer the buyer and will nt hv buyer criteria.
den he say I'm materialistic. lol.

singlish girls are materialistic...no wonder there are more MGTOW.....what a sllut you are ....

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« Reply #132 on: March 16, 2016, 09:33:11 am »
this is his personality and it is not going to change.

if you can tolerate this for life, then continue with the relationship.

if this is not something you can take, then end it early. a woman's youth is not forever.

that is the reason why no singlish guys nor even a western guy like me will accept you as part of the family....typical men-in-skirts behavior....no wonder the MGTOW is the best, i get to have sexx and others...unlike you....what a sllut...