*

Jas1591

  • *
  • Fresh Petal
  • 5 0
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #15 on: October 16, 2015, 04:41:20 am »
Yes I bought things for her. But why did she want to kiss me when she's engaged? I don't understand..

I think from what you wrote, this girl just making use of you, manipulating you to get best of 2 'boat' until u wanted to 'up' the status between u and her... Then she felt that things she is hiding from you might be exposed.. So she block you.
It's just my wild Guess.

*

petalbytes

Re: Advise needed
« Reply #16 on: October 16, 2015, 10:34:26 am »
I think from what you wrote, this girl just making use of you, manipulating you to get best of 2 'boat' until u wanted to 'up' the status between u and her... Then she felt that things she is hiding from you might be exposed.. So she block you.
It's just my wild Guess.

won't be the first case!

*

SGJoke

  • *
  • Fresh Petal
  • 9 -3
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #17 on: October 16, 2015, 10:37:38 am »
you had your fun and it's time to move on.

*

JFlower

  • **
  • Junior Petal
  • 90 4
  • ~Sakura~
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #18 on: October 16, 2015, 10:41:58 am »
4k @ 24 is consider very decent?

or am I wrong?

You just met the wrong girl :(
Losing faith


*

KopiSiewDai

  • **
  • Junior Petal
  • 60 -3
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #19 on: October 18, 2015, 05:16:47 am »
It is time to let it go
I give everyone likes!

*

Commach

  • *
  • Fresh Petal
  • 10 0
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #20 on: October 18, 2015, 11:14:29 am »
i think i can resolve most of your 'interstellar mysteries', but i hope this is not a troll thread, i will come back to that later.

Hi, I'm currently 24, earning a pathetic 4k per month, no house, no car.

Met this girl one year ago, things went on quite good, went out a lot of times. Well, she doesn't allow me to hold her hands in public, but when we're watching movie in the cinema, she will hold my hands and kiss me. When she was trying on a new pair of shoes/heels, I'm will help her to tie it and wear it. So one fine day, I asked her to be my gf, she rejected saying that she's not ready. Fine. I wait. Till 2 months ago, we went out again as usual, hold hands in the cinema kiss.. Then I ask her again. This time she told me, she's not ready yet. So I angry and told her off. Saying that please don't contact me anymore.

One month later, I called her and told her I missed her. After that day, she blocked me on every social media. The last message to me was "I'm engaged"

Can I ask why girls can change so easily? Within a month got engaged .. Is that possible?

Oh forget to mention, she is very materialistic. Always want this want that. But I love her..

at a grand age of early 20s, most people with conventional upbringing tend to have a very..rudimentary (some might call it fixated) perspective about 'couple in love'. these people think that means going out, holding hands, making out, gifting, basically doing nice sweet things for each other. No.

Not everyone reads Relationship = Love.

Go think a bit on that and it should dawn on u. Otherwise, keep learning as you keep falling.

Cutting to the short story, she dont love u. She is still scouting. She might think u are sweet and rather, genuine about "lovingness", but at the same time, because of her experiences, she exploit those very qualities of u. When i say her experiences, I'd say, she is either very used (go think on that abit more, I dont want to taint anyone's dream princess), or she has a very bloated sense of her self. Somehow she feels she is always entitled to get away with anything she wants. In other words, u had been a ken doll and ken dolls do not talk back at their Mistress. She block u to get u to know u burst ur own dream..I believe if u never exploded, we wont be seeing ur post today, u would still be in lala land..the ways she's ok with it. she could have continued playing along whatever u guys are doing, without a shred of conscience..or love.  i also believe u are feeling down, becos suddenly u not only lost a "love", but as men usually mistake, missing the physical aspects of this "love". U know I know We know what we are talking about so lets move on.

We even had sex with each other .. And still I'm a spare tyre ?

If it were to make u feel a little better, u r not exactly a spar...eh wait. Sorry. Yes. U are a spare tyre of sorts.

In your words, there seems a hint U miss the physical part of your 'love'. Even we get that, imagine she read you like an open book.

And thats also why she block u out. huh wtf? becos she wants to pass u 2 messages. But first console yourself, it is normal for young men with countable romantic experiences to NOT figure out immediately what women are actually talking about.

I dont need YOU to get a high.

YOU need me, but too bad you didnt know the underlying economics of our (not relationship) companionship and push your luck, but NOW YOU KNOW. GO WHINE ON IT. (Assuming this story is real, there's a certain chance shes reading all this and smirking on ti right now)

[Oh one last pt to make, going back to the part about conventional upbringing and rudimentary perspective of love blah blah, I agreed with some gals that modern guys these days seems ALMOST weak to STILL think that sex can hold a woman back..just like as if sex can hold a man back. HAHAHHAHAHA. OH PLS STOP HANGING ARD TOO LONG IN STARBUCKS.]

Why does money always matters? Why can't it be a simple happy relationship without money issue...

Relationship can be bought with money.

Relationship can also not be bought by money.

I am quite certain I KNOW that by now.

Your case here. Whilst she likes that you are willing to spend on her, she does not even want u to BEGIN to think that as a way to bind her.

Well, at least good to know now you are chauvinistic. But that said, its a 2edge sword.

As I learnt. Be careful of chauvinistic men. Be careful of not chauvinistic men.
Too much or too little of anything will thwart it.


i'm so sad that she wants to leave me

Get this. She is never with you, so how can she ever leave u?

At most, she might miss the insistent doting and utter obedience (before the telling off).

As for you, dont worry, we know what you MISS.


Yes I bought things for her. But why did she want to kiss me when she's engaged? I don't understand..

Young Men ah. sign...they take literal words too literally.

When she say engaged, she do not mean in body. she mean in mind. and no, shes not lying, for once shes talking the truth (or very close). shes engaged with something or someone in her mind. maybe she has new target whom shes toying now or that real someone shes planting her real hopes upon. or she could be just starting a new pilates class with that hot instructor. and part of the fun of her engagement whatever it is, is YOU WILL NEVER KNOW. heehee

Oh about the kissing part, some women has an occasional carnivorous binge to balance the usual vegan diet. Even Geylang has its reason for some men. You are her Geylang during her dry spell. [tho i am not sure if you are exactly upset about that]



SUMMARY: Threadstarter did not know he was in a friend with benefits arrangement until he voluntarily kick his ownself out of it. Now he is gonna continue kicking himself for a while longer.

BONUS TIPPER: Some women loves a hard foreplay. huh wtf again?? She wants to be courted. If she no longer respond to any your pokes (ahem), it is time to let go and grow to 25.

ALL these said. if there is any trolling elements in this thread, then whoever does it deserve to stay online.
« Last Edit: October 18, 2015, 11:16:37 am by Commach »

*

Tao Jiak

  • **
  • Junior Petal
  • 98 0
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #21 on: October 20, 2015, 12:25:02 am »
Hi, I'm currently 24, earning a pathetic 4k per month, no house, no car.

Met this girl one year ago, things went on quite good, went out a lot of times. Well, she doesn't allow me to hold her hands in public, but when we're watching movie in the cinema, she will hold my hands and kiss me. When she was trying on a new pair of shoes/heels, I'm will help her to tie it and wear it. So one fine day, I asked her to be my gf, she rejected saying that she's not ready. Fine. I wait. Till 2 months ago, we went out again as usual, hold hands in the cinema kiss.. Then I ask her again. This time she told me, she's not ready yet. So I angry and told her off. Saying that please don't contact me anymore.

One month later, I called her and told her I missed her. After that day, she blocked me on every social media. The last message to me was "I'm engaged"

Can I ask why girls can change so easily? Within a month got engaged .. Is that possible?

Oh forget to mention, she is very materialistic. Always want this want that. But I love her..

This girl is cheating behind her fiance. She pretend to be single to know you better so if u are better, she might break off her fiance. If u are lousier, she cut u lose.

I say u suay lor kena played by her. Girls' are not the angels u imagine them to be.

*

Maserati4

  • *
  • Fresh Petal
  • 42 1
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #22 on: October 20, 2015, 01:22:15 am »
I bet she had a boyfriend all along thats why she dont wanna be in a relationship with u and dont wanna hold your hand in public. She enjoys the attention u gave to her. but nothing more. I would say, good riddance!

*

Tao Jiak

  • **
  • Junior Petal
  • 98 0
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #23 on: October 20, 2015, 02:01:09 am »
I bet she had a boyfriend all along thats why she dont wanna be in a relationship with u and dont wanna hold your hand in public. She enjoys the attention u gave to her. but nothing more. I would say, good riddance!

She is evaluating TS while cheating behind her fiance/BF. She only think about herself, she didn't think about the time and effort u invested in her. If TS wan revenge, he can try to let her BF know. Show him ur text msgs. Evidence very important, text msg must always keep until confirmed useless. Haha.

Revenge is the best dish served cold!

Btw she block u to cover her tracks.

A note of advice: Always check with a girl whether she have a BF/fiance. Observe her behaviour, if she is acting suspicious and giving u excuses for time constraint (#1 reason) or some weird selective "rule" (i.e. cant hold hands but can hold sometimes), high chance she is cheating.
« Last Edit: October 20, 2015, 03:22:43 am by Tao Jiak »

*

Maserati4

  • *
  • Fresh Petal
  • 42 1
    • View Profile
Re: Advise needed
« Reply #24 on: October 20, 2015, 01:14:30 pm »
She is evaluating TS while cheating behind her fiance/BF. She only think about herself, she didn't think about the time and effort u invested in her. If TS wan revenge, he can try to let her BF know. Show him ur text msgs. Evidence very important, text msg must always keep until confirmed useless. Haha.

Revenge is the best dish served cold!

Btw she block u to cover her tracks.

A note of advice: Always check with a girl whether she have a BF/fiance. Observe her behaviour, if she is acting suspicious and giving u excuses for time constraint (#1 reason) or some weird selective "rule" (i.e. cant hold hands but can hold sometimes), high chance she is cheating.
Yea but oh well, lesson learnt for TS i guess. Girls of today are not the same as before ::) duuno now is who cheating who hahaha