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« Reply #15 on: September 21, 2018, 07:26:04 pm »
But always rmb once a benchmark is set, it cannot go lower









Nowadays dating is like formal job interview like dat, must write so formal letter.. ???

Of course must also manage expectations abit ..... once fish bite can slowly slowly reel in liao .... hur hur hur hur  :P
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Re: [AMA] Dating 101s. For Guys or girls who is clueless on how to date
« Reply #16 on: September 22, 2018, 12:43:38 am »
Because can hei sho hei sho izzzziiiiiiiiiit ? ???  :o >:(

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« Reply #17 on: October 22, 2018, 11:41:31 am »
one thing i realised as i grow older, is that the more handsome the guy is, the higher chance he will be single after age 35...

almost all my friends who are ordinary looking or not handsome.. are happily married with kids.

and those who are singles- high chance they are single.
some have little or no dating experience.

very interesting observation.
i can guess that they are less sociable as they don't have to be sociable to get female attention when they are young.
what do you think?

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« Reply #18 on: October 22, 2018, 12:19:31 pm »
one thing i realised as i grow older, is that the more handsome the guy is, the higher chance he will be single after age 35...

almost all my friends who are ordinary looking or not handsome.. are happily married with kids.

and those who are singles- high chance they are single.
some have little or no dating experience.

very interesting observation.
i can guess that they are less sociable as they don't have to be sociable to get female attention when they are young.
what do you think?

Explaining a Cornerstone of Game Theory: John Nash’s Equilibrium
The film “A Beautiful Mind,” based on Dr. Nash’s life, tries to explain game theory in a scene in which Russell Crowe, playing Dr. Nash, is at a bar with three friends, and they are all enraptured by a beautiful blond woman who walks in with four brunette friends

While his friends banter about which of them would successfully woo the blonde, Dr. Nash concludes they should do the opposite: Ignore her. “If we all go for the blonde,” he says, “we block each other and not a single one of us is going to get her. So then we go for her friends, but they will all give us the cold shoulder because nobody likes to be second choice. But what if no one goes to the blonde? We don’t get in each other’s way and we don’t insult the other girls. That’s the only way we win.”



the handsome guy gets left on the shelf .....


PS:  also don't discount the likelihood that they are gay also ..... :-X


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Re: [AMA] Dating 101s. For Guys or girls who is clueless on how to date
« Reply #19 on: October 22, 2018, 06:44:12 pm »
If I have my first date, I plan to take her to hawker centres, but I don't know what does it mean by wrong impression? ???

happyshar got it right... why would u want to sweat it out.
it does not have to be an expensive meal, but don't need go down to hawker center. sweating may make you uncomfortable.

i will suggest fast food restaurants like five fingers or Mos Burger or some small casual restaurants (if u have slightly more budget)
like some thai food, or dingtaifong. all quite reasonable probably only $20-$30 per pax.
if possible, offer to pay for her food, but if she insist, let her be. Usually what I will say is let me pay for the food, maybe you pay for coffee or dessert later :)

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« Reply #20 on: October 22, 2018, 06:46:16 pm »
Yupz.... score on the dessert part ... jiayous okies ....
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« Reply #21 on: November 22, 2018, 04:51:12 pm »
The key to first few dates is treat her as a friend you want to meet for a 2nd time.
don't be shy or nervous. Be more confident.
Afte all, girls like confident guys. You are only here as a friend, so don't worry or be too nervous on other stuff.... don't over think.

Ok I am going to reveal the biggest KEY TO FIRST DATE. What is the beautiful question (concept) that you can ask in a date that will let her enjoy the date and go out with you for a 2nd time.

1) Tell me more about yourself.

Yup. Most of us worry about what to say to the date. how to impress the date. how to score.
Forget it, the key is to let the date tell us more about himself/herself.

This is true whether you are the girl or guy in a date. Let the other party talks about himself / herself

Listen. Understand.
This is far more useful than talking and talking and talking.
and of course, participate if he/she ask you questions or ask you to tell more on yourself, but always shift the attention back to him/ her

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« Reply #22 on: November 22, 2018, 06:48:58 pm »
Treat her as if she is invisible .... target the chio friend next to her and make her sum si si ... :-*

Can upz de once u have the quan ...
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« Reply #23 on: December 19, 2018, 09:33:47 pm »
one thing i realised as i grow older, is that the more handsome the guy is, the higher chance he will be single after age 35...

almost all my friends who are ordinary looking or not handsome.. are happily married with kids.

and those who are singles- high chance they are single.
some have little or no dating experience.

very interesting observation.
i can guess that they are less sociable as they don't have to be sociable to get female attention when they are young.
what do you think?

I wanted to type a wall of text but I think I can summarise with very often guys who are extremely good looking display Machiavellian traits
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« Reply #24 on: December 19, 2018, 10:22:07 pm »
I wanted to type a wall of text but I think I can summarise with very often guys who are extremely good looking display Machiavellian traits

You mean look like italian guy izzziiiiit? ....

Or look like Lee Kuan Yew? ???
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« Reply #25 on: December 23, 2018, 06:27:55 pm »
You mean look like italian guy izzziiiiit? ....

Or look like Lee Kuan Yew? ???

"Machiavellianism in psychology refers to a personality trait which sees a person so focused on their own interests they will manipulate, deceive, and exploit others to achieve their goals. Machiavellianism is one of the traits in what is called the 'Dark Triad', the other two being narcissism and psychopathy."
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« Reply #26 on: December 23, 2018, 11:47:15 pm »
"Machiavellianism in psychology refers to a personality trait which sees a person so focused on their own interests they will manipulate, deceive, and exploit others to achieve their goals. Machiavellianism is one of the traits in what is called the 'Dark Triad', the other two being narcissism and psychopathy."

How about xmm manipulating one to buy them drinks ... :-\
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« Reply #27 on: December 30, 2018, 09:18:41 pm »
How about xmm manipulating one to buy them drinks ... :-\

Means gian png?
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Re: [AMA] Dating 101s. For Guys or girls who is clueless on how to date
« Reply #28 on: December 30, 2018, 09:37:56 pm »
"if you cannot love yourself, how do others love you?"

from this, there are a few ways of interpretation

know your strengths, and be confident in them. don't think they are unworthy in other's eyes. for example, if the topic of hobbies pop up, i say I'm good in chess. and when the girl likes chess too, we get a conversation going. even if she doesn't, this particular skill could show whether I'm intelligent, and yea, some might think I'm a nerd. so be it. if she likes nerds, great, if she doesn't, I wouldn't want to pretend otherwise anyway.

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« Reply #29 on: December 31, 2018, 12:16:41 am »
Last time i mentioned to a girl that i'm good at playing chinese chest, i got slapped ...  :-[
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