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Afraid of losing my virginity
« on: May 20, 2019, 11:42:47 am »
I do not want to be a virgin into my 40s or reaching 50 but I am struggling to come to terms with losing my virginity.

It’s like part of my identity and I am afraid of becoming another person. And then I am worried I will grow clingy to my first partner and unable to let go when the relationship end.

I guess it sorta pushes me away from the opposite sex and self-sabotage any progress when the other party make advances.


How should I deal with this anxiety? Just get it over and done with for the first time?


I would like to be exclusive for the person I marrying but it is like no ones want to handle an inexperienced person.

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Re: Afraid of losing my virginity
« Reply #1 on: May 21, 2019, 04:26:48 pm »
Ermmm .... virginity is part of identity meh?  .... I think you've got it the wrong way around mister.  Values part of identity... virginity not ....  :-X
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Re: Afraid of losing my virginity
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2019, 01:38:49 am »
I do not want to be a virgin into my 40s or reaching 50 but I am struggling to come to terms with losing my virginity.

It’s like part of my identity and I am afraid of becoming another person. And then I am worried I will grow clingy to my first partner and unable to let go when the relationship end.

I guess it sorta pushes me away from the opposite sex and self-sabotage any progress when the other party make advances.


How should I deal with this anxiety? Just get it over and done with for the first time?


I would like to be exclusive for the person I marrying but it is like no ones want to handle an inexperienced person.


dear sir or miss, if you really getting anxiety over this, can consider contacting me https://www.facebook.com/LeeMcKingTheHypnotist

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Re: Afraid of losing my virginity
« Reply #3 on: May 22, 2019, 11:56:06 pm »
I do not want to be a virgin into my 40s or reaching 50 but I am struggling to come to terms with losing my virginity.

It’s like part of my identity and I am afraid of becoming another person. And then I am worried I will grow clingy to my first partner and unable to let go when the relationship end.

I guess it sorta pushes me away from the opposite sex and self-sabotage any progress when the other party make advances.


How should I deal with this anxiety? Just get it over and done with for the first time?


I would like to be exclusive for the person I marrying but it is like no ones want to handle an inexperienced person.

What's your age?
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Re: Afraid of losing my virginity
« Reply #4 on: May 23, 2019, 08:07:20 am »
What's your age?

I think also important to understand if Male or Female.... before we try to cure his or her virginity...   :-\
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Re: Afraid of losing my virginity
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2019, 06:21:08 pm »
I think also important to understand if Male or Female.... before we try to cure his or her virginity...   :-\

I'm such a worrier I have worried abt almost everything under the sun and I've actually missed this out lol.  :-X
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Re: Afraid of losing my virginity
« Reply #6 on: May 27, 2019, 10:45:52 pm »
I'm such a worrier I have worried abt almost everything under the sun and I've actually missed this out lol.  :-X

I'm such a problem solver that sometimes I neglect to mention my curative abilities for virginity if ever it were an intractable issue......  :-\ .... oh woe is me ....  :-[
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