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[WOT] Guys and girls can't have a platonic friendship?
« on: November 05, 2015, 05:13:55 pm »
Sometimes I feel that it's difficult to maintain a platonic friendship with my female friends. An example would be when you just show some care and concern to them and they will start to fall in love with you.

Used to have this female colleague which I am quite close with during work but didn't really progress as I don't have the bf gf feel for her. So I didn't want to mislead her and went ahead to friendzone her by calling her sister.  :-\

So back to the story, sometimes I will buy her sweets and drinks back from lunch to treat her which I also did for many other colleagues. And there was once she fell sick at work and I decided to show my care as a friend and went to buy a herbal tea for her during lunch break. As she looked really sick so I offered to send her home on that day and she accepted.

After she reached home, I received a text msg from her saying "How I wished I am not your sister" which stunned me for a second. I replied her telling her not to joke and go take a rest. Deep down I know she really meant it.

I have already taken my steps to make it clear that I treated her just like a sister however it seems I still can't prevent her from liking me.

Is it really true that guy and girl can never have a platonic relationship?  :-[

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« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2015, 05:16:41 pm »
Its your actions that are misleading lah...

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« Reply #2 on: November 05, 2015, 06:22:51 pm »
Didnt look at 1stpost, but you truly get into a platonic friendship, is when the guy has already became a "sister" !

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« Reply #3 on: November 05, 2015, 07:38:12 pm »
Your actions are misleading her already. If you treat her so nice when she's vulnerable, it's even easier for her to fall in love with you.


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« Reply #4 on: November 05, 2015, 09:06:50 pm »
Your actions are misleading her already. If you treat her so nice when she's vulnerable, it's even easier for her to fall in love with you.

Its your actions that are misleading lah...

I have made it clear to her by telling her I treated her like a sister. She still can be mistaken by my actions? :-[ :-[

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« Reply #5 on: November 06, 2015, 08:04:39 am »
I have made it clear to her by telling her I treated her like a sister. She still can be mistaken by my actions? :-[ :-[

Of coz lah.
Haven't you heard of "action speaks louder than words"?
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« Reply #6 on: November 06, 2015, 09:38:20 am »
some one trying to say. he is in high demand.

Don't know real a not.  ::)

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« Reply #7 on: November 06, 2015, 10:12:23 am »
I think that's quite equivalent to friendzone. If you know she's interested in you then try not to give her mix signals?

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« Reply #8 on: November 06, 2015, 11:58:28 am »
I think it is okay. So long as one knows when to makan and when not to makan .... don't gal lose mind long time ....
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« Reply #9 on: November 06, 2015, 04:25:43 pm »
Sometimes I feel that it's difficult to maintain a platonic friendship with my female friends. An example would be when you just show some care and concern to them and they will start to fall in love with you.

Used to have this female colleague which I am quite close with during work but didn't really progress as I don't have the bf gf feel for her. So I didn't want to mislead her and went ahead to friendzone her by calling her sister.  :-\

So back to the story, sometimes I will buy her sweets and drinks back from lunch to treat her which I also did for many other colleagues. And there was once she fell sick at work and I decided to show my care as a friend and went to buy a herbal tea for her during lunch break. As she looked really sick so I offered to send her home on that day and she accepted.

After she reached home, I received a text msg from her saying "How I wished I am not your sister" which stunned me for a second. I replied her telling her not to joke and go take a rest. Deep down I know she really meant it.

I have already taken my steps to make it clear that I treated her just like a sister however it seems I still can't prevent her from liking me.

Is it really true that guy and girl can never have a platonic relationship?  :-[

no leh...my bffs all females leh.....
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« Reply #10 on: November 06, 2015, 05:15:01 pm »
no leh...my bffs all females leh.....

I also find it easier to communicate with the opposite sex...

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« Reply #11 on: November 06, 2015, 05:58:11 pm »
"A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy."
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« Reply #12 on: November 06, 2015, 08:45:44 pm »
"A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy."

@beaverjuice to summarise it shorter, the ugly truth :o
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« Reply #13 on: November 06, 2015, 09:00:23 pm »
Didn't read your WOT but from your thread title, I kinda agree, especially if one party is already attached, it's very dangerous :(
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« Reply #14 on: November 06, 2015, 11:20:44 pm »
@beaverjuice to summarise it shorter, the ugly truth :o
@MistralAstra - i've had a hard time convincing the wifey otherwise ....  :'(
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